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Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

251 posts

Posted Mon November 28, 2022 9:20amReport post

I can't believe I'm asking this of everyone because none of us deserve to be here but I have an understandable question that is sort of burning a hole in my head.



although all cases are different as are the charges, what sentence and for what charge were your loved ones given (inc sor and shpo)?



I know there are a lot of contributing factors to consider like judge being in a good mood that day (really shouldn't be a factor but unfortunately it is), what the charge was, priors etc. but something in me needs to sort of but not really compare what my OH is looking at, part of me needs to know or possibly know how long this will be a part of our lives. How long we (kids and I) might have to suffer the ramifications of a stupid act.

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1044 posts

Posted Mon November 28, 2022 1:37pmReport post

Hi,

My person had three charges, I'm unsure of the exact wording but to the best of my knowledge they are; sexual communication with a minor, causing a child to view sexual material and inciting a child to engage in sexual activity. He was remanded in custody for six months. He was sentenced to a 3 year community order, 80 hours community service, rehabilitation programme in the form of the horizon course and a relatively small fine. He got 5 years SHPO (internet only) and 5 year SOR.

He did an accountability statement and had around 10 character reference letters including his employer at the time. The judge requested a psychiatric assessment, I'm unsure what the results of this was or if it was discarded because it was less than an hour via zoom and the connection kept failing. Psr recommended a community order and the judge apparently seemed sympathetic to our situation (I gave birth a few days after sentencing) xxx

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

251 posts

Posted Wed November 30, 2022 9:52amReport post

I'm just really worried my person communicated with a (one) decoy and was sexually explicit didn't send or receive pictures and didn't arrange to meet thankfully. Did request a video to proove the person wasn't really 13. According to solicitor he says he knew it was a bs profile (genuinely don't understand why he thought it was funny to "mess" with them) I really can't take this.

even when I used to use dating sites I could spot a dud profile, but I would choose not to communicate with them full stop.



this sucks for all of us innocents trying to support our people but having backlash from it