Weekends are the worst
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Does anyone feel the same?
I think in the week while im busy with work, school runs and kids clubs I seem to just crack on and most of the time feel okay.
Once Friday evening comes around I can feel myself sinking into a depression. I've taken myself off all social media platforms as that were making me feel worse. I sound silly and childish but I don't want to see other people having fun. I can't help but feel sorry for myself, like I've got nothing to look forward to. Kids are constantly with me as can't be left unsupervised with OH, youngest is 2 so it's full on so I just don't get one minute and just feel like everything's so unfair.
SS have already said even if police drop the case or OH stays out of prison they'll still be checking as they won't be happy/ comfortable with him coming back to the house. So the only way to get them off my back is for us to seperate? I'm trying to support my OH but sometimes feel what's the point? Xxxx
I think in the week while im busy with work, school runs and kids clubs I seem to just crack on and most of the time feel okay.
Once Friday evening comes around I can feel myself sinking into a depression. I've taken myself off all social media platforms as that were making me feel worse. I sound silly and childish but I don't want to see other people having fun. I can't help but feel sorry for myself, like I've got nothing to look forward to. Kids are constantly with me as can't be left unsupervised with OH, youngest is 2 so it's full on so I just don't get one minute and just feel like everything's so unfair.
SS have already said even if police drop the case or OH stays out of prison they'll still be checking as they won't be happy/ comfortable with him coming back to the house. So the only way to get them off my back is for us to seperate? I'm trying to support my OH but sometimes feel what's the point? Xxxx
Hi Lily,
I completely feel the same about weekends. My little one is 21 months so I know it's relentless. My oldest is at uni away from home, middle one rarely in the house so it's just me and little one majority of the time. I love her with everything that I am but I absolutely didn't plan to do this alone and had a good social life prior to covid and all of this.
Just wanted to say that it's not up to ss whether your partner comes home or not. Yes, they can make you jump through hoops but with work you can get your partner home if that's what you want. Protecting your children and supporting the family should be their aim. Are you currently on a plan or case closed with a safety plan in place? xxx
I completely feel the same about weekends. My little one is 21 months so I know it's relentless. My oldest is at uni away from home, middle one rarely in the house so it's just me and little one majority of the time. I love her with everything that I am but I absolutely didn't plan to do this alone and had a good social life prior to covid and all of this.
Just wanted to say that it's not up to ss whether your partner comes home or not. Yes, they can make you jump through hoops but with work you can get your partner home if that's what you want. Protecting your children and supporting the family should be their aim. Are you currently on a plan or case closed with a safety plan in place? xxx
Sundays have become a day I hate. It's the only day we both not working so it has become family day. It used to be my day to either relax or catch up around the house. Now everyday is full on. I hate it.
Like you, I need a break. I love my children dearly but i would love to share the responsibility again.
Like you, I need a break. I love my children dearly but i would love to share the responsibility again.
Thanks both.
SS have just done an initial assessment and they're happy that me and my mother in law can supervise visits but it's still early days. We are still waiting on the forensics from his phone so I'll know more then but she's made of quite clear they wouldn't support him coming back to the house. I work in a school and she also said that if I did let him back it could affect my job. My boss has been really supportive so far. Its a long way off so I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just find them bullies. My children are happy and always have been. As like all of us, I would die protecting them so for them to question me and imply im not thinking of them really puts me off dealing with them.
SS have just done an initial assessment and they're happy that me and my mother in law can supervise visits but it's still early days. We are still waiting on the forensics from his phone so I'll know more then but she's made of quite clear they wouldn't support him coming back to the house. I work in a school and she also said that if I did let him back it could affect my job. My boss has been really supportive so far. Its a long way off so I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just find them bullies. My children are happy and always have been. As like all of us, I would die protecting them so for them to question me and imply im not thinking of them really puts me off dealing with them.
Be very careful about what SS say.
Remember that everything is voluntary, and they will use scare tactics. Understandably they do not want to be the SW attached to another statistic so their job is easier if he is not living at home.
Remember that everything is voluntary, and they will use scare tactics. Understandably they do not want to be the SW attached to another statistic so their job is easier if he is not living at home.
Thank you.
I might come back for advice closer the time.
Sending love and strength to you all x
I might come back for advice closer the time.
Sending love and strength to you all x
I also hate weekends. I have ended my relationship with my partner. It's so lonely. I meet friends for coffee/ lunch etc but then I come home to an empty house. I can't help comparing Saturday nights now with my old Saturday nights. I'd give anything for this not to have happened and for us to be snuggling up on the sofa with a takeaway! I miss and love him so much but hate him for what he's done and the affect this has had on my future.
LilyRose84,
Please please don't end ur relationship because ss are being complete and utter w*nkers, you can get them off ur back and still be together if that makes sense, you need to when ur ready go through all the posts reguarding getting ss off ur backs, ( won't be worded like that but u can get my drift). That's why they win because people are so scared of them, I was until I found this site and started to fight back, we now over night stays now, and hopefully after Christmas we will fight to get him home because he met his new visor manager yesterday and she can't understand why he isn't living with us now, and the policeman said that when they brought our stuff back. Honestly don't take no shit, I couldn't fight to get him home because I had been through the mill but we were happy for the over night stays, sometimes a little is alot more take each step at a time, if that makes sense xx
Please please don't end ur relationship because ss are being complete and utter w*nkers, you can get them off ur back and still be together if that makes sense, you need to when ur ready go through all the posts reguarding getting ss off ur backs, ( won't be worded like that but u can get my drift). That's why they win because people are so scared of them, I was until I found this site and started to fight back, we now over night stays now, and hopefully after Christmas we will fight to get him home because he met his new visor manager yesterday and she can't understand why he isn't living with us now, and the policeman said that when they brought our stuff back. Honestly don't take no shit, I couldn't fight to get him home because I had been through the mill but we were happy for the over night stays, sometimes a little is alot more take each step at a time, if that makes sense xx
Dawn,
Glad to see you back and that you still have your fighting spirit! :)
Glad to see you back and that you still have your fighting spirit! :)
Hi Bittbean,
Thanks, it's been one hell of a journey, and after losing my dad I didn't think I could face the fight but I will fight to get my hubby home xx I no he isn't a bad person just royally f*cked up but we shouldn't be punished for life xx hope u r OK xx
Thanks, it's been one hell of a journey, and after losing my dad I didn't think I could face the fight but I will fight to get my hubby home xx I no he isn't a bad person just royally f*cked up but we shouldn't be punished for life xx hope u r OK xx
Thanks Dawn. I will have a look at the posts on here, coming here is so helpful. My OH needs help and support, which he is finally getting. I just find SS very black and white and I'm very cautious of dealing with them, which is sad because they should be the ones who help us through this. X
Hi LilyRose84,
Trust me I completely understand where you are coming from but trust me u can't let them scare you xx
Trust me I completely understand where you are coming from but trust me u can't let them scare you xx