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Janey3

Member since
December 2022

17 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 8:51amReport post

Hi all. I dont really know where to start.

My father was arrested last Sunday. Images of children were found on one of his ipads. He works for the local council.

Ive no idea how to begin to process this. I cant eat, sleep, work - anything at all. Im struggling to have a conversation with my own children without crying. I have told absolutely no body. My employer thinks i have covid.

I just dont know where to start.

Thank you for reading.

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 9:10amReport post

Hi I didn't want to read without saying hello .

The first couple of weeks are the hardest and all become an emotional blur. Have you spoken to parents/ partner about it. The helpline is useful too. If you're not ready to say it out loud they have the live chat Monday Wednesday and Friday selected times. I find this more useful. Use this page there's alot of helpful information for the early days.

I hope you're ok x

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 9:47amReport post

Hi Janey,

There are lots of us here to help support you and answer any questions you may have, it feels like your world has fallen apart but you're not alone. Right now just concentrate on looking after yourself and your kids, this takes a while to go through the process so things like court etc will be at least a few months off. When you're ready to ask questions we're here for you. There's plenty of things to read on here which also may help answer any questions you have xx

Janey3

Member since
December 2022

17 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 11:13amReport post

My sister and I are very close, we are talking daily. I just don't know how this has happened. I don't know what this means for the future.

Thank you for your kind words. I'm just numb.

RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 12:23pmReport post

Hi. Things do get easier. You learn to cope as best as you. Unfortunately this is a long and slow process and something none of us thought we'd ever experience but here we are.
Just focus on yourself and your children. It's all you can do and remember you're not alone. We are all in this situation and here to support one another.
Sending hugs x

Green

Member since
June 2021

76 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 3:16pmReport post

First of all, welcome to the one club no one wants to be part of <3

All your feelings right now are very normal as your life have been shaken drastically. Very very slowly but surely you'll start adapting to a new normal, but be patient and caring with yourself.

Has he looked for a solicitor yet? Has he been RUI?

Big hugs xx

Dragonmama

Member since
November 2022

251 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 11:02pmReport post

First off hi back I'm sorry you're here too,

the first couple of weeks are going to be very hard but you will get clarity eventually and be able to see more clearly, I suggest phoning the help line, they are genuinely so lovely, listen and help as much as they can.

I know how you are feeling and we are all here to help and be supportive.

I know how many emotions are going through you right now, just eat what you can doesn't matter what it is, sleep when you can, cry when you need to and try not to hold it in.

sending hugs and support xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

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Sadsister22

Member since
February 2022

95 posts

Posted Wed December 7, 2022 10:41amReport post

Hiya x

Sorry to welcome you here, I think we are all still in shock that we find ourself here.

The initial shock seems to send you into overdrive of worry, anxiety etc, this does settle but be prepared to ride the roller coaster of emotions.

It is a long journey, we waited 21 months for sentencing. My person received a community rehab order and tag, you will see from this forum no case is the same so try not to worry about what might be, deal with the process day by day.

Be kind to yourself and focus on you and your family. Its great you and your sister can talk through the situation as it helps. Many on the forum keep this to themselves or only share with very close trusted family/friends.

I hope you, your family and Dad are all ok x

Take care

Xx