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Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 5:57pmReport post

Hi,

Post sentencing, no contact restrictions, SS want to see a safety plan - can anyone advise what is in their safety plans for having offender home please or what I should be looking to include?
Im a bit confused as he has no restrictions, is allowed home so what is it they want from me? X

NMS

Member since
November 2021

97 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 7:08pmReport post

Hi, I found this difficult when we first did ours and I hunted for a template etc but couldn't find one, the one we ended up doing was praised by ss and we were told it probably went too far (? Is that a thing when protecting children?) we were then asked if ss could use it as an example with others. Brief summary (as I've not got it to hand)

Table headings - Area of concern, signs if any, safety measure, what potential issues to safety measure, additional support needed

Things we put in

Children's mental health, courses to know signs, having a note book for them, know who they can go to, ss help

Knowing signs of abuse, courses, code word between children and me

Never being alone (we added this but said we were keen on unsupervised), calls if going to be late, boys not going in house if only oh car n to ring me to sort oh leaving or staying in car

Camera inside our bedroom door, alarm n notifications sent to my phone only

WiFi password changed and only my knowing it, rest access Internet through a Deco device which allows me to monitor and restrict access

Accountability software on oh phone so I can see activity

Extended network for help, or oh mom n dad (people who know) also someone for the children to be able to go to



We also had a chat with our boys about what ss thought their dad's danger to them was, they both spoke to ss to say the understood and were not worried about anything.

These may help, I know they may not be relevant depending on children's ages as ours are now both teenagers (12/15 at time though)

I was signed off as protective n oh had been home since end of Feb (knock Oct)

Hope this helps and good luck, I know ss have been one of the worse parts for me.

NMS

Member since
November 2021

97 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 7:08pmReport post

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Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Tue December 6, 2022 10:11pmReport post

Thank you very much for sharing.

my children are a bit younger. Can I ask at what point did SS say ok you can have unsupervised ? Were you allowed to say - go shopping or see you friends and leave children with oh when he first moved back? X

NMS

Member since
November 2021

97 posts

Posted Wed December 7, 2022 7:54amReport post

Morning, we were on a CIN to start with and I was told small things to start, like giving a lift to eldest so long as I let ss know in advance, so I emailed her the one time and asked did she want emails everytime, we then had 1 CIN meeting and was signed off and I was left to do "what I thought was right" in regards unsupervised.

We have had no contact from ss since, Askrigg sentencing Wednesday next week so I'm assuming they will be back in touch then.

Good luck xx

Green

Member since
June 2021

76 posts

Posted Wed December 7, 2022 9:02amReport post

Hello NMS,

May I ask, where did you got the courses from, specially the one about spotting signs?

I reckon those will be very helpful for me!

Much appreciated!

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Wed December 7, 2022 9:59amReport post

Green

I did a 12 week program and social services referred me to it through a family worker. Not sure if yours if you are still involved and are involved with them can do that for you x

NMS

Member since
November 2021

97 posts

Posted Wed December 7, 2022 6:08pmReport post

Hi, the course I did I found on wowcher, I googled safe guarding children and young adults courses and quite a few came up, I did one by NCC resources