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I am new to the forum and have been reading through a lot of the posts today. It’s incredibly sad to read so many people are going through such difficult times together but that’s there is finally a platform to speak to others who may actually understand.
It’s actually interesting to see people referring to the “knock”. My experience of the “knock” was that it was actually my dad not the police. It’s been over 5 years now but feels like yesterday when he knocked on my door to tell me he had been arrested for accessing (downloading and sharing) child images. As I then had children of 13 and 15 he had been advised to tell me that social services and the police would be in touch and he wasn’t allowed to see his grandchildren.
From that moment onwards I’ve not spoken to my dad since. He never made contact again and I haven’t reached out either. As far as I knew he was given a suspended sentence.
He will never realise what control he has had over me since that day. Depression, unable to keep my career moving and anxiety.
I’ve also been told this week that he’s received another allegation from the 1980’s which is now being investigated- the pain he has left with me makes me sick to Mun stomach. I will never forgive him.
I hope this forum brings some relief. It’s a taboo subject with limited discussion in the real world.
It’s actually interesting to see people referring to the “knock”. My experience of the “knock” was that it was actually my dad not the police. It’s been over 5 years now but feels like yesterday when he knocked on my door to tell me he had been arrested for accessing (downloading and sharing) child images. As I then had children of 13 and 15 he had been advised to tell me that social services and the police would be in touch and he wasn’t allowed to see his grandchildren.
From that moment onwards I’ve not spoken to my dad since. He never made contact again and I haven’t reached out either. As far as I knew he was given a suspended sentence.
He will never realise what control he has had over me since that day. Depression, unable to keep my career moving and anxiety.
I’ve also been told this week that he’s received another allegation from the 1980’s which is now being investigated- the pain he has left with me makes me sick to Mun stomach. I will never forgive him.
I hope this forum brings some relief. It’s a taboo subject with limited discussion in the real world.
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Thank you for your responses and support so far it’s so reassuring to hear.
My mum and dad divorced when I was 7 and continued to live with my mum until I was 15 then moved in with my father- he never remarried. I have sisters from a new relationship my Mother had and we are all close but they don’t really understand I don’t think anyone does until you have been through it. The guilt the shame the embarrassment the disgust just takes over.
With my husbands support I’m trying to take some positive steps and this forum is one and trying to speak out .. I don’t want him controlling my thoughts on this.
My mum and dad divorced when I was 7 and continued to live with my mum until I was 15 then moved in with my father- he never remarried. I have sisters from a new relationship my Mother had and we are all close but they don’t really understand I don’t think anyone does until you have been through it. The guilt the shame the embarrassment the disgust just takes over.
With my husbands support I’m trying to take some positive steps and this forum is one and trying to speak out .. I don’t want him controlling my thoughts on this.