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Hi Devastated Dad,
I'm sorry you find yourself here. A confession at the Police station doesn't always mean that he cannot change what he says at a later date but it also doesn't mean that having been truthful it will impact him negatively. It very much depends on the outcome of the investigation and unfortunately, it does take a while when it comes to cases like this. There are many parents on this forum who support their children, please continue to check in and ask any questions you may have.
I would say absolutely wait to inform family members, a lot of family members and friends are not as supportive as they would like when it comes to crimes like this so allow your emotions to settle and perhaps see what happens with the Police investigation, although if you need support from people in your life then it is understandable.
I would seek a solicitor now, although it is unlikely they will be able to do anything proactive in regards to the case as the evidence and majority of the relevant information will only become available once and if charges are pressed. I would call a few and explain the situation and see who you like the "feel" of the best.
I wouldn't worry too much for the time being about moving although it is tempting. It only becomes more difficult to move post sentencing if they are found guilty.
You have done nothing wrong. I would like to think people would support you and hopefully it will not get to the stage where this situation becomes public knowledge. Right now it is a case of getting your head around things and settling from the initial shock, the first few weeks are flipping difficult to say the least but this process takes a while so please don't panic too much right now about trying to hide away etc.
Sending love & strength - you will get through this
I'm sorry you find yourself here. A confession at the Police station doesn't always mean that he cannot change what he says at a later date but it also doesn't mean that having been truthful it will impact him negatively. It very much depends on the outcome of the investigation and unfortunately, it does take a while when it comes to cases like this. There are many parents on this forum who support their children, please continue to check in and ask any questions you may have.
I would say absolutely wait to inform family members, a lot of family members and friends are not as supportive as they would like when it comes to crimes like this so allow your emotions to settle and perhaps see what happens with the Police investigation, although if you need support from people in your life then it is understandable.
I would seek a solicitor now, although it is unlikely they will be able to do anything proactive in regards to the case as the evidence and majority of the relevant information will only become available once and if charges are pressed. I would call a few and explain the situation and see who you like the "feel" of the best.
I wouldn't worry too much for the time being about moving although it is tempting. It only becomes more difficult to move post sentencing if they are found guilty.
You have done nothing wrong. I would like to think people would support you and hopefully it will not get to the stage where this situation becomes public knowledge. Right now it is a case of getting your head around things and settling from the initial shock, the first few weeks are flipping difficult to say the least but this process takes a while so please don't panic too much right now about trying to hide away etc.
Sending love & strength - you will get through this
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I am so sorry you find yourself here, So my advice like others is,
get a solicitor, there are certain ones that specialise in these crimes, I know it will kill you to say why you need one when speaking to them but remember it's their bread and butter and nothing will shock them.
Don't speak to the police and tell your son not to talk to them unless a solicitor present, even if you think they are being nice, They do not care about you or your son, they just want a charge.
prepare that it might be worse than what your son is saying as it is hard for them to admit the true extent.
Hold off on telling anyone as you are only at the beginning and our case from knock to sentence took 2 years (I know that's not what you want to here but it really does get easier over time)
With regards to if everyone finds out and if it gets to the media which ours did all over, It's not as bad as you imagine the worrying about it is worse, And believe me it's true what they say it's tomorrows chip paper, we have had no negative response if anything its people being overly nice and feeling sorry for you in my experience.
sending love xxx
get a solicitor, there are certain ones that specialise in these crimes, I know it will kill you to say why you need one when speaking to them but remember it's their bread and butter and nothing will shock them.
Don't speak to the police and tell your son not to talk to them unless a solicitor present, even if you think they are being nice, They do not care about you or your son, they just want a charge.
prepare that it might be worse than what your son is saying as it is hard for them to admit the true extent.
Hold off on telling anyone as you are only at the beginning and our case from knock to sentence took 2 years (I know that's not what you want to here but it really does get easier over time)
With regards to if everyone finds out and if it gets to the media which ours did all over, It's not as bad as you imagine the worrying about it is worse, And believe me it's true what they say it's tomorrows chip paper, we have had no negative response if anything its people being overly nice and feeling sorry for you in my experience.
sending love xxx
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Your story is so sad. It boggles my mind, just how much men loose when they enter into this world. My son has lost everything...,,
BUT we keep our chin up, bravely march forward with a positive heart.... keep strong....
BUT we keep our chin up, bravely march forward with a positive heart.... keep strong....
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Hi Devastateddad
I just wanted to add my message of support to you in addition to all the other wise messages. We had the knock 8 weeks ago. My son aged 25 was arrested and devices seized. He has been released under investigation. Like you say, it feels like hell on earth. It is difficult not to catastrophise about the future but I am trying to focus on what is in our control rather than worrying about what is not. I agree with all the advice you have been given by others. This forum has been a lifesaver. These offences are so isolating and we feel so alone, but we are not. Sending strength to you and your boy.
I just wanted to add my message of support to you in addition to all the other wise messages. We had the knock 8 weeks ago. My son aged 25 was arrested and devices seized. He has been released under investigation. Like you say, it feels like hell on earth. It is difficult not to catastrophise about the future but I am trying to focus on what is in our control rather than worrying about what is not. I agree with all the advice you have been given by others. This forum has been a lifesaver. These offences are so isolating and we feel so alone, but we are not. Sending strength to you and your boy.
Hi DevastedDad,
I just wanted to add a message of support to you.
I am also a parent and this is the hardest journey I've ever been on.
As others have said take care of yourself and make sure everything is done via the solicitor-the police are complete liars and only interested in convictions.
Sending strength to you and your son .
I just wanted to add a message of support to you.
I am also a parent and this is the hardest journey I've ever been on.
As others have said take care of yourself and make sure everything is done via the solicitor-the police are complete liars and only interested in convictions.
Sending strength to you and your son .
Hi DevastatedDad,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here.
I'm also a parent going through this, I've never felt this level of sadness before in my entire life and the waiting is so hard so don't forget about your own well being, look after yourself as well as your son. x
I'm so sorry you find yourself here.
I'm also a parent going through this, I've never felt this level of sadness before in my entire life and the waiting is so hard so don't forget about your own well being, look after yourself as well as your son. x
Devastateddad
Firstly well done for reaching out on here and sorry you have found yourself here but you will get the support and advice you need
As everyone has said dont make any rash decisions as yet, this journey can take such a long time
How is your son?
Reach out to the helpline and also they can recommend a therapist for your son
I am a mum so totally understand what you are going through
You are not alone so please reach out to us all
No matter how friendly the police seem they use that tactic to make you think they care, they dont so just look after both yourself and your son
Who you tell is entirely up to you but wait until you know what your son is been charged with
Sending strength and hugs x
Firstly well done for reaching out on here and sorry you have found yourself here but you will get the support and advice you need
As everyone has said dont make any rash decisions as yet, this journey can take such a long time
How is your son?
Reach out to the helpline and also they can recommend a therapist for your son
I am a mum so totally understand what you are going through
You are not alone so please reach out to us all
No matter how friendly the police seem they use that tactic to make you think they care, they dont so just look after both yourself and your son
Who you tell is entirely up to you but wait until you know what your son is been charged with
Sending strength and hugs x
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Hi,
Where your solicitor is from doesn't make a difference. If he is looking to change his name this should be done pre charges, so that should be the only name read out in court. It's not a guarantee but it maybe worth a try. My person (partner) was registered at his parents address, was reported in media but they've had no backlash. Every case is different but if pleading guilty it won't be a trial, it will be a plea hearing and a sentencing hearing with a psr report done by probation between the hearings.
Your son can work through modules online which should help him to understand how he has ended up here. I believe lff and stopso offer these for free. My person done the lff course post sentencing as he was in remand upto sentencing. He has found it helpful and I've done the one for family and friends and it has helped me too.
I told close friends and family within the first week, I don't regret this because I avoided that feeling guilty thing. All are supportive of me but my older children have decided not to have contact with him (he's not their dad). This does hurt but I've had to look at what they've seen me go through caused by his actions.
Maybe your son could call the helpline while he is back at yours to have some privacy and see what they would recommend. You will all come through this, your family dynamics may change because of it but all you can do as a parent is respect all of your childrens wishes and keep talking to your son. Show him he has a safe space in you, this will massively help him long term not to reoffend. Sending love and strength xxx
Where your solicitor is from doesn't make a difference. If he is looking to change his name this should be done pre charges, so that should be the only name read out in court. It's not a guarantee but it maybe worth a try. My person (partner) was registered at his parents address, was reported in media but they've had no backlash. Every case is different but if pleading guilty it won't be a trial, it will be a plea hearing and a sentencing hearing with a psr report done by probation between the hearings.
Your son can work through modules online which should help him to understand how he has ended up here. I believe lff and stopso offer these for free. My person done the lff course post sentencing as he was in remand upto sentencing. He has found it helpful and I've done the one for family and friends and it has helped me too.
I told close friends and family within the first week, I don't regret this because I avoided that feeling guilty thing. All are supportive of me but my older children have decided not to have contact with him (he's not their dad). This does hurt but I've had to look at what they've seen me go through caused by his actions.
Maybe your son could call the helpline while he is back at yours to have some privacy and see what they would recommend. You will all come through this, your family dynamics may change because of it but all you can do as a parent is respect all of your childrens wishes and keep talking to your son. Show him he has a safe space in you, this will massively help him long term not to reoffend. Sending love and strength xxx
Dear DD
I know exactly what you mean about feeling guilty when other people do not know. I saw a friend today and she was showing me photos of her grandchildren in the bath etc. I felt so ashamec but we have to remember that we have done NOTHING wrong.
Christmas is going to be tough and I'm just keeping it as low-key as possible. My other two won't come over as they will not be in their brother's company at this point. I hope this will change.
I would get a local solicitor if you can. They will know the ropes with local police/magistrates/barristers and judges. It varies massively from area to area and is very "cliquey " so you want someone who is in the clique.
Your son should definitely qualify for legal aid. As suggested by someone else, my son has applied to change his name and we hope that is the name they charge him in, if a charge/charges ensue. We hope against hope they don't read out our home address.
Hope you are ok as you can be this evening.
I know exactly what you mean about feeling guilty when other people do not know. I saw a friend today and she was showing me photos of her grandchildren in the bath etc. I felt so ashamec but we have to remember that we have done NOTHING wrong.
Christmas is going to be tough and I'm just keeping it as low-key as possible. My other two won't come over as they will not be in their brother's company at this point. I hope this will change.
I would get a local solicitor if you can. They will know the ropes with local police/magistrates/barristers and judges. It varies massively from area to area and is very "cliquey " so you want someone who is in the clique.
Your son should definitely qualify for legal aid. As suggested by someone else, my son has applied to change his name and we hope that is the name they charge him in, if a charge/charges ensue. We hope against hope they don't read out our home address.
Hope you are ok as you can be this evening.
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When my son came home that day after being arrested and I tried to put a hand on him to calm him, he sobbed not to touch him as he didn't deserve it. He was/is consumed by shame.
Hello
My son was 23 when he disclosed to viewing iioc's he didn't search for this material but viewing pornography led him down this terrible path. He self disclosed to me first then the police, he was open and honest, disclosed everything but with a solicitor present. He had one interview, i would encourage your son to be open and honest with his behaviour and what the police is likely to find on he PC , because it they find something else that he hasn't disclosed it will make things worse with regards to charges.
My son recieved a caution , it didn't reach court,not in the local papers, 2 years on SOR. 2 years down the line things are better although at times things can trigger awful memories of that dreaded day of discloser.
you will get through this, I haven't told family at all . The choice is yours but if you do chose carefully someone you can truly confide in without fear of them sharing this life changing information. Most individuals gain alot of support in sharing.
be kind to yourself, do nice things it will get better. I wish your son well, and pray for a positive outcome, although things are taking longer to sort out going through the criminal justice system .
your son is fortunate to have your support and guidance as is my son . They did something wrong albeit , terrible , which impacts and adds towards the abuse of children . But working on themselves getting support, being responsible and accountable for their behaviour is the first step in making changes. Call the LFF and get support, they have access to councellors, also think about getting things like blocker X/ nanny net on all devices to prevent him from accessing undesirable material on the PC .
best wishes to you and your son
maij x
My son was 23 when he disclosed to viewing iioc's he didn't search for this material but viewing pornography led him down this terrible path. He self disclosed to me first then the police, he was open and honest, disclosed everything but with a solicitor present. He had one interview, i would encourage your son to be open and honest with his behaviour and what the police is likely to find on he PC , because it they find something else that he hasn't disclosed it will make things worse with regards to charges.
My son recieved a caution , it didn't reach court,not in the local papers, 2 years on SOR. 2 years down the line things are better although at times things can trigger awful memories of that dreaded day of discloser.
you will get through this, I haven't told family at all . The choice is yours but if you do chose carefully someone you can truly confide in without fear of them sharing this life changing information. Most individuals gain alot of support in sharing.
be kind to yourself, do nice things it will get better. I wish your son well, and pray for a positive outcome, although things are taking longer to sort out going through the criminal justice system .
your son is fortunate to have your support and guidance as is my son . They did something wrong albeit , terrible , which impacts and adds towards the abuse of children . But working on themselves getting support, being responsible and accountable for their behaviour is the first step in making changes. Call the LFF and get support, they have access to councellors, also think about getting things like blocker X/ nanny net on all devices to prevent him from accessing undesirable material on the PC .
best wishes to you and your son
maij x
He also said that nobody could hate him as much as he hates himself and he did not know that there was help out there or where to turn. Like your son, he's doing what he can now to change.
Hi loulou
how old is your son? I just fear for all these young persons that fall into this trap! Makes me want to scream from the roof tops ! And go into schools / colleagues to warn them about the risks of viewing pornography !
i remember my son sobbing he was inconsolable .
i do hope your son is doing okay
maij
how old is your son? I just fear for all these young persons that fall into this trap! Makes me want to scream from the roof tops ! And go into schools / colleagues to warn them about the risks of viewing pornography !
i remember my son sobbing he was inconsolable .
i do hope your son is doing okay
maij
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Hi Maij,
He is 25. I agree with everything you say about the need for greater education being needed around this subject.
He is 25. I agree with everything you say about the need for greater education being needed around this subject.
Hope everyone is doing as well as they can be. I am still here keeping updated and reading your posts. Any suggestions of updates and outcomes are appreciated. I will also post any updates as well. We need each others support. Take care love to all xx
Evening DD
Each one of our journeys are similar but the outcomes are so different
Please try to not worry about what will happen as no one knows it is ultimately down to the judge on the day
All you can do for now is be there to support him and if he will talk about this listen
This journey is horrendous but once you know what you are dealing with you will be able to get through this
This does not define who your son is this is just a fraction of him
As parents we think why did I not know, what did I do to make him go down this awful road
But we have done nothing wrong,
So many young men are wrapped up in the media world
My son could not see what we see, he had no confidence in himself but in his close circle of friends he was loved so much but yet we are here
I know my son is not this and I finally understand how he got here
I will be there for him always, and I am proud of him not for his actions but because he is a good person who got lost in all of this
How are you and how is your son?x
Each one of our journeys are similar but the outcomes are so different
Please try to not worry about what will happen as no one knows it is ultimately down to the judge on the day
All you can do for now is be there to support him and if he will talk about this listen
This journey is horrendous but once you know what you are dealing with you will be able to get through this
This does not define who your son is this is just a fraction of him
As parents we think why did I not know, what did I do to make him go down this awful road
But we have done nothing wrong,
So many young men are wrapped up in the media world
My son could not see what we see, he had no confidence in himself but in his close circle of friends he was loved so much but yet we are here
I know my son is not this and I finally understand how he got here
I will be there for him always, and I am proud of him not for his actions but because he is a good person who got lost in all of this
How are you and how is your son?x
Hi upset mum,
Thanks for your kind words. I am coping just about. My son is trying to be brave but i think each day that goes by he is realizing the the mess this is and it will probably get worse. I will try and get to a solicitor soon just to see possibilties, approach, outcomes, clarity possible worst possible best outcomes. Im scared. If it it was just him and me id dissapear. But we have other family to consider. He as begun the free modules and will move onto paid ones. Will they use his home address when in court or his uni one, technicaly he doesnt live at home so why use his family address? Do the courts not consider inocent family members. Espeacialy ones with mental health issues? He excepts his wrong doing and punishment why does the whole family have to suffer? Im scared for us all. The impact on everyone. Sorry to waffle on.
Love to all xx
Thanks for your kind words. I am coping just about. My son is trying to be brave but i think each day that goes by he is realizing the the mess this is and it will probably get worse. I will try and get to a solicitor soon just to see possibilties, approach, outcomes, clarity possible worst possible best outcomes. Im scared. If it it was just him and me id dissapear. But we have other family to consider. He as begun the free modules and will move onto paid ones. Will they use his home address when in court or his uni one, technicaly he doesnt live at home so why use his family address? Do the courts not consider inocent family members. Espeacialy ones with mental health issues? He excepts his wrong doing and punishment why does the whole family have to suffer? Im scared for us all. The impact on everyone. Sorry to waffle on.
Love to all xx
Afternoon DD,
No need to apologise at all, this is the one place you can open up and talk , we all need the help and advice but most importantly support
The address they use is the one where he was arrested,
Unfortunately this journey can be a long drawn out process and all we want is closure but everything takes forever,
I'm glad your son has you and that he is completing the modules and having a therapist will help enormously, call the helpline as they are really helpful they can point you in the right direction to have a therapist who understands these crimes
Please look after yourself also and just ask for support also that is so important xx
No need to apologise at all, this is the one place you can open up and talk , we all need the help and advice but most importantly support
The address they use is the one where he was arrested,
Unfortunately this journey can be a long drawn out process and all we want is closure but everything takes forever,
I'm glad your son has you and that he is completing the modules and having a therapist will help enormously, call the helpline as they are really helpful they can point you in the right direction to have a therapist who understands these crimes
Please look after yourself also and just ask for support also that is so important xx
Hi all very bad night,
So my boy has talked a bit. He is now getting paranoid, as am i. Now another can of worms. Inocent conversations on social media, maybe with some under 18s, chat online when playing games etc should i be worried. He says the chats were not s..ual in any way. But my mind is in overdrive. If it is found on device in chat groups and is found will it be questioned? Will the people in chat be questioned?
This is such a nightmare. Cant stop thinking about it. Anyone had similar worries?
Thanks in advance, love to all xx
So my boy has talked a bit. He is now getting paranoid, as am i. Now another can of worms. Inocent conversations on social media, maybe with some under 18s, chat online when playing games etc should i be worried. He says the chats were not s..ual in any way. But my mind is in overdrive. If it is found on device in chat groups and is found will it be questioned? Will the people in chat be questioned?
This is such a nightmare. Cant stop thinking about it. Anyone had similar worries?
Thanks in advance, love to all xx
The trauma from the knock caused all these kind of thoughts in me that you are having (and your son). It is very likely the hypervigilence that your brain can get as a trauma symptom - you are on high alert looking at every possible danger. Hope this makes sense.
There is no quick fix, unfortunately. Try and do something that is calming and good for your wellbeing when this happens, like go for a walk, listen to some music, it is so important to look after yourself.
You may find 'Young Minds' a charity you could speak to helpful for how you can best support your son ,especially if you are struggling too. If you do not want to speak to them they have lots of resources on their website about supporting young people and their mental health.
Thinking of you and your son.
There is no quick fix, unfortunately. Try and do something that is calming and good for your wellbeing when this happens, like go for a walk, listen to some music, it is so important to look after yourself.
You may find 'Young Minds' a charity you could speak to helpful for how you can best support your son ,especially if you are struggling too. If you do not want to speak to them they have lots of resources on their website about supporting young people and their mental health.
Thinking of you and your son.
Morning DD,
These are normal emotions and we have all been there
Until you know what he is been charged with your mind will overthink everything
All.you can do it get through one day at a time no matter how hard this is, you will both get through it,
This journey is full of anxiety and because we have no control either it makes it worse and our minds can be out own worst enemy
No cases are the same and have so many different outcomes
It's a long journey to be on
When you have the details of your sons charges you will then be able to focus a bit better, please be kind to yourself, x
These are normal emotions and we have all been there
Until you know what he is been charged with your mind will overthink everything
All.you can do it get through one day at a time no matter how hard this is, you will both get through it,
This journey is full of anxiety and because we have no control either it makes it worse and our minds can be out own worst enemy
No cases are the same and have so many different outcomes
It's a long journey to be on
When you have the details of your sons charges you will then be able to focus a bit better, please be kind to yourself, x
Hi all,
At work finding it hard to focus. My boy went back last night. I hugged him and wept thats not like me im the one that is normaly strong. I keep asking same questions i know. Last night i asked him are you worried what they might find or things youve deleted. He just looked at me and said dont worry. See what charges they bring he was genuine when he said it. Now i am paranoid again is he playing it calm until then and thinking something realy stupid? He has started his modules and seems focused on a future. Im now worring about all the stuff that has gone through my router when hes had mates round sometimes. Im not suggesting theyve done anything at all! But i know what young lads upto 19 and older can be like. And his siblings partner(s) not suggesting anything about them either. What has he been saying on social media in inocent banter that could be exagerated?
I dont know if i can get through this waiting and worry.
Sorry love to all xx
At work finding it hard to focus. My boy went back last night. I hugged him and wept thats not like me im the one that is normaly strong. I keep asking same questions i know. Last night i asked him are you worried what they might find or things youve deleted. He just looked at me and said dont worry. See what charges they bring he was genuine when he said it. Now i am paranoid again is he playing it calm until then and thinking something realy stupid? He has started his modules and seems focused on a future. Im now worring about all the stuff that has gone through my router when hes had mates round sometimes. Im not suggesting theyve done anything at all! But i know what young lads upto 19 and older can be like. And his siblings partner(s) not suggesting anything about them either. What has he been saying on social media in inocent banter that could be exagerated?
I dont know if i can get through this waiting and worry.
Sorry love to all xx
Hi everyone,
hope you are all doing as well as can be.
Does anyone know how the online modules work. So you have proof that youve taken them seriosly and done them. My lad says hes written notes and taken screen shots. Thanks for any help. Take care warm wishes to all. xx
hope you are all doing as well as can be.
Does anyone know how the online modules work. So you have proof that youve taken them seriosly and done them. My lad says hes written notes and taken screen shots. Thanks for any help. Take care warm wishes to all. xx
Screenshots and notes are all he can do for the free modules. He can talk to the helpline, and if he always gives the same name and details they'll be able to provide records to show he has phoned.
there is also the LFF inform plus course he can do or there is another charity called safer lives which run a very similar course. Both have to be paid for, he only needs to do one of them but these are really good, useful and really help when it comes to court.
saferliving foundation do a free programme-the aurora programme, but there is a waiting list for it. So it could be worth while him contacting them to get on the waiting list.
For yourself you can call the helpline and they'll be able to go through all these worries with you. Safer lives also has a support group for families, called talking forwards. You can also both get a therapist through stopso.
LFF also do a course for partners/parents which is free, and really informative for how this has happened, why and the future. StopSO do one as well but you have to pay for it.
there is also the LFF inform plus course he can do or there is another charity called safer lives which run a very similar course. Both have to be paid for, he only needs to do one of them but these are really good, useful and really help when it comes to court.
saferliving foundation do a free programme-the aurora programme, but there is a waiting list for it. So it could be worth while him contacting them to get on the waiting list.
For yourself you can call the helpline and they'll be able to go through all these worries with you. Safer lives also has a support group for families, called talking forwards. You can also both get a therapist through stopso.
LFF also do a course for partners/parents which is free, and really informative for how this has happened, why and the future. StopSO do one as well but you have to pay for it.
Hi GZ,
I had to pay for the LFF one. It was £80. Not sure if it's means tested, I can't remember but thought I'd add to your comment incase anyone got a shock when not free. It is very good and informative xxx
I had to pay for the LFF one. It was £80. Not sure if it's means tested, I can't remember but thought I'd add to your comment incase anyone got a shock when not free. It is very good and informative xxx
Thank you gz thats very helpful. Its worth lookig into.
DD x
DD x
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In response to the comments about our Inform Programme, we just wanted to let you know that the programme is completely free now. There used to be an £80 payment for the initial one-to-one meeting with a Practitioner, but this has recently been stopped. Of course, where possible we are thankful for any donations; but we appreciate that this isn’t always possible.
The link for the Inform programme is here: https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/inform.htm.
We hope this helps. Take care,
Lucy
In response to the comments about our Inform Programme, we just wanted to let you know that the programme is completely free now. There used to be an £80 payment for the initial one-to-one meeting with a Practitioner, but this has recently been stopped. Of course, where possible we are thankful for any donations; but we appreciate that this isn’t always possible.
The link for the Inform programme is here: https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/inform.htm.
We hope this helps. Take care,
Lucy