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I'm really at a loss everything only seems to get worse . Partner is doing all he can working full time community pay back ect probation meetings . The visor and probation are awfull. They are liers and say he can't do a thing , go anywere do anything he is a child sex offender that's what they will call him that's what he is . He has lost his phone . He called and told her straight away they said okay blah blah now come to the arms assessment they said they don't believe him this is dodgy and a breach . Saying that he hasn't told them he has a certain email account when he has so he was recording the meeting on his phone becaus wall they do it lie . They asked to see his phone and it was recording he's now in big trouble for this and they have taken his phone . This will also affect social who never get back to us wether he can stay over night . They don't want him to and noone is helping or eveen treating us like humans .
He's emotional as am I we do everything were told we are honest and try our very best to get on the right side of them . There just to much and don't care m they won't even speak to me and say it's his crime his problems do things without him .
I'm back to the same worry and distress as before is not worse how can we keep going xxxx
I'm really at a loss everything only seems to get worse . Partner is doing all he can working full time community pay back ect probation meetings . The visor and probation are awfull. They are liers and say he can't do a thing , go anywere do anything he is a child sex offender that's what they will call him that's what he is . He has lost his phone . He called and told her straight away they said okay blah blah now come to the arms assessment they said they don't believe him this is dodgy and a breach . Saying that he hasn't told them he has a certain email account when he has so he was recording the meeting on his phone becaus wall they do it lie . They asked to see his phone and it was recording he's now in big trouble for this and they have taken his phone . This will also affect social who never get back to us wether he can stay over night . They don't want him to and noone is helping or eveen treating us like humans .
He's emotional as am I we do everything were told we are honest and try our very best to get on the right side of them . There just to much and don't care m they won't even speak to me and say it's his crime his problems do things without him .
I'm back to the same worry and distress as before is not worse how can we keep going xxxx
Hi xxx,
I don't have much advice other than he can take things further with a complaint to the senior probation officers. My person has been told from the start that he can't record the meetings so I'm not sure where your OH stands with that. I'd raise their lack of engagement with you to their superiors detailing that you have small children so not going anywhere is detrimental to their lives not just his. I know they have to get to know him before they can make a balanced risk assessment but everything you've mentioned in this and your other posts seems extreme. Sending love xxx
I don't have much advice other than he can take things further with a complaint to the senior probation officers. My person has been told from the start that he can't record the meetings so I'm not sure where your OH stands with that. I'd raise their lack of engagement with you to their superiors detailing that you have small children so not going anywhere is detrimental to their lives not just his. I know they have to get to know him before they can make a balanced risk assessment but everything you've mentioned in this and your other posts seems extreme. Sending love xxx
Hi Xxx. My OH always get a receipt from police or probation in writing when he tells them something. If its probation he will tell them, then follows it with an text or email so there is a written trail. Sorry cannot comment on the recording etc as i do not know the rules.
sorry you are going through this. X
sorry you are going through this. X
Thank you both . I feel sick again back at step one I don't know if he will go to prison if there saying his loosing his phone is a breach . Everything all together just looks dodgy and I feel that these meetings have got off to a bad start so we have no hope . He said he can't live 10 years not being able to take the girls anywere it's there whole childhood life . I'm worried this is never going to get better :( howling cam we be scared and alone for xxx