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Jen0507

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November 2022

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Posted Wed November 9, 2022 5:22pmReport post

We got the knock back in July. the day my whole world turned upside down. We had just had an amazing weekend for our daughters birthday Couldnt be happier then 6.30am get woken up to 6 officers on my doorstep.

Husband has been arrested for talking to a girl under age and exchanging photos. He is currently Rui, and I have been told they are reviewing the information from his device's. Since that day my husband has been living elsewhere. This has been hard on our 11yr old daughter, she's had to deal with her dad moving out and starting secondary school in the space of a few months. We haven't told her the full details.

How do you cope day to day with waiting to hear what's happening?

I thought I was coping fairly well as had to be strong for our daughter but I am really starting to struggle. It doesn't help when his family believe he was tricked in to this and couldn't possibly be him. He has had a problem with chat sites for a while now. But they won't believe it.

If anyones partner has been arrested for the same sort of offense what has your outcome been?

Thank you x

Loulou22

Member since
October 2022

50 posts

Posted Wed November 9, 2022 6:03pmReport post

It's our adult son, rather than a partner Jen but still similar trauma. My heart goes out to you and to have the knock right after such a meaningful weekend is additionally triggering. Our knock came late September so I don't have advice re what to expect- just sending love.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Wed November 9, 2022 7:10pmReport post

Jen my oerson was arrested for solar offence, it was decoy march 21. We have just been to plea hearing a few weeks back to plead guilty. We no lo her live together but I've supported him as I k ow he's such a good man who did a bad thing. We were very happy too wedding booked, but he was in such a dark place at the time as was I due to his father dying and my sister too. The kne reason why I supported him us because he held his hands up from the start and accepted responsibility. We have sentencing early Dec it coukd go either way. Is your hi by doing any work on himsejf? Also please reach out to your gp, the help line or a trusted friend because its a bloody hard I still have bad days and ptsd, k. Meds and I've had counselling. Look after yourself x