Deleting social media before sentencing?
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Sorry everyone another question from me again!
Before OH's sentencing is there anything people recommend to do about social media?
Solicitor is supposed to write to CPS to request we can log into OHs social media accounts to delete them on his behalf, but if that is refused what should we do?
His instagram is set to private and he only has his first name on it. His Twitter is not private but he didn't use his name at all on that. But his Facebook has all of his pictures for anyone to see and some have me on them, and he uses his full name and so does his LinkedIn although not sure people would target his LinkedIn account.
Is there anything I should do with my own social media?
If it gets in the press is my house going to be targeted or random people message me with abuse?
Before OH's sentencing is there anything people recommend to do about social media?
Solicitor is supposed to write to CPS to request we can log into OHs social media accounts to delete them on his behalf, but if that is refused what should we do?
His instagram is set to private and he only has his first name on it. His Twitter is not private but he didn't use his name at all on that. But his Facebook has all of his pictures for anyone to see and some have me on them, and he uses his full name and so does his LinkedIn although not sure people would target his LinkedIn account.
Is there anything I should do with my own social media?
If it gets in the press is my house going to be targeted or random people message me with abuse?
Delete all of them. The media once got hold of someone's ouc on linkin on this forem. It's better there's no trace of him on Google at all. Then get barrister to ask for pic not to be used in media to protect you and your children. My person also changed his name and only new name being used but this was done b4 charges. Also take your own down incase they get a pic through yours etc, just incase but I doubt this will happen I don't trust them. We've did the no pic thing in court too so praying it will work. I'll let everyone know when it happens x
My husband deleted his before his hearing. Does he have restrictions that say he can't access his social media?
I've changed the settings on my FB so it's very private and removed loads of people from my contacts. I haven't decided but I may deactivate it for a couple of weeks. Sentencing is on Friday. We have a fairly common last name and they're not using our home address so I'm not overly concerned about random people finding us and close friends know anyway. It wouldn't be too difficult to find me if you knew it was me, but there shouldn't be anything to link us if you didn't know us as he doesn't have much of an online presence (ironically as it's a communication offence).
I've changed the settings on my FB so it's very private and removed loads of people from my contacts. I haven't decided but I may deactivate it for a couple of weeks. Sentencing is on Friday. We have a fairly common last name and they're not using our home address so I'm not overly concerned about random people finding us and close friends know anyway. It wouldn't be too difficult to find me if you knew it was me, but there shouldn't be anything to link us if you didn't know us as he doesn't have much of an online presence (ironically as it's a communication offence).
Our local media doesn't tend to share photos anyway unless it's a prolific offender, or a long sentence.
He is on remand so it is me who would have to delete the accounts. My FB is very private and I will remove pics of us but my OHs isn't and if someone was to scroll through his pics they would link me to him easily. He has avoided the media in magistrates and his plea hearing in crown, but knowing our luck it will be in the media at sentencing. We don't have kids so can't use that to request no pics be used.
Loulou how do you know for sure they're not using your home address? As my OH is on remand I hope they will say "of no fixed address" but I'm not sure how it works
Loulou how do you know for sure they're not using your home address? As my OH is on remand I hope they will say "of no fixed address" but I'm not sure how it works
He's not living here and he asked his solicitor who confirmed it would be where he is living now. They used his previous address for the plea hearing. He's in short term lets so moved after the last hearing and will be moving from this current one after Christmas. He also wasn't arrested at home, nor was the offending here (it was at work).
Sorry I forgot he was on remand. Can he give you the passwords so you can access them? I can't imagine it being an issue if all you're doing is deleting them. My husband's was also very public until i told him he needed to delete it.
Sorry I forgot he was on remand. Can he give you the passwords so you can access them? I can't imagine it being an issue if all you're doing is deleting them. My husband's was also very public until i told him he needed to delete it.
Oh I see that makes sense! That is good it's not your home address. My OH said he will give me the passwords but they're a bunch of random letters so we can't decide between him telling me over the phone, in a letter, or on my next visit which then relies on me remembering it correctly. I feel like phone would be best but he isn't comfortable saying it, but we may not have a choice
Lucy22
My son left his phone at home following the second knock
He was held on remand so sent a letter with all his passwords, we were able to delete all his social media including LinkedIn,
The only account we couldn't access was his Instagram account as this was part of his offences but after sentancing I asked his solicitor to contact the police and have them delete it, which they did but they still posted his crime and sentancing on there social media so it was there for everyone to see, we have not had any issues etc and no one has been any different other than been supportive,
We have no control over the media side of things and I refuse to let it become an issue it is old news now, this journey has been horrendous but I hold my head high because I have done nothing wrong, I support my son 100% I don't condone his actions but no means, but he is still my son so I will continue to walk by his side every step of the way xx
My son left his phone at home following the second knock
He was held on remand so sent a letter with all his passwords, we were able to delete all his social media including LinkedIn,
The only account we couldn't access was his Instagram account as this was part of his offences but after sentancing I asked his solicitor to contact the police and have them delete it, which they did but they still posted his crime and sentancing on there social media so it was there for everyone to see, we have not had any issues etc and no one has been any different other than been supportive,
We have no control over the media side of things and I refuse to let it become an issue it is old news now, this journey has been horrendous but I hold my head high because I have done nothing wrong, I support my son 100% I don't condone his actions but no means, but he is still my son so I will continue to walk by his side every step of the way xx
Do you have access to his social media? If so definitely lock them down or delete. Even if yih can't delete the accounts you can lock them down so information is limited and photos removed.
Look at all social media, there have been other people on here that have forgotten about LinkedIn. Unfortunately groups will go on the hunt for any information they can get.
I Googled my person and things related to him - Work, hobbies, interest groups etc and we tried to get as much removed about him as possible. There were things related to his work, papers he'd published etc that were online. Google search results take a while to disappear even if the page they are referring to no longer exist.
Make sure you do yours too. I'd suggest temporarily deactivating your account for the period leading up to and after - I came off for about 6 weeks / 2 months.
Look at all social media, there have been other people on here that have forgotten about LinkedIn. Unfortunately groups will go on the hunt for any information they can get.
I Googled my person and things related to him - Work, hobbies, interest groups etc and we tried to get as much removed about him as possible. There were things related to his work, papers he'd published etc that were online. Google search results take a while to disappear even if the page they are referring to no longer exist.
Make sure you do yours too. I'd suggest temporarily deactivating your account for the period leading up to and after - I came off for about 6 weeks / 2 months.
Hi Upset
So is it safe to send a letter with passwords on it even though prison guards will read it?
My OH’s instagram account may be part of his offences, but we don’t know for sure yet. I am a bit worried about deleting it if it turns out it is.
I assume police will post my OH’s crime on their news but I find the police ones are a lot tamer and don’t dramatize what happened, or at least they don’t seem to.
I am terrified that by sticking by him people will think of me differently but like you said we have done nothing wrong! We should not be judged for supporting someone we love.
Sal no unfortunately I don't know his passwords yet. He doesn't want social media anymore anyway but I am concious he may feel differently once released. I was going to deactivate not delete FB, but delete instagram if I can. My OH has some low key articles to do with his university degree online that we don't know how to delete unfortunately. The pics of him as a 20 year old are not exactly flattering either
Is there a reason to come off social media in the weeks leading up to sentencing? Does it affect anything vigilante groups can see?
So is it safe to send a letter with passwords on it even though prison guards will read it?
My OH’s instagram account may be part of his offences, but we don’t know for sure yet. I am a bit worried about deleting it if it turns out it is.
I assume police will post my OH’s crime on their news but I find the police ones are a lot tamer and don’t dramatize what happened, or at least they don’t seem to.
I am terrified that by sticking by him people will think of me differently but like you said we have done nothing wrong! We should not be judged for supporting someone we love.
Sal no unfortunately I don't know his passwords yet. He doesn't want social media anymore anyway but I am concious he may feel differently once released. I was going to deactivate not delete FB, but delete instagram if I can. My OH has some low key articles to do with his university degree online that we don't know how to delete unfortunately. The pics of him as a 20 year old are not exactly flattering either
Is there a reason to come off social media in the weeks leading up to sentencing? Does it affect anything vigilante groups can see?
I deleted my husbands accounts before court because he had no internet access at that point in time and we were not in the same property. Don't forget about linked in if he is on there. Ultimately deleting the accounts makes it easier post sentencing / release as it's one less thing that the police are monitoring your usuage of. It's a lot easier to delete them now than have to clear it with the police down the line.
A lot of social media sites have terms of us that ban convicted sex offenders from using their platforms. Facebook is one of those, but I believe there may be others. Obviously, unless someone reports it, Facebook doesn't know and doesn't ban you automatically.
I would recommend downloading the pictures from the sites before deleting the accounts, just incase. A lot of them have easy ways to do that.
Whether you delete your own on or it is personal choice. But I would definitely ensure you have anything you keep locked down and remove any photos of the 2 of you. I didn't delete my accounts but I have definitely changed what I share on them so it's less personal.
A lot of social media sites have terms of us that ban convicted sex offenders from using their platforms. Facebook is one of those, but I believe there may be others. Obviously, unless someone reports it, Facebook doesn't know and doesn't ban you automatically.
I would recommend downloading the pictures from the sites before deleting the accounts, just incase. A lot of them have easy ways to do that.
Whether you delete your own on or it is personal choice. But I would definitely ensure you have anything you keep locked down and remove any photos of the 2 of you. I didn't delete my accounts but I have definitely changed what I share on them so it's less personal.
Hi,
as previously said it's best to try and delete all social media for him, and Facebook/Instagram don't allow sex offenders. They don't know, but if reported they'll delete the account-sometimes visors don't like them having social media accounts either.
I deactivated my accounts around sentencing, then when I went back on changed all my settings so it's all private and I deleted posts and pictures which have my oh in. The media isn't allowed to post your photo, but they can say you are supportive and could search your social media if it has links to your oh. My oh went into the media and it was shared all over Facebook, I'm glad I wasn't on there so I didn't have to see this/read it/or have it posted on my page.
I have since gone back on and had no problems.
as previously said it's best to try and delete all social media for him, and Facebook/Instagram don't allow sex offenders. They don't know, but if reported they'll delete the account-sometimes visors don't like them having social media accounts either.
I deactivated my accounts around sentencing, then when I went back on changed all my settings so it's all private and I deleted posts and pictures which have my oh in. The media isn't allowed to post your photo, but they can say you are supportive and could search your social media if it has links to your oh. My oh went into the media and it was shared all over Facebook, I'm glad I wasn't on there so I didn't have to see this/read it/or have it posted on my page.
I have since gone back on and had no problems.
Hi,
as previously said it's best to try and delete all social media for him, and Facebook/Instagram don't allow sex offenders. They don't know, but if reported they'll delete the account-sometimes visors don't like them having social media accounts either.
I deactivated my accounts around sentencing, then when I went back on changed all my settings so it's all private and I deleted posts and pictures which have my oh in. The media isn't allowed to post your photo, but they can say you are supportive and could search your social media if it has links to your oh. My oh went into the media and it was shared all over Facebook, I'm glad I wasn't on there so I didn't have to see this/read it/or have it posted on my page.
I have since gone back on and had no problems.
as previously said it's best to try and delete all social media for him, and Facebook/Instagram don't allow sex offenders. They don't know, but if reported they'll delete the account-sometimes visors don't like them having social media accounts either.
I deactivated my accounts around sentencing, then when I went back on changed all my settings so it's all private and I deleted posts and pictures which have my oh in. The media isn't allowed to post your photo, but they can say you are supportive and could search your social media if it has links to your oh. My oh went into the media and it was shared all over Facebook, I'm glad I wasn't on there so I didn't have to see this/read it/or have it posted on my page.
I have since gone back on and had no problems.
That’s true it would be easier to just delete everything now than wait until OH get’s released. He doesn’t want me to delete Twitter as it was his favourite app, so maybe just deactivate it. This is of course if CPS let us deactivate any of them, we haven’t got permission yet.
I’ll be downloading all the pics of my OH, there’s so many memories on those social media accounts. It really makes you think though about how much you put of your life for all the world to see. He has his home town, school, the place he worked, for anyone to see.
Maybe I should change my name on social media too, so it’s not my full name. This is so hard to know what to do, I’m terrified what I’ll read in the press about my OH and that I’ll somehow be targeted
I’ll be downloading all the pics of my OH, there’s so many memories on those social media accounts. It really makes you think though about how much you put of your life for all the world to see. He has his home town, school, the place he worked, for anyone to see.
Maybe I should change my name on social media too, so it’s not my full name. This is so hard to know what to do, I’m terrified what I’ll read in the press about my OH and that I’ll somehow be targeted
I don't think you need to ask CPS to lock the profiles down I.e. Making sure nothing is visable to anyone that is not connected to him. Deactivating if you can't delete would be better as it's possible anyone connected to him pay share things about him.
I removed all images of me and my person from my socials. The reason I came off before the court date was because the sessions are listed in advance, not everyone has access to these, but I didn't want to risk it.
I removed all images of me and my person from my socials. The reason I came off before the court date was because the sessions are listed in advance, not everyone has access to these, but I didn't want to risk it.
That’s true, his Facebook was not used to offend so there should be no reason why he can’t give me the password to that and at least let me make everything private and set to ‘only me’, untag him from pics, and make it so people can’t post on his page. I’m paranoid the police will think he’s somehow accessed it from prison though and still feel like we need permission or they’ll make it even worse for him.
I have set everything on my pages to ‘only me’ or archived pics of me and him from my own social media accounts. It’s horrible to think but having to do all this makes me feel like he’s died…
I have set everything on my pages to ‘only me’ or archived pics of me and him from my own social media accounts. It’s horrible to think but having to do all this makes me feel like he’s died…