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Crown court sentencing today - prison

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InTatters

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June 2022

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 4:38pmReport post

Had crown court sentencing today. Not convinced our barrister did the best job, but the judge was fair and considerate. He made it clear he had read and digested letter to court, 4x character references, evidence of courses completed (Engage plus and Safer Lives), log of therapy etc. The hearing took over one hour. Conclusion: 3 years custody (out in 18 months), SHPO and SOR. No press in the court so hope doesn't get picked up. After the torment, agony and absolute grinding horror and exhaustion of the past six months I feel weirdly OK. That may change, but nothing could have been worse than I had been feeling, and a lot of the worry has lifted. All things pass. There will be another side. Just because someone has a past doesn't mean they don't have a future.

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Daffodil

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 4:45pmReport post

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RIG22

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September 2022

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 5:07pmReport post

InTatters I so admire you courageous and positive outlook. Wishing you and your children a bright and beautiful future. Good luck. X

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 5:21pmReport post

InTatters

What an incredibly strong person you are

I am glad the judge took everything in to consideration and was fair

As much as we dont want this day to come at least you have finally got the outcome and know what you have to deal with

Keep the positivity and send strength to you and your family and take care

Hugs sent xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 5:32pmReport post

Hi everyone - me again - once court/sentencing is over it is a relief that stage has come to an end.

It's scary and heartbreaking but at least you know what's in front of you and you can battle forward.

your last sentence In Tatters - brilliant x

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Sarah ??

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January 2021

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 5:57pmReport post

My thoughts are with you. I was in this position exactly a year ago. Just released.

Look after yourself. Time will go quicker than you think.

If you have children contact children heard and seen and ask to join their sexual offending parent group.

X

loulou74

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September 2022

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 7:31pmReport post

Your post gives me hope that I can have a close relationship with my husband despite not wanting to continue our marriage. I'm glad you felt he got a fair outcome. It must be a relief to get that part done. Sentencing is coming up for us.

Forumread

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January 2022

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 7:59pmReport post

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing sentence. Helps to manage expectations for what my own husband might end up. Also think your comments are positive and very well put. At some point you have to accept it is so much better to move forward and deal with whatever the sentence is than to be stuck in limbo. Focusing on the future is good advice thank you for reminding me, and knowing there are others getting on and through such difficult times makes me feel less alone.

Bitterbean

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December 2021

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 8:06pmReport post

In Tatters

Gutted for you and impressed by your calmness. At least you feel he had a fair hearing. Good luck with the future and fingers crossed the media keep out of it

Newlady

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April 2021

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Posted Thu November 10, 2022 8:17pmReport post

I'm so sorry about the outcome, but wow I'm amazed and inspired by your strength, I'll keep that in my mind for sentencing next month xx

Sparrow

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Posted Fri November 11, 2022 7:09amReport post

InTatters

I admire your strength and resilience. While sorry about the outcome.

Similar situation for my OH (ex) but yet to receive charges. Still doing forensics and in a long waiting game.



like you we have found a way to co-parent and over time I have found a way to be more supportive.

much strength to you and your family. If you do use Children Seen and Not Heard I would be interested to hear how you find that route and support.