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Mumof3girls

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November 2021

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Posted Mon November 14, 2022 3:07pmReport post

So hubby is at magistrates on Thursday 60 miles away! I can't be there as need the children collecting from school. I'm dreading it, oic reckons it should all be done there as theyre low levels. Part of me is ready for this but part of me isn't (does that make sense?) it would be grand to get life back on track but if it goes the other way I'm not ready to lose my husband. I haven't sorted out anything. How will I cope? He's always been my rock, he's my best friend. I'm so broken right now but have to force a smile for my girls. Just needed to get it off my chest as I'm trying to be strong for everyone else involved

loulou74

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September 2022

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Posted Mon November 14, 2022 4:34pmReport post

Lots of deep breaths. It'll soon be over. You can't control what happens, only how you react. Try to stay strong for your girls. I know it's easier said than done, we have sentencing soon at Crown, and I can feel myself spiralling. I'll be thinking of you. Fingers crossed it all goes well.

Seaside

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July 2022

558 posts

Posted Mon November 14, 2022 4:41pmReport post

My person also has Magistrates this week so I feel exactly the same way as you.

Fingers crossed for a good outcome for both of our people.

Mumof3girls

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November 2021

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Posted Mon November 14, 2022 5:32pmReport post

Thanks Loulou74, that's all I keep telling myself I need to be strong for them but it's so hard at times, when 8 talk to people I know they just say just think positive and don't think about the worse, trouble is I'm not prepared for the worse to happen and I think I'll just crack if it does. Hope crown court goes well for you. Big hugs



thank you Seaside, I hope you have a good outcome too. I keep thinking maybe this will be the end of it but also feel I need to be prepared if it goes the other way. I already lost my home of 10 years I just don't want to lose my partner/ best friend of 16 years as well. Big hugs

Jayjay

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 12:02pmReport post

Good luck for tomorrow mum and seaside x

Seaside

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July 2022

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 4:00pmReport post

Thank you Jayjay.

Spoke to the Solicitor yesterday and they are going to push for one charge to be dropped as not enough evidence for this so fingers crossed.

Good luck Mum I will be thinking of you and sending hugs and strength.

Mumof3girls

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November 2021

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 4:28pmReport post

Thank you seaside, hope everything goes well for you.

Our solicitor has just dropped out case and told my husband to go with on duty solicitor rather than paying him £500+. Not got much hope now to be honest but it would be great to have this finished and still have my hubby home x

Life feels over

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 4:37pmReport post

Good luck x

Newlady

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 4:58pmReport post

Best of luck stay strong you can do this x

Bitterbean

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 5:14pmReport post

Good luck mumof3girls and seaside

Mumof3girls

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 5:24pmReport post

Thank you x

Upset mum

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 6:18pmReport post

Mum & Seaside

Thoughts and strength with you all tomorrow

Hugs sent xx

Seaside

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 6:52pmReport post

Thank you

Sadsister22

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Posted Wed November 16, 2022 10:49pmReport post

Good luck guys x will be keeping everything crossed for you all

Xx

loulou74

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:40amReport post

Thinking of you today

K4

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 8:10amReport post

Thinking of you both today xx

Confused&worried

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 8:27amReport post

I hope today goes well ladies x

Distressed and pregnant

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 8:36amReport post

Thinking of you both today xxx

Mumof3girls

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November 2021

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 9:00amReport post

Thank you all. I'm very nervous today, barely slept. X

Clarkestaff

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 9:03amReport post

Good luck for today ????

We're still awaiting response from CPS in my OH case

Alison20

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 11:48amReport post

Thinking of you today and hoping for a good outcome.

Sending you lots of support.

Edited Thu November 17, 2022 11:48am

Christmas Chaos

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 12:24pmReport post

Hope you had a good outcome today xx

Mumof3girls

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 5:09pmReport post

Thank you everyone. So I think it went well. He's signing sor tomorrow, and back in magistrates on 15/12. Take that as meaning it's staying in magistrates. He's a bit emotional as oic lies in his statement (surprise, surprise) and said he admitted to accessing the app for indecent images which was definitely not true, also accused him of having some app installed to wipe memory of downloads (again not true) hopefully our solicitor (new one not the one who let us down day before) can get them withdrawn

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 5:25pmReport post

Hi Mum

So glad it went as well as it could and it will be kept in the magistrates for sentencing x

Hope you are ok

As for the police I have no words they should not be allowed to say things that are not correct but they get away with it

Hopefully the solicitor can get them removed from his charges

Hugs sent to you all xx

Upset mum

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 5:25pmReport post

Hi Mum

So glad it went as well as it could and it will be kept in the magistrates for sentencing x

Hope you are ok

As for the police I have no words they should not be allowed to say things that are not correct but they get away with it

Hopefully the solicitor can get them removed from his charges

Hugs sent to you all xx

Seaside

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July 2022

558 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 5:37pmReport post

Hi Mum

Glad it went as well as it could do for you today.

I have no words to express my utter contempt for the Police and the appalling lies they tell-hopefully your new solicitor will be able to challenge this and get the charges dropped.

My person's plea hearing went ok via zoom and he wasn't asked to state a plea because the solicitor is fighting to get one charge dropped so he has unconditional bail doesn't have to sign the register yet and a provisional date for Crown in December.

Sending lots of hugs and strength

Upset mum

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:50pmReport post

Evening Seaside

Hope.you are bearing up ok after today

I totally agree on the police part total sh.t heads the way they can.lie so much xx

Em_bean

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 7:54pmReport post

never trusted the police and even less so now.

Seaside

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July 2022

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 8:32pmReport post

Thanks Upset we are doing ok just feeling wrung out and exhausted and now waiting for the next stage in this hideous journey.

The Police are truly horrible and the way I was treated by them has resulted in me having PTSD which I think is very common in these situations-the problem is that making a formal complaint against them might prejudice the case and make things worse for my person.

It is disgusting that they are able to get away with lying and bullying tactics and not held accountable.

Mumof3girls

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November 2021

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Posted Thu November 17, 2022 9:11pmReport post

Hi seaside, I hope you manage to get sorted. The waiting is the worst. I also am putting in a complaint regarding the knock and how the police acted around my children. One decided to tell my then 5 year old that her daddy was going to prison. My 15 year old now has PTSD and has panic attacks when she sees police. I will be putting this in once my husband's case is done so it doesn't effect my husband's case. One female officer tried to force me out of bed naked in front of her and kept declaring she had a warrant. Took a little fighting but I didn't get out of bed until she shit the door. These police seem to let the power go to their heads.

Seaside

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July 2022

558 posts

Posted Thu November 17, 2022 9:22pmReport post

Hi Mumof3girls

Hope you're ok after today -the waiting is awful isn't it ?

That is absolutely disgusting to treat you and your children that way and makes me so angry.

When we had the knock at 6am there were 8 police.

They brought in a dog despite me pleading with them not to as I have a real phobia about dogs and threatened to arrest me if I didn't comply.

I was told that I was a stupid hysterical woman and that I should shut up and calm down when I was crying.

Daffodil

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Posted Fri November 18, 2022 5:42amReport post

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