How to get through Christmas
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Hey hope your ok. I would just be honest and tell him it's how I've been the last 18 months best to be honest. Could you not have a day with your children/grandchildren without him
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Bitterbean
Only you can decide on what to do next
You are in turmoil, and you're feelings are normal
The person who needs to be first is you
What we want and what we need are miles apart
You are in the middle trying to please everyone
This journey is horrendous but you will get through it
We didn't ask for this, but yet we are here
Not much advise but just wanted to send hugs xx
Only you can decide on what to do next
You are in turmoil, and you're feelings are normal
The person who needs to be first is you
What we want and what we need are miles apart
You are in the middle trying to please everyone
This journey is horrendous but you will get through it
We didn't ask for this, but yet we are here
Not much advise but just wanted to send hugs xx
I agree with upset you must come first easier said than done because I have done the same as you and stayed but I new from the start that I was choosing that option. Maybe sit and think about what you want then have a chat with him you need to do what's best for you x
As others have said, it really is only you that can make that decision. There are lots of different angles to your situation and I wonder how you feel about them all independently?
I know it's very hard to seperate one from another but I wonder if you could come to peace with how you feel about some of them it would help shed light on how you feel about the others and then as a whole.
It is also possible to support your person without being a couple, you don't have to turn your back on him completely.
In any relationship, even outside of this crime, there are many reasons to stay and many reasons to leave - Neither are right or wrong, we are only here once and its important to do what's right for you.
Staying or leaving isn't easy, both will impact your future life.
I know it's very hard to seperate one from another but I wonder if you could come to peace with how you feel about some of them it would help shed light on how you feel about the others and then as a whole.
It is also possible to support your person without being a couple, you don't have to turn your back on him completely.
In any relationship, even outside of this crime, there are many reasons to stay and many reasons to leave - Neither are right or wrong, we are only here once and its important to do what's right for you.
Staying or leaving isn't easy, both will impact your future life.
Bitterbean, you only get one life and you have to follow the path which is right for you. You have to decide how you want the rest of your life to be. I understand it is hard to give up the life you know and the future you had, I feel the same but I also feel that my life before was actually a lie.
I have chosen not to stay. My choice. My Christmas will be spent with my 2 adult children and their partners and my grand child.
My ex will be alone . Yes I feel sad for him but this is all his fault and I am choosing how I want my life to be.
I have chosen not to stay. My choice. My Christmas will be spent with my 2 adult children and their partners and my grand child.
My ex will be alone . Yes I feel sad for him but this is all his fault and I am choosing how I want my life to be.