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Hi guys hope your as well as can be . Few weeks on after senctaning and I still don't think I will ever feel the same again .
Still so much unknown . When will people see the media . When will they question me ect . Can I go to work and face hundreds of people . Social are yet to do an assessment I'm sure that will be horrible . And visors probation ect all seen to have issues and tell him he can't do anything .
He lost his phone the other day and his shift changed today for his meeting with probation woman he left a message but she was on leave so I asume they will see it as he's up to know good . They don't seem to be helpful or anything just tell him he can't go anywere and he said there always trying to make him say he's interested in children ect .
We can't move because we will have no money . I don't eveen know if I can work childcare will be my full wage gone. I can get help if I'm single with some costs but if he moved in I won't . And he really wants to move in to see the kids more but then I worry if ppl find out or maybe they know now but because he's not here they havnt kicked up a fuss . Sorry for the rambling just so many things a mess . Ino I have to get though it but I just don't see how this feeling will ever go and if I'll ever be happy again :( xxcx
Still so much unknown . When will people see the media . When will they question me ect . Can I go to work and face hundreds of people . Social are yet to do an assessment I'm sure that will be horrible . And visors probation ect all seen to have issues and tell him he can't do anything .
He lost his phone the other day and his shift changed today for his meeting with probation woman he left a message but she was on leave so I asume they will see it as he's up to know good . They don't seem to be helpful or anything just tell him he can't go anywere and he said there always trying to make him say he's interested in children ect .
We can't move because we will have no money . I don't eveen know if I can work childcare will be my full wage gone. I can get help if I'm single with some costs but if he moved in I won't . And he really wants to move in to see the kids more but then I worry if ppl find out or maybe they know now but because he's not here they havnt kicked up a fuss . Sorry for the rambling just so many things a mess . Ino I have to get though it but I just don't see how this feeling will ever go and if I'll ever be happy again :( xxcx
You cannot control who saw what or when. I feel resentful that I have to face people and my OH does not, but you have done nothing wrong. You need to keep saying that, as i myself forget. I get stressed about the restrictions and what needs to be done re the police and probation. I have to remind myself they are his restrictions not mine. It is upto to him to give the relevant information to the relevant people not you. It is not your problem to solve that your OH has lost his phone etc. I know this is easier said than done.
I do not want my OH here, but we cannot afford it financially. I would have to fund his place along with my home on one salary. So i have had to come to terms with what people maybe thinking about me. But as my councellor keeps telling me, what I do or dont do is my business and no one else. It is hard to keep that in mind when the anxieties are everywhere. Long term I have yet to make a decision.
I hope this helps. X
I do not want my OH here, but we cannot afford it financially. I would have to fund his place along with my home on one salary. So i have had to come to terms with what people maybe thinking about me. But as my councellor keeps telling me, what I do or dont do is my business and no one else. It is hard to keep that in mind when the anxieties are everywhere. Long term I have yet to make a decision.
I hope this helps. X
Wise words, Webb89.