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Hi Ruby246, I've read in a different post you had said our partners crimes and custodials were very similar. I think your partner is on the SOR indefinitely aswel. We both have young children. I think your partner has been released from prison, not totally sure on that but can I ask you what life looks like for you now after custodial? Is your partner allowed to see their children? Will he be allowed to return home after assessment with social services? Any advice you can give me at all would be great. Thanks

Ruby246

I had a similar moment earlier today while listing to an old Spotify playlist when Bill Withers came on with "Lean on me". The whole song, bur especially the lines "If there is a load you have to bear | That you can't carry | I'm right up the road | I'll share your load | If you just call me"

It made me weep to think how hard it is to find anyone safe to share this load with, and then I remembered that there is: this forum.

Yes, it is a shitty journey, but we have to remember, for our own sanity, that we are not travelling alone.

There are so many songs that resonate with us all

So many good memories before this journey

I had a visit with my son today and I got to hug him

I take a day at a time, and am truly grateful for the moments with him on visits

He is still here and for me that is all I can ask for

We all talk of our journey and ask ourselves how did it come to this

But today for the first time I thought of how proud of him I am, not for his crimes but how he has adjusted to his new normal

He has come so far, from the day of the knock he was going to take his own life

On remand he self harmed (heartbreaking) x

I like you Upset am proud of how my son is coping with his sentence. He's come on SO much since this journey started which carnt be easy when surrounded by many that have just 'given up'.

Just listened to your song Ruby - beautiful....... yes we look behind, then we move on, we must.......

Smile,

due to the circumstances I only get to hug my adult children very infrequently so I understand. I ha e bittersweet memories of "before" when I got lots of hugs, laughs and chat and also frequent funny texts and occasional phone calls. It's very hard. We know they will grow up and leave us but enforced separation, whether for legal reasons or because of family disagreements, is really tough.

Smile

We should be proud of our sons

Not proud of the crime but proud of how far they have come

If I look back at the first knock to where he is now ,

Our sons are everything to us xx

So many songs have different meanings for us now.
I'm very up and down in mood and how I perceive what's happened. Last week I came across a song on the radio which lifted me up somewhat, Go West Wishful thinking.

I'll pretend my ship's not sinking
And I'll tell myself I'm over you
'Cause I'm the king of wishful thinking
(King of wishful thinking)
I am the king of wishful thinking

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It's apt this post came up today. I wanted to listen to a song that reminded me of my person today. On the playlist other songs came on with lyrics that resonated with me, my feelings and situation.