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Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Thu October 27, 2022 7:42pmReport post

So,

Ive decided to separate from my partner... His alcoholism and mental stability are not okay.. and I've finally come to the conclusion that I can't anymore... I value myself too much to put myself through a life of ups and downs...

It's nothing to do with his crime... And I'll always support him there... It's his addiction and mental health...

I do worry about him... I'm his only friend alongside his parents...

Hes just starting to find himself and then has a bad day... And cannot handle it... And I do feel for him. Having a brain that works differently from Nuerodiversity is honestly the worst thing... But I refuse to put myself at the behest of someone that cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore...

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

634 posts

Posted Thu October 27, 2022 9:14pmReport post

Blackhound

I'm sure this will have been a very big decision for you. You have to put yourself first and foremost in order to be fit and strong enough to support your person, and it sounds like that is exactly what you are doing. It doesn't sound like he is helping you to help him, if you know what I mean.

Wishing you all the best in this new stage of your life.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Fri October 28, 2022 9:57pmReport post

Blackhound,

I'm sorry that it's come to this but I absolutely understand. I've spoken before about my ex who had addiction issues and I tried so very hard to help and put him above myself for a long time before I was drained, humiliated and financially drained before I left. That was 5 years ago and he's no better sadly. As much as I felt guilty leaving when I had no doubt he would not get better, I couldn't sacrifice my own mental health for another second. We have to stop helping those who choose not to help themselves sometimes. Sending love xx