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Mumof3girls

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November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 6:02pmReport post

Hi all, sorry to be a pain. Is everyones sor restrictions the same and if so what are they? My husband is set to go and register tomorrow but he never got told what the restrictions are. Just basically wondered what my future is going to be like. Is he allowed to be around other children. Unsupervised now with his own children? We went to sign today but no body told him he needed Id, bank details etc etc. I was not impressed having to travel for a wasted journey.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 6:07pmReport post

Hi Mum

How are you doing?x

The SOR is the same for all offenders, hubby just needs to go to the local police station and give his details

It is the SHPO that had the set conditions this is set at sentancing x

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 6:34pmReport post

Hi upset mum. After yesterday I feel a little more positive as this should be over for Christmas and staying in magistrates but still feel fear on what is to come (does that make sense?). It's been over year of hell from this situation but me and hubby had a really good night together last night and we spent the day together today. He feels absolutely dreadful for what he's put us all through.

Anyone able to tell me what the restrictions are as I can't seem to find them online x

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 7:17pmReport post

https://www.stopitnow.org.uk/concerned-about-your-own-thoughts-or-behaviour/concerned-about-use-of-the-internet/get-the-facts/consequences/being-on-the-sex-offenders-register-sor/#:~:text=Under%20the%20Sexual%20Offences%20Act,station%20and%20sign%20the%20register.



Sorry this link is so long. I just googled Sor rules and it comes up with a stop it now page. Overall the SOR is quite simple, it is essentially the rules on when and what to notify the police.

Restrictions in regards to children and online use will be in a SHPO, which won't kick in until sentencing and will be more bespoke. The solicitor should provide a copy of the SHPO once it is made available. Sometimes those on SOR don't have a SHPO, but that I think is rare in the case of iiocs offences

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 7:34pmReport post

Thank you. So basically just keeping them up to date of we go abroad if he's going to be around other children for a long period of time. For some reason I thought they was stricter, maybe got confused with the other one.

I'm hoping he doesn't get the restriction around being around other children unless other parents know. My little girl is set to have her first birthday party next year (COVID runined her last 2) and my eldest her 16th. It would really upset them if he couldnt be there as well.

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 7:39pmReport post

Unlock.org has more info on SOR as well. Although it's mainly telling the police where you're living etc, there are some places that he won't be able to go to as they exclude people on SOR, so you would need to check terms when booking holidays or joining the gym.

They usually get told when they register what the restrictions are, or a visit at home shortly afterwards so they can check accommodation as well (this is what happened for my husband).

Social services will mostly likely get involved again after sentencing. He can be around children but you need to way up the risks of people knowing or finding out he is on SOR and how comfortable they may be with him being around their children. He probably shouldn't have unsupervised access to your children until social services are back in touch. He's unlikely to be allowed unsupervised access straight away. We've just carried on as we were for now with supervised visits (husband also in between plea and sentencing).

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 7:55pmReport post

Not social services again! My kids have been through enough, they won't want to see them again, they've lost respect for them and the police. Social services closed the case with us why would they get back involved again? Will I ever be able to live my life without these people in my life?

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 8:18pmReport post

We've never had confirmation but they were closing our case too but that just means they're happy with how you're dealing with the situation. My husband's solicitor advised him to contact social services and let them know that he has been convicted. I'm not sure if he has, he hasn't mentioned it and I haven't heard anything but he's not coming home anyway but I do want unsupervised access so will have to contact them once he's been sentenced. This type of offence is the gift that keeps on giving :-(

GZ

Member since
December 2021

164 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 9:39pmReport post

Normally after they have signed onto the SOR their offender manager will contact them and come to meet them. Then after sentencing they will meet their probation officer. Both have a legal obligation to refer to social care if their 'client' has children. So if your case is closed social care will be re-contacted.
if they closed your case with a safety plan/restrictions in place, if you want to move forward and change this they will want to do a risk assessment and will re-open it. They'll also take into account their SHPO restrictions.
if they are happy with the case they'll keep it closed.

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri November 18, 2022 10:12pmReport post

We already had a risk assessment done and he was low risk to his children. A safety plan was put in place. What happens if my children refuse to talk to them? My 14 and 15 year olds just don't want nothing to do with them anymore. My eldest is on the brink of a breakdown. I thought my children's part in all of this was done, I'm fed up of them being dragged in all the time. Sorry for rant but is there ever going to be an end to thing without me breaking my marriage up. Yesterday I honestly thought we was near the end of this and now today I realise it's all just the beginning of another screw up chapter that is now my life

Edited Fri November 18, 2022 10:14pm

scaredandconfused

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June 2021

437 posts

Posted Sat November 19, 2022 6:04amReport post

Hi

My oh is currently between sentencing just over a week left his solicitor told magistrates they wanted it at crown because magistrates aren't trained in this area as crown is more suitable with sentences with having more cases. He was given the paperwork straight after from magistrates with what to take to police station and the address. The day after visor team came out then a few days ago he went back to the station for a chat because our two young children were at home when they came. Social services have been in contact the whole nearly 18 months and are looking at getting my oh back home at some point after sentencing as we stated from the start that this was the end goal and she has seen both me and my oh with our children and has no safe guarding concerns. She also said other day when I mentioned it that they would of been involved again if it had been closed because after conviction it's conformation of what's happened so your children need to be safeguarded and made sure they are all ok first.

Sorry the sor once signed you just have to keep to the conditions of bail or whatever was in place before signing. The shpo is different for everyone my oh in draft at the moment has 14 restrictions including contact ones unsupervised and living but they can only be challenged to be changed on the day for judge to decide. Hope this helps

Edited Sat November 19, 2022 6:11am