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MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

9 posts

Posted Tue November 29, 2022 2:31pmReport post

Well this is a tough situation to be in isn't it!? Social media really doesn't help in situations your family is involved in! How are you meant to cope with 'normal' day to day life when your address has been leaked to people who want things done to your family member without constantly worrying about what's gonna happen next?
I don't even know how I feel right now, I think he's an absolute idiot but he's also my brother!? Is this a pointless post? I don't even know!?

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Tue November 29, 2022 4:50pmReport post

MixedEmotions

So sorry you find yourself here

I am the mum of an offender, and his sister like you has been there for him every step of the way, media I wont go there with my feelings on them

It's an awful journey to be on

How is your brother? And how are you x

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

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Posted Tue November 29, 2022 9:34pmReport post

Sorry to see you here too!



He seems okay, hasn't said much to us though but that's his choice, we've said we're here if he wants to talk about anything. As for me an dad we're not the best right now but we're okay I guess..... it's not a fun ride at all is it!

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Wed November 30, 2022 4:52pmReport post

MiixedEmotion

This is part of how they ended up here by not talking but living in this secret

It is an enormous shock for both him and yourself and family

This is a long journey and so much uncertainty

Please reach out to the helpline

Has your brother reached out to a therapist? He can also call the helpline, they are really supportive and non judgemental

I made the first call and spent most of it in tears but they really did help

My son also phoned them and completed the online modules, they also recommended a therapist who specializes in this crime and I know this was so helpful for him

Please be kind to yourself and know that the support you are giving to him is so so important

My daughters relationship with her brother is so close since this, she knows he is a good person despite his offending he is more than this,

xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

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Posted Wed November 30, 2022 5:32pmReport post

I called the helpline yesterday and they told me about this website, they helped massively just by sitting and listening and not judging!


he's started to reach out for help on his own accord without us mentioning anything but he deals with his emotions very well too!



I had a massive breakdown yesterday to the point I had to leave work early which is how I've ended up here but I feel stronger today. It's the uncertainty of everything and the shock of everything all at once and all the emotions I think just got the better of me! We're slowly figuring out and getting help but it's obviously gonna be a very long process for all of us! Xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2407 posts

Posted Thu December 1, 2022 12:47pmReport post

MixedEmotions

So pleased you called the helpline they are so helpful

You will have good days and bad days this is normal on this journey

Be kind to yourself and try not let this journey engulf you,

Its good your brother is seeking help also

We have no control over this and sometimes it will feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders but you will get through this and so will your brother

Xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

9 posts

Posted Fri December 2, 2022 6:15amReport post

Thank you! ?? xx

Upset mum

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Posted Sun December 4, 2022 6:55pmReport post

Evening MixedEmotions

Just wanted to check in to see how you are all doing xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

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Posted Thu December 8, 2022 10:44amReport post

Hello lovely, sorry I've only just seen this! We're all doing better I think, with all the hate from locals online we agreed that he shouldn't go out alone for a bit, yesterday/ today has been the first time he's been out in a week and a half as we had a concert preplanned, now on our way back. He has slightly learning difficulties also (not sure if I mentioned before) but I'm now torn between him going back to his normal routine of walking the dog round the field or waiting a bit longer? Hope your doing okay! Xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu December 8, 2022 4:06pmReport post

Hi MixedEmotions

Glad to hear your all doing ok, it must ha e been nice to get out for a bit x

It will always be a bit daunting on his first time out without you in regards to him walking the dog, how does he feel in himself? have you had any issues with people in person or has it just been the good old keyboard warriors that have nothing better to do ?

If no issues in person then if that is what he did before all this and he wants to go out then he should even if it is a small walk ot will let him build back some confidence

Xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

9 posts

Posted Thu December 8, 2022 8:30pmReport post

Yeah it was nice, minimal stresses for once!



He seems okay tbh almost as if nothings happened, I'll have a chat with him tomorrow when I'm back from work as we're all in bed now. Not had any problems other than the typical social media lot that have sod all else to do!
xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2407 posts

Posted Sat December 10, 2022 5:56pmReport post

MixedEmotions

Glad you are all ok x

Social media is awful but remember they are words from keyboard warriors that do not have a clue what it is like to walk in our shoes

Unless you are here no one can understand

Xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

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Posted Fri December 16, 2022 7:34amReport post

100% agree with you!

I hope you all have a lovely Christmas!

xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri December 16, 2022 1:06pmReport post

MixedEmotions

Hope you are all doing as well.as can be x

Christmas wishes to you all xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri December 30, 2022 6:53pmReport post

Evening MixedEmotions

Just wanted to check in with you that you are all ok ?xx

MixedEmotions

Member since
November 2022

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Posted Sat December 31, 2022 11:19amReport post

Hi lovely, so rubbish at checking this, sorry! everything's as good as it can be I guess. Christmas was just a normal day as usual. Hope yours was good! Happy new year to you all!

Upset mum

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Posted Sat December 31, 2022 2:30pmReport post

MixedEmotions

Just like to check in to see your all ok dont worry if your not on here much , you know where we are if you need advice or support

Good to hear you are ok

Xmas was quiet one for us

Wishes sent for the new year x