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Need a wee bit of a rant. It was suppose yo be sentencing today, we knew last week it wasn't going to happen. We've everything ready except the pre sentencing report. Apparently his probation officer who was assigned to him moved on, then they said he was sick , barrister and his visor manager and me thi k it's judgemenral people in system again. We waited 18 months for evidence to be sent across, o my got done because the judge made them. Funny how suddenly it appeared I er night. He's been treated so badly by the system. All of this over 3 short convoys with a decoy teen. It makes me sick what he did but he's worked do hard on himself, he was made homeless lost his family, his job, got totally judged by mh nurse at hospital after his sucide attempt, they actually called social services on me because we were in contact and told a pack of lies. Complaint put in and if course the mh nurse has gone off sick. I don't fondine for one minute what he did but I really thi k he's been punished enough. I really hope he doesn't get sent down because he's on a bad way today it mightvfinush him I'm so worried. Rant over sorry for long post but needed to vent
Hi,
I’m sorry you’re being messed around by the legal system as well as having to go through all this! I know how you feel being worried sick about someone’s mental health. My OH’s sentencing is supposed to be next week but the pre-sentence report hasn’t been uploaded yet. Part of me wants it to be delayed as I’m terrified my OH will try to commit suicide once he’s been sentenced
I don’t have experience with social services but do feel the psychiatrist who assessed my OH was biased and judgmental and this has come across in the report. It is not fair, every one of these people is supposed to be a professional and that means not letting personal views affect your work. But police have dragged their heels giving information to OH’s solicitor and it’s not fair, it doesn’t give them time to prepare a defense either.
It's like all the authorities involved just want them to suffer and don’t care about the consequences of how it affects their loved ones
If your person does get sent to prison though just know it's not as bad as you think it is and he will be looked after especially during that first week
I’m sorry you’re being messed around by the legal system as well as having to go through all this! I know how you feel being worried sick about someone’s mental health. My OH’s sentencing is supposed to be next week but the pre-sentence report hasn’t been uploaded yet. Part of me wants it to be delayed as I’m terrified my OH will try to commit suicide once he’s been sentenced
I don’t have experience with social services but do feel the psychiatrist who assessed my OH was biased and judgmental and this has come across in the report. It is not fair, every one of these people is supposed to be a professional and that means not letting personal views affect your work. But police have dragged their heels giving information to OH’s solicitor and it’s not fair, it doesn’t give them time to prepare a defense either.
It's like all the authorities involved just want them to suffer and don’t care about the consequences of how it affects their loved ones
If your person does get sent to prison though just know it's not as bad as you think it is and he will be looked after especially during that first week
Thanks so much for your reply make me feel less alone but hate we have to go through this. We just heard back from barrister the judge has ordered the psr be in for 29th next court date for the 6th Jan. So not yet again judge had to order it be least it's getting done finally. I'm. Sorry yours hasn't arrived either, hopefully this limbo will be over soon, thank you fur the reassurance too. I can't imagine my life without him and him being locked up there, he's trued sucide twice but like you said, hopefully they'll help. Him. If he does
Newlady I'm so sorry it's been put back again I was only thinking of you over the weekend I remember you saying it was around the same time as my oh. We got told other day we was lucky has all the cases of this sort had been pushed back. It's silly a case is a case shouldn't matter about priority's. I hope you're ok x
Ahhh bless you for keeping me in your thoughts it means so much to me. I'm OK we kinda knew from last week. Least now it's been ordered by the judge and we have more time together too. Trying to be positive for him, he's much better now as am I thank you x
Yes at least you have Christmas now. My oh report didn't come through until the day before it was left really late so hopefully yours gets sorted now they don't care about anybody other than themselves x
Yeah I know, small positives, we can't have Christmas together as I've a 15 year old his sopo is no contact with under 16 year olds u less ss aproval so hell be spending Christmas at his hostel. But we'll have boxing day as my daughter with her dad. That was so late for psr. Its always like they are being constantly punished, as if they don't matter x
From what we got told from solicitor it's not uncommon for it to be night before I pursume it's so you can't have time to make up a decent plan. I hope you have the best Christmas that you can x
Same to you honey thank you again xx