Advice - keep things documented
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Hello you lovely bunch,
I'm trying to stay off here at the moment to help with my mental health, I do feel guilty as I like to support as many people as possible but I think it's normal for most of us to take breaks from here intermittently.
As most of you know we're not far off from trial at all, it's days away. Well, it may not be going ahead. I really can't say too much at the moment as I am extremely cautious and anxious of being identified but I just wanted to advise (especially to newer members) that it is SO important we document everything in this journey. Every interaction with authorities you have, you need to date, document and keep a log just in case it may come in useful at a later date. Especially if the authorities are being off with you, ideally video/audio recordings would be best but it's not always practical. Documenting things asap after the event ensures accuracy, there are many things I have forgotten by now that I'm reminded of when reading back.
I will hopefully be able to explain my reasoning more and share news sooner rather than later as this will mean I am at the end of this awful journey.
Stay strong everyone, enjoy every day as much as you can, we're all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Lots of love x
I'm trying to stay off here at the moment to help with my mental health, I do feel guilty as I like to support as many people as possible but I think it's normal for most of us to take breaks from here intermittently.
As most of you know we're not far off from trial at all, it's days away. Well, it may not be going ahead. I really can't say too much at the moment as I am extremely cautious and anxious of being identified but I just wanted to advise (especially to newer members) that it is SO important we document everything in this journey. Every interaction with authorities you have, you need to date, document and keep a log just in case it may come in useful at a later date. Especially if the authorities are being off with you, ideally video/audio recordings would be best but it's not always practical. Documenting things asap after the event ensures accuracy, there are many things I have forgotten by now that I'm reminded of when reading back.
I will hopefully be able to explain my reasoning more and share news sooner rather than later as this will mean I am at the end of this awful journey.
Stay strong everyone, enjoy every day as much as you can, we're all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Lots of love x
BaffledB
Sending strength and hugs to you both
Once you are ready in yourself to talk then we are all here for you xx
Sending strength and hugs to you both
Once you are ready in yourself to talk then we are all here for you xx
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Baffled B/ Hugs sent x.
Baffled-totally agree I have written everything down from the day of the knock and documented it .
Having now had the evidence there are some complete lies in the police report which the solicitor is going to challenge.
Sending hugs to you
Having now had the evidence there are some complete lies in the police report which the solicitor is going to challenge.
Sending hugs to you
Sending love and strength to you Baffled and to all the other strong, wonderful women on this forum. I really hope that you have some good news coming your way. Take care xxx
Thank you all ladies! Xxx
Bitterbean - they defo do make mistakes and things aren't as cut and dry as they like to make out so definitely keep things noted and I am keeping my fingers crossed for you that you have a happy ending! X
Seaside - if the Police accounts of the arrest or other areas are not correct and exaggerate or lie about your partner's behaviour at the arrest this can be used by the prosecution to paint your partner in a bad light if it goes to trial so absolutely make sure that it is raised. Obviously your solicitor sounds like they're on the case but if nothing is sorted prior to going to trial (if that's the route it's going) then it should be put into his defence statement that the police statements should not be admissable because they are not accurate or correct. The statements by the police in our case are all very different and appalling, you can almost sense the venom from a couple of them which is so weird considering the actual evidence (or lack of) they had prior to the arrest. If you're going right through to trial where it comes down to a jury these kinds of things are pivotal as the prosecution will use everything they can to make your partner look bad. X
Bitterbean - they defo do make mistakes and things aren't as cut and dry as they like to make out so definitely keep things noted and I am keeping my fingers crossed for you that you have a happy ending! X
Seaside - if the Police accounts of the arrest or other areas are not correct and exaggerate or lie about your partner's behaviour at the arrest this can be used by the prosecution to paint your partner in a bad light if it goes to trial so absolutely make sure that it is raised. Obviously your solicitor sounds like they're on the case but if nothing is sorted prior to going to trial (if that's the route it's going) then it should be put into his defence statement that the police statements should not be admissable because they are not accurate or correct. The statements by the police in our case are all very different and appalling, you can almost sense the venom from a couple of them which is so weird considering the actual evidence (or lack of) they had prior to the arrest. If you're going right through to trial where it comes down to a jury these kinds of things are pivotal as the prosecution will use everything they can to make your partner look bad. X