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Mumof3girls

My heart really does go out to you

The day needs to happen but it dosent make all the uncertainty any better

I cant imagine what it must be like to go through this with also having children to think of also

In my situation it is my son who offended

I hope tomorrow has a fair outcome for you all



Sending strength and hugs to you all xx

Mumof3girls

My son is my world and I am walking this journey with him every step of the way, my other 2 amazing young adults are there for him also,

I'm so pleased your mother in law is there for you all, dosent it make a difference

Your children give you the reason to carry on and your husband is extremely lucky to have you by his side

I hope and have everything crossed for your outcome tomorrow and pray for the best possible outcome xx

Mumof3girls, I think I have spoken to you before on this forum. I wish you all the best for tomorrow and I'll be thinking about you

Very best of luck for tomorrow. Our stories are very similar. Hubby lost his job so we also lost our home. I had just given birth to our only child a week before the arrest and had started maternity leave on statutory pay so couldn't afford to pay mortgage and bills on that. It was another huge blow after the shock of the arrest and trying to process this crime. I ended up throwing away most of our possessions because i flew back to the country I'm from for support with a newborn for a few months and just took 2 suitcases of clothes for us. I was a wreck. I lost everything including any bit of pride or self-worth.

I still love my husband and have many years of good memories but the ending a year ago was traumatic and I'm still processing it. I'm trying to support him as a friend as most of his family and friends have turned their backs on him, but his actions has absolutely wrecked my life. We had finally planned on starting a family after years of waiting to be ready. I still don't understand how he could do this when he was about to be a father himself. I think we will both need a lot of therapy to move forward. Now i live with his parents and our little child who turns 1 this weekend and has not seen dad since the knock last Christmas. Its the most heartbreaking crime with huge ramifications. You hear about sex offenders but don't give it a second thought until you're thrown into this nightmare. Xx

Mumof3girls,

Sending you the best of luck for tomorrow. Xx

I have this in a few weeks, my heart goes out to you, I'll light a wee candle for you, hoping for the best outcome for you all xx

Wishing you the very best of luck for tomorrow I will be keeping everything crossed and praying for a good outcome for you and your family.

sending you lots of love and strength xx

I'll be thinking of you too. Sentencing was delayed for us until after Christmas. I so wanted it to be over and done with, despite dreading the outcome.

I hope everything goes ok tomorrow.

In response to your how do you prepare... I don't think you fully can I thought I had. I tried explaining to my just turned 4 year old that his daddy might have to go away for a while it broke mine and my husband's heart. I thought I'd mentally prepared until we got to the court and I realised I hadn't. Just take deep breaths and get through it as best as you can and know that whatever happens you have a lot of people on here that are here for you after whatever the outcome x

All the best . Thoughts for tomorrow . Your strong and have made it this far you can do it . Eveen though it's hard you will get through it xxxx

Good luck x

We have had sentencing today so I know exactly how you are feeling, last night was full of tears for me at everything followed by very little sleep, its so hard.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow and going for the best for you xx

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Thinking of you today and wishing you the best xx

Thinking of you today and sending you lots of love xx

Mumof3girls

You are all in my thoughts today xx

My thoughts are with you today x

Bless you all xxxx

Hi Mumof3girls

I am so pleased to hear your news- what a huge relief for you all.

Keep looking after yourself, as the coming days can still be hard as you process it all.

That's fantastic, I bet that's a relief.



I think SOR is 7 years if sentence is less than 6 months.

That's great news so pleased for you.

You can now move forward and focus on rebuilding your family.

Mumof3girls, that is fantastic. May I ask what his charges were?

Such a relief for you!! So glad for you he's home xx

Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. No one can ever prepare you for a custodial sentence..... I was in an absolute whirl wind of emotions and fear. I'm 14 months on now, and although I feel alot of things are still in limbo, life goes on and you learn to adapt really quickly.

I have everything's crossed for a good outcome for you xx

Mumof3girls

So pleased hubby is home with you all a huge relief

Sending hugs to you all xx

You've both been in my thoughts all day, I'm so pleased at outcome, now you can both move on with your beautiful children put this nightmare behind you the best you can xx

Wow. No SHPO, did they say why?

That's the part that worries me most.

So pleased for you all, have a lovely Christmas x

Hi mumof3girls

Not sure ow it works has my oh got 18 months suspended for two years for making a,b,c but he got 5 years sor and shpo. His sor conditions say about contact with children of 12 hours or more have to be notified so that may be part of his sor conditions so just be careful with him being home incase that's on there because they can class it as a breach. We had my oh full sentence review within a hour of sentencing with all conditions and everything in email

Oh that's good then we only aren't allowed mine home because of the poor service from SS the woman needs retraining

Mumof3girls,

I'm so pleased for you! It's great to see some fair outcomes. You can now enjoy some time at Xmas xx

Mumof3girls

At last you are through to the other side and the sentence is not as bad as it could have been seiieing what some others have reported on here. I hope things go smoothly for you and you family going forward.