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Contact with own children, but with no contact SHPO condition

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majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Sun November 13, 2022 10:09pmReport post

Hi all.

Some progress has been made in that someone in SS has been in touch to ask about how my partner wants to work on contact with his kids. He wants to start off as contact centre, but that cannot be long term ofc.

We had thought supervision in public (like a play park) would be ok. But the SW highlighted the concern that kids can interact with other kids when at parks and other similar settings.

My partner has a no contact clause on his SHPO, but isn't outright banned from play parks, just can't interact with kids.

I'm finding research for options on contact with the kids overwhelming...is anyone in a similar boat with supervision for kids for offenders with no contact clauses? What can we do to interact with the kids and build a meaningful relationship. I'm think playing on fields just as a family, play when park is quiet and move on if others enter a park?

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 6:44pmReport post

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Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:00pmReport post

Hi,

Who would supervise at the contact centre? Were you planning to supervise at parks etc? My person doesn't have the clause but chooses not to interact with any children while we're at parks and places. Our daughter is a toddler so she follows children around more than interacts with them. I interact if any is required and dad interacts with their parents, just polite conversation. How old are his children? xxx

GZ

Member since
December 2021

164 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:07pmReport post

Could you go to the aquarium, zoo that sort of thing?
you'll be with his children looking at things without them interacting with others to play?
national trust houses/gardens are also good to go to.

majestictopaz

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December 2019

499 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:15pmReport post

If supervision is allowed outside the contact centre then it is hoped his mum would be the main supervisor. I am going to request that I am too, tho I don't have relationship with the kids (I came on the scene after the knock).



The kids are 7 and 9. So I don't think it would be too much of an issue with the 9 year old, the 7 years old is more likely to approach kids. I did say to my partner who ever is supervising should be a blocker to my partner and any kids that approach. He can then walk away and keep his distance. If parents want to make a relationship we will just brush them off. Tbh I'm not a parent myself and so I really don't know whether it is true parents are chatty to others they don't know. We may just need to appear 'cold' to others.

Good shout on national trust areas, walks around grounds and museums may be better. Easier to keep the kids to themselves.

GZ

Member since
December 2021

164 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:24pmReport post

I think at that age they are quite good at interacting with others without having to have parents there...if you went to the park and they started to play with others kids your partner could just step back at sit on a bench/stand at the gates.
equally so, take a football or something to a field and they'll play with you and enjoy it. Or go for a bike ride somewhere.