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It's awful isnt it, you feel like it's the worst waiting then when it comes it hits you like a brick all over again. My partner was charged by post so I don't know if thats different. He will at least know exactly what he is charged with and hopefully recieve a court date (very soon if not on the day). The positive side of things is the wait is over, he can seek legal advise and soon court will be over and you can start to deal with it all whatever the outcome may be.

Chrissy



sorry I don’t have the answers, but sending you my love, I hope you have support too. It’s hard for both you and your husband xxx

Hi Chrissy72

I'm so sorry to hear that, it's just one thing after enough isn't it.

The charges are awful, it just seems to makes it all real somehow. Sorry it's not what you were expecting.

Although the end of May seems a lifetime away unfortunately it will soon be here!!

Keep coming on and drawing strength from everyone xx

Chrissy I’m so sorry for you, absolutely gut wrenching. However whilst it will be hard (getting even harder at times) it’s a step forward. I know that sounds nuts but it’s a step closer to this being over. There’s a long road ahead with many twists and turns to come but tick it of your list, you’ve survived the knock and you both know what you’re dealing with. The charges (indictment) may change yet, it often does. It changed 3 times in my husbands case. Deep breath, hold your nerve and good luck x

Chrissy

i know it’s awful and it not your fault. Your husband may need some mental health support see if he can get a gp appointment.



you will also need some support too.



i know it’s horrible honestly I had no idea my husband was doing this. It’s the consequences of his actions and I get that must crush him that he has caused you so much pain. All you can do is be kind to yourself and kind to him. If he wants to die he is having suicidal thoughts and anxiety you need some medical support.

is there a crisis team in your area? He must hit the criteria.



keep on reaching out. Your not alone I promise you xxx sending love and care xxx

It really is important to seek help. Did he see mental health team when he was arrested, he can call them they are available for support until court is over. Also like bethlou says its worth you both going to see your gp, they can help with either medication or point you both in the right direction for councelling and other support. It wont be easy but you can both get through this. Also if you can afford it he can go and speak to a solicitor, my partner felt better after talking it all over with the socilitor. In a way there is less help for partners but don't forget to look after yourself, as well as making sure he is Ok.

Chrissy I hope by now that you’ve managed to access some emergency mental health support? It’s very frightening when you experience a loved one (regardless of circumstances) express these thoughts. Let your husband know that this isn’t the end, he needs to keep looking towards the end of this whatever the outcome. Thoughts are with you both xx