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RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 12:29amReport post

Hi All.
Somethings been bothering me since we had the Knock several months ago.
Our situation is similar to many others here. OH had chatted to a minor who turned out to be a decoy. Not sure if it was a vigilante or the police. No information was given during the interview. As you can imagine, my whole life and world fell apart. I couldn't understand how someone who claimed to love me so completely could have been doing this all this time?? I had so many questions but I don't think I'll ever get all the answers.
My OH insisted he went online occasionally when he was bored. He said he only ever chatted when he was at work. As soon as he walked in through the door, he left all the online stuff behind. He could separate that life from his regular life. He insisted he never used the app (kik) or chatted when he was home. All apps/chatting was done using his work phone which is a business contract registered to his work place so how or why did the police come to our home to arrest him?
I can't understand how this happened. Wouldn't they have gone to his work address because the phone:number is registered to the company and it would have used work Wi-Fi to connect to the apps?

Ive asked him so many times but keep getting the same response that he doesn't know either.
Any help would be appreciated. Thank you x

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 3:35amReport post

Hey.

From what I understand from what I was told it goes on ip address so it would be his phone/laptop. My oh work phone has there own safety stuff on so you can't look at anything you shouldn't. Hopefully somebody else may have better information x

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 10:23amReport post

My husband was very similar to yours and he was arrested at work. They did then come to our home and collect some of the devices he used at home. I've never asked him about what happened when he was arrested (I was too angry at the time and the moment has gone, he's not good at talking about anything, let alone this stuff) and whether he gave them our home details or if they already knew them.

RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 12:07pmReport post

Thank you loulou74 and scaredandconfused.

This keeps going over and over in my mind. It's the thought that he was probably doing this whilst sat watch tv and me as usual in the kitchen cooking his dinner. Makes me so mad when he says he did it only because he was bored and had time on his hands. I wish I had had time to get bored.
Thank you again x

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 12:37pmReport post

I know how you feel. My husband's was a police decoy. Like you, I can't understand why he did it. He had been chatting to women for 2 years! That's not a slip-up or momentary madness. He says he was using it as a distraction from stuff he felt he couldn't talk about with me. We were both going through a difficult time with various things. But as I said above, he's not good at talking about emotions or difficult stuff, I don't think he would have talked to me even if I didn't have other stuff going on.
He also said he was going this at work, but I'm not convinced that he wasn't also doing this at home.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 1:20pmReport post

My person told me the 3 times he had the combos I was at work he was working fro. Home, this is true as I've seen the evidence and the times he did it, they were very short and quick. Suppose seeing the evidence is the only way to get confirmation xx

RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 8:44pmReport post

As much as I'd like to see what the police come back with so I know exactly what was happening behind my back, I do hope and pray they drop this due to insufficient evidence (arrested due to 1 chat with a minor). Right now I don't know what I'll do if more comes to light but then again, if more does come up then there's no two ways about it. The choice would have been made for me.
Sending you all strength and hope. X

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Sun December 11, 2022 10:14pmReport post

For me, i don't think seeing the evidence will help. He had 2 chats with minors 18 months apart which he was charged with, both police decoys. The rest of the chats though won't be in the evidence as they were chats with women, they're not illegal but they're something I'm not happy he was doing, particularly if it was at home while I was sitting near him.