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I can send you nothing but my most supportive virtual hug. So sorry this is happening xxx

Hi,

I sometimes need to have a break from the forum when I find myself struggling. This may be something to consider doing if it is adding to your anxiety. Try it for a couple of days and see how you feel. We had a good outcome and many people on here have too. I pray that you have the best outcome possible for you and your young family. Sending love and strength to you all xxx

I may be wrong but I'm sure I read that making in Scotland has a different meaning to the rest of the UK so make sure you're reading guidelines for where you live. Honestly though I probably wouldn't read anything online about possible outcomes because it is down to the judge on the day. As long as an accountability letter and character references have been submitted and his barrister has information of any work he has done on himself that's all you can do. I'd liken it to preparing for childbirth, you can pack your bag and make a plan but there are so many variables. We adapt as we go along, we're still nervous but we know we've done as much as we can. This is just something else that needs to happen now. You will cope with whatever the outcome is and we will be here to hold your hand throughout. Do something to relax yourself today, remind yourself to breathe deeply and catch yourself smiling at the ridiculous antics of toddlers. I hope they're feeling better soon xxx

Hi Scared - yes I suppose comments on this forum can be a bit worrying. To get us through we tend to focus on negatives as mostly there seems to be few positives on this journey.

BUT honestly life hasn't finished, the sun will shine for you again. You've worrying hurdles to get through but you'll find that strength to guide you through.... honestly x

Scared,

Sending support and hugs to you. I agree sometimes this forum doesn't help as it can increase anxiety, especially when we see custodials. What we need to remember is every case is absolutely unique and there are many factors like the judge who play a part in outcomes. I've noticed a few NFA's recently which have been nice to see and a couple of instances of Police being nice and supportive which have given me a bit of hope for anyone who will unfortunately end up here in the future.

We've come this far and it's been absolutely horrendous. There's not much longer to go now. I'm in bits at the moment too with the trial being about 3 weeks away, I can't stop thinking about it. I'm just trying to breathe and focus on the fact I may not know what will happen but I will find a way to cope if the worst does happen. I will keep everything crossed for you xx

Scared I understand completely how you're feeling we have the plea hearing this week and I'm in bits worrying about it.

As Baffled and Smile have said maybe taking a break from here would help and most definitely focusing on yourself but I know how hard it is not to look at other cases even though each situation is different.

Sending you love and strength you will get through this .

'Scared' I completely empathise with your feelings at the moment as we too have sentencing forthcoming. My advice is disable your socials, take a break from reading outcomes on the forum and spend as much time together as you can. We have no control over the future or the outcome once everything is submitted. Try not to waste your precious time on worrying about something you can't control and spend it with those you love ( however hard that is and I know it is tough) Sending you love and strength xxx