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Hi Hurt Potato
I did manage to read your post before it got deleted and did not reply straight away as I was at a loss as to what to say to the awful situation you and your son find yourselves in.
I am really sorry that even though you son got NFA from the police that SS have demanded that your son leaves the family home and he is now homeless- it just does not make any sense to me at all.
Perhaps other members on here maybe able to share their experience with SS and younger siblings. We did not have SS involved with us at all as there were no younger children in our family unit.
Thinking of you and your son. It maybe worth speaking to the helpline to see if they can offer you any support or signpost you to other organisations that may be of help to you or to you son.
Take care
I did manage to read your post before it got deleted and did not reply straight away as I was at a loss as to what to say to the awful situation you and your son find yourselves in.
I am really sorry that even though you son got NFA from the police that SS have demanded that your son leaves the family home and he is now homeless- it just does not make any sense to me at all.
Perhaps other members on here maybe able to share their experience with SS and younger siblings. We did not have SS involved with us at all as there were no younger children in our family unit.
Thinking of you and your son. It maybe worth speaking to the helpline to see if they can offer you any support or signpost you to other organisations that may be of help to you or to you son.
Take care
Hi,
I didn't get to read your post but I'll reply to what I can gather from Alison's reply. Ss can't make demands until they take the parents of any children they deem to be at risk to court (sorry I'm unsure if it's your family home or his with his partner and children). Ss make recommendations but nothing is legally binding until it is backed by a judge.
If you look on your local authorities childrens services page online you should be able to find out how they are supposed to conduct risk assessments and the escalation process. In my area it states that they should take a holistic approach not just look at the presenting issue. They should weigh up risks with protective factors. I know that is scary to challenge them in any way but holding them accountable in their job is important, the more we allow them to bully families the more families go through the system unaware of their rights.
Has your son made any admissions? Has he sought any help if it's needed? There is the inform course for family and friends if you need more of an understanding about these crimes. There are modules that your son can work through online too. Also, there are safeguarding courses available online for you or anyone with custody of the children can do. You can make a safety plan too, children never to be left unsupervised with your son, cameras installed in communal areas, I think I saw that someone had an alarm linked to their phone on their daughter's bedroom so when the door opened it would alert her. Sending love xxx
I didn't get to read your post but I'll reply to what I can gather from Alison's reply. Ss can't make demands until they take the parents of any children they deem to be at risk to court (sorry I'm unsure if it's your family home or his with his partner and children). Ss make recommendations but nothing is legally binding until it is backed by a judge.
If you look on your local authorities childrens services page online you should be able to find out how they are supposed to conduct risk assessments and the escalation process. In my area it states that they should take a holistic approach not just look at the presenting issue. They should weigh up risks with protective factors. I know that is scary to challenge them in any way but holding them accountable in their job is important, the more we allow them to bully families the more families go through the system unaware of their rights.
Has your son made any admissions? Has he sought any help if it's needed? There is the inform course for family and friends if you need more of an understanding about these crimes. There are modules that your son can work through online too. Also, there are safeguarding courses available online for you or anyone with custody of the children can do. You can make a safety plan too, children never to be left unsupervised with your son, cameras installed in communal areas, I think I saw that someone had an alarm linked to their phone on their daughter's bedroom so when the door opened it would alert her. Sending love xxx