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Never would you expect to be here the life before this journey
But we all have found a place to talk and not be judged
This journey impacts not only the offender but the whole family
It's a truly heartbreaking experience
I wish my son could have opened up and spoke to me but this is not something he could have spoken about
I have looked at my self why did I not know
But we don't why would we
The strength of each and everyone of us is truly unique
As is this journey
Take each day, one step at a time
There is no right or wrong you just have to do what is right for you
As a mum my love out weighs what he has done
His father wants nothing to do with him but his relationship was strained before this
I cant imagine for others with no support what it feels like
My son is a good person who got lost in this
Xx
But we all have found a place to talk and not be judged
This journey impacts not only the offender but the whole family
It's a truly heartbreaking experience
I wish my son could have opened up and spoke to me but this is not something he could have spoken about
I have looked at my self why did I not know
But we don't why would we
The strength of each and everyone of us is truly unique
As is this journey
Take each day, one step at a time
There is no right or wrong you just have to do what is right for you
As a mum my love out weighs what he has done
His father wants nothing to do with him but his relationship was strained before this
I cant imagine for others with no support what it feels like
My son is a good person who got lost in this
Xx
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Smile
We brought our sons into this world, we neutered and loved them
Yes it is a shit situation to be in
But we are here
A mothers love is unconditional
My son wouldn't talk to me he got pissed of when I tried to talk to him
But now we have such a close relationship and its the same as he has with his sister
But it took us to get to here
Heartbreaking xx
We brought our sons into this world, we neutered and loved them
Yes it is a shit situation to be in
But we are here
A mothers love is unconditional
My son wouldn't talk to me he got pissed of when I tried to talk to him
But now we have such a close relationship and its the same as he has with his sister
But it took us to get to here
Heartbreaking xx
I always relate to your posts so much from a Mom perspective.xx
Big hug and love to you both. You two are so genuine, your love and pain show in every post and so does your strength.x
Big hug and love to you both. You two are so genuine, your love and pain show in every post and so does your strength.x
Ps - I've looked for the mumsnet name post but I can't find it - I think a lot has been deleted since another member took a break (I really hope she comes back! Xx)
Pop it here if you feel like it - then delete x
Pop it here if you feel like it - then delete x
Upset mum and Smile
You are two wonderful women on here, always giving supportive words to others. I was thinking you are a bit like our adopted mums - although it's possible you may both be younger than me :)
You are two wonderful women on here, always giving supportive words to others. I was thinking you are a bit like our adopted mums - although it's possible you may both be younger than me :)
Polly are you on mumsnet?x
Bitterbean, Thank you as a mum you will always be there x I will be 56 next Birthday lol x
Bitterbean, Thank you as a mum you will always be there x I will be 56 next Birthday lol x
What lovely comments ladies - Thankyou.....'
Wonder who our oldest friend is in this forum - I'm 64 xxxx
Wonder who our oldest friend is in this forum - I'm 64 xxxx
Smile I have always wondered about your situation and how similar our journey are
We have bonded over the love for our sons even though we dont agree with what they have done
Our relationships with our sons is at the forefront of what been a mum means is about
Unconditional love no matter what xx
We have bonded over the love for our sons even though we dont agree with what they have done
Our relationships with our sons is at the forefront of what been a mum means is about
Unconditional love no matter what xx
I could easily give my son a slap after what he's put me through. But his lovely personality still shines with his unique sense of humour.
Tomo he has a medical appt - it could be for an eye test or tooth extraction. He's not sure what it's all about. Visions of him opening his mouth wide and them placing a letter chart in front of him to read.... we had a giggle about that one!
I know our calls make his day! Although we do get to address more serious stuff.
Tomo he has a medical appt - it could be for an eye test or tooth extraction. He's not sure what it's all about. Visions of him opening his mouth wide and them placing a letter chart in front of him to read.... we had a giggle about that one!
I know our calls make his day! Although we do get to address more serious stuff.
Smile that made me laugh xx
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Love you all xxxxxxx Granny Smile - til the day I meet my maker I will never forget this forum and how you wonderful people have supported me throughout this dreadful time.
At the beginning a dithering wreck but now (mostly) dealing with it. Thanks to you guys x
At the beginning a dithering wreck but now (mostly) dealing with it. Thanks to you guys x
Oh Smile xxxxxx
Neither appointment happened. Healthcare in prison is dire......
Smile,
I think so much is dire in prison to be honest xx
I think so much is dire in prison to be honest xx
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Evening Smile,
Petty much the same I think
He filed out his forms back in May for education they were returned last week as not completed fully!
He has 2 jobs one is repairing bicycles but they bring a reading book half the time as the trainer isn't great to teach and the other is metal work class again not stimulating but he gets paid a whopping £11 a week
The food has gone downhill he lives of chocolate and crisps so his energy levels are not great but his mental health is better than ot was he is back on antidepressants
I know its prison but honestly how does this help them! So frustrating x
Petty much the same I think
He filed out his forms back in May for education they were returned last week as not completed fully!
He has 2 jobs one is repairing bicycles but they bring a reading book half the time as the trainer isn't great to teach and the other is metal work class again not stimulating but he gets paid a whopping £11 a week
The food has gone downhill he lives of chocolate and crisps so his energy levels are not great but his mental health is better than ot was he is back on antidepressants
I know its prison but honestly how does this help them! So frustrating x
again it all boils down to staffing - if they are covered they have more time out, no staff more lock-up.
Nothing seems to move forward - no stimulation. I think it's the worst prison he's been in! But he's ok with the others, has his own cell, belongings so he's content enough it seems........
Ive treated him to a PS2 - lord knows when he'll get that!!!!!!
Nothing seems to move forward - no stimulation. I think it's the worst prison he's been in! But he's ok with the others, has his own cell, belongings so he's content enough it seems........
Ive treated him to a PS2 - lord knows when he'll get that!!!!!!
Hi.Smile,
Same.for.my son having his own space has been a godsend x
He just had a second hand xbox delivered it took about 5 wks from ordering to getting with 3 games , he hasn't been near any tech for over a year ,
Anything to.pass away some.time eh xx
Same.for.my son having his own space has been a godsend x
He just had a second hand xbox delivered it took about 5 wks from ordering to getting with 3 games , he hasn't been near any tech for over a year ,
Anything to.pass away some.time eh xx
Hi.Smile,
Same.for.my son having his own space has been a godsend x
He just had a second hand xbox delivered it took about 5 wks from ordering to getting with 3 games , he hasn't been near any tech for over a year ,
Anything to.pass away some.time eh xx
Same.for.my son having his own space has been a godsend x
He just had a second hand xbox delivered it took about 5 wks from ordering to getting with 3 games , he hasn't been near any tech for over a year ,
Anything to.pass away some.time eh xx
My lad reckons theres loads of dvds and games that get passed around and swopped.
I didn't particularly want him to have a console but if it keeps him sane - job done.
yhey certainly don't offer much stimulation do they?
I didn't particularly want him to have a console but if it keeps him sane - job done.
yhey certainly don't offer much stimulation do they?
Sorry to jump on this thread, but wondered how they get a Play Station - Do they save up spends? My person wants some red paper and some needles to do some crafting and it just seems impossible other than saving his spends up and putting in a app once a month. Wondered if I'd missed a way? We joke about all the things that could be smuggled into a prison is that all he wants is a needle, some red paper and a battery watch.
The ways of the prison are so extremely slow, inconsistent and frustrating.
The ways of the prison are so extremely slow, inconsistent and frustrating.
Hi Sal - my son is lucky I can afford to send him money! He also saves up what he earns as a gardener.
He's on enhanced status so allowed more stuff...... he buys his craft bits and extra clothes on his canteen. I only send him puzzle books etc. Which he has to wait an eternity to receive.....
They must make a whole lotta profit on the canteen system!
He's on enhanced status so allowed more stuff...... he buys his craft bits and extra clothes on his canteen. I only send him puzzle books etc. Which he has to wait an eternity to receive.....
They must make a whole lotta profit on the canteen system!
Hi Sal
The prison should have a catalogue for game consoles they are second hand and are brought thru there, I will.ask my son later we have a video call later x
I send money in via pay a prisoner and it goes in to there personal acc he can then draw down in to his canteen account I think its £30 a week then he gets paid for his prison job xx
The prison should have a catalogue for game consoles they are second hand and are brought thru there, I will.ask my son later we have a video call later x
I send money in via pay a prisoner and it goes in to there personal acc he can then draw down in to his canteen account I think its £30 a week then he gets paid for his prison job xx
I know my son hates asking me for money - tells me to take it out 'his' money at home - but I know he'll need every single penny he's got on release, so very reluctant to use it.
If it makes life more tolerable for him then that makes me happy......
If it makes life more tolerable for him then that makes me happy......
Hi Sal
Spoke to my son he said it depends on the prison he is at as they all have different rules if game consoles are permitted x
Evening Smile,
I am.the same my son had some money before he went to prison so I moved it to.a savings account and at money for his birthday etc he will need money for when he gets out xx
Spoke to my son he said it depends on the prison he is at as they all have different rules if game consoles are permitted x
Evening Smile,
I am.the same my son had some money before he went to prison so I moved it to.a savings account and at money for his birthday etc he will need money for when he gets out xx
Thank you Upset Mum, that's what I thought but I thought it was worth checking I'd not missed something. That's a lot of weeks savings! But all these things do help.
My person also doesn't want me spending my money, I do use some of his, but calls, letters, sending things in the only way I can show my love and support, so I do spend some of my own money. It must be so hard for those with no one on the outside to help.
My person also doesn't want me spending my money, I do use some of his, but calls, letters, sending things in the only way I can show my love and support, so I do spend some of my own money. It must be so hard for those with no one on the outside to help.
Hi SAL
We were saying that on our call earlier and it made me feel so sad , how some have no support at all x
We were saying that on our call earlier and it made me feel so sad , how some have no support at all x