In shock and what to do now
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Hi,
Hope you are all doing ok. Hesitated to post this however, at a loss now where to go for help. My husband was interviewed by the police last week and they have found 11 images. They have classed it as extreme however , it was photographs to do with adults and animals (can't believe I'm writing this) I'm so sorry if this offends anyone. If it does please let me know and I will delete it as it's hummiliating. Does anyone know where I can find information online regarding this. Thank you
Hope you are all doing ok. Hesitated to post this however, at a loss now where to go for help. My husband was interviewed by the police last week and they have found 11 images. They have classed it as extreme however , it was photographs to do with adults and animals (can't believe I'm writing this) I'm so sorry if this offends anyone. If it does please let me know and I will delete it as it's hummiliating. Does anyone know where I can find information online regarding this. Thank you
I don't know anything about your specific circumstances (the knock was different for us), but the shock is horrible and I can recommend getting to a GP.
I am three weeks out from the knock and the shock took about two weeks to subside. The GP has been brilliant with antidepressants and sleeping pills.
take deep breaths, find things that ground you.
This is probably the right place to ask about those images
xx
I am three weeks out from the knock and the shock took about two weeks to subside. The GP has been brilliant with antidepressants and sleeping pills.
take deep breaths, find things that ground you.
This is probably the right place to ask about those images
xx
Hi,
I didn't want to read and not respond. I'm sorry that you find yourself here. You may find it helpful to find the videos and literature on porn addiction. This is usually how our partners and loved ones come to end up viewing extreme and illegal things. Porn on the brain and reboot nation videos on YouTube. If you look on gov.uk there is information around sentencing guidelines. I presume that it is very much the same as iioc and communication in that it's dependent on the judge on the day.
Your mind is probably in overdrive constantly at the moment so try to eat and sleep when you can. Sending love xxx
I didn't want to read and not respond. I'm sorry that you find yourself here. You may find it helpful to find the videos and literature on porn addiction. This is usually how our partners and loved ones come to end up viewing extreme and illegal things. Porn on the brain and reboot nation videos on YouTube. If you look on gov.uk there is information around sentencing guidelines. I presume that it is very much the same as iioc and communication in that it's dependent on the judge on the day.
Your mind is probably in overdrive constantly at the moment so try to eat and sleep when you can. Sending love xxx
Thank you for your replies I shall have a look on the phone xx
Rachel
What specific information are you looking for?
For some reason, in law, this is considered as bad as the worse kind of child abuse. I mean, yes, it's pretty awful, but really? I understand the justification is animal welfare but it's not in animal protection legislation, its a sex offence. I suspect when they were drafting the legislation someone thought, yeah, that's pretty disgusting too, let's just throw it in the same bucket as other unacceptable behaviour.
What specific information are you looking for?
For some reason, in law, this is considered as bad as the worse kind of child abuse. I mean, yes, it's pretty awful, but really? I understand the justification is animal welfare but it's not in animal protection legislation, its a sex offence. I suspect when they were drafting the legislation someone thought, yeah, that's pretty disgusting too, let's just throw it in the same bucket as other unacceptable behaviour.
Hi Bitterbean,
thank you. Really just about what sentence he will receive and will he be on the register? Hope you are doing ok. Feel I have reached a new low having to ask this thank you for your kind response xx
thank you. Really just about what sentence he will receive and will he be on the register? Hope you are doing ok. Feel I have reached a new low having to ask this thank you for your kind response xx
Rachel
Sentencing guidelines say that for category A images of children, and extreme pornography, the starting point is a custodial sentence, BUT every case and circumstances are different, I have seen reports in th enews of people with a few bestiality images receiving a suspended sentence or community service, and other people with lesser images getting a custodial sentence. It depends on the circumstances and the judge on the day unfortunately if you have a look over this forum there appears to be no consistency in sentencing, unfortunately. So you will have to wait and see if he is charged and if he is then whether or not he pleads guilty and then find out what the judge on the day says
II can't sugar coat it, you have to prepare yourself for a long wait and a roller-coaster of emotions. It's really important that you take care of yourself first and think long and hard about what you want. Hopefully your person will be honest and upfront with you about what, if anything, has been going on, because that helps.
I have found this forum to be a lifeline. We are all in this together and nobody judges.
Sentencing guidelines say that for category A images of children, and extreme pornography, the starting point is a custodial sentence, BUT every case and circumstances are different, I have seen reports in th enews of people with a few bestiality images receiving a suspended sentence or community service, and other people with lesser images getting a custodial sentence. It depends on the circumstances and the judge on the day unfortunately if you have a look over this forum there appears to be no consistency in sentencing, unfortunately. So you will have to wait and see if he is charged and if he is then whether or not he pleads guilty and then find out what the judge on the day says
II can't sugar coat it, you have to prepare yourself for a long wait and a roller-coaster of emotions. It's really important that you take care of yourself first and think long and hard about what you want. Hopefully your person will be honest and upfront with you about what, if anything, has been going on, because that helps.
I have found this forum to be a lifeline. We are all in this together and nobody judges.