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JB72

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October 2018

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Posted Tue April 30, 2019 10:59pmReport post

does anybody have a similar experience? My husband is currently under investigation for facilitating to abuse a minor (no pics) we are almost 7 months post knock and I’ve had a call from the child protection officer leading the case asking if she and a couple of colleagues can come and see me tomorrow, she said it would only take 15 mins, what could it be? And has anybody had experience of this?

tia

jb

Trying to keep it together

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February 2019

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Posted Wed May 1, 2019 7:46amReport post

Hey JB72,

No experience of this myself but I have read online that this can happen and it's usually just a fact finding mission to understand your husband and his personality etc more.

Let us know how you get on.

Tttkit

JB72

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October 2018

108 posts

Posted Wed May 1, 2019 9:14amReport post

Thanks ttkit

im terrified I’ve hardly slept all night, I’m scared they’re gonna tell me somthing I don’t want to hear but as the investigation is still ongoing I don’t know how that would work without a formal interview??

how are you and hubby? Any closer to a decision from cps?

Trying to keep it together

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February 2019

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Posted Wed May 1, 2019 9:27amReport post

Just take it for what it is, that they just want to chat and probably information gather.

We haven't heard from investigating officer for 5 weeks now, to be honest we've had alot on with work and life that we have just buried our heads a little and tried to have a period where we dont talk about it and no one is chasing. We are on holiday at the moment with the dog and have said we will contact the investigating officer once we are back next week. Mainly I want to know that they found nothing more on his iPad(hes told me there isn't anything and I have no reason to not believe him having had the other devices come back clear) but I just want that from the police so we know that we are dealing with a single incident and they aren't going to try make something more out of anything else if you get me? CPS in our area seem to be exceptionally slow unless you commit or try to commit a contact offence so we are just in the waiting game.

Have you got someone with you at home for the meeting? What time are they due?

Tttkit

JB72

Member since
October 2018

108 posts

Posted Thu May 2, 2019 9:33amReport post

Hi ttkit

its not looking good, they came to tell me after looking at his devices they maintain my daughter and any other child is at risk, the are interviewing him again on the 21st and looking to charge him but they don’t know what with yet, they said from then it will go to cps taking roughly 4 weeks for this area, so I’m looking at my world falling apart all over again in approximately 2 months time! How do I prepare for it? I know we’ve buried our heads for that last 7 months and something had to happen but I feel like the knock has just happened all over again :(

Trying to keep it together

Member since
February 2019

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Posted Thu May 2, 2019 12:05pmReport post

Hey JB,

Oh no I'm sorry it wasnt what you wanted from the meeting.

So things to think about are that it's a non contact offence, hes stated proactively addressing the issue, hes told them what he knows. These will all go in his favour.

Did the police say why they wanted to interview him again? Did they find anything else on devices or dont you know yet?

I know its tough but it's just about taking it a step at a time and as ever being practical.

Has hubby told work what's going on at all?

Ttkit

JB72

Member since
October 2018

108 posts

Posted Thu May 2, 2019 10:09pmReport post

Hi ttkit

husband had told me from the beginning that they would find several conversations so I was expecting that, he hasn’t said anything to work and has no intention unless absolutely necessary, it’s nothing he wasn’t expecting and he is still quietly confident because at the end of the day it was all just fantasy but it’s convincing them of that and waiting to see what the charge would be, we’re going away next week (a holiday booked before all this) which we will try and be normal, I’m still taking each day as it comes and trying my best to have a normal family life but we at least now have a better time frame x

Trying to keep it together

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February 2019

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Posted Fri May 3, 2019 9:27pmReport post

Hey JB,

Sorry I've been out of signal for last few days!

At least they didn't tell you anything you haven't already been told which is reassuring for you.

Holiday as ever will do you the world of good I'm sure :) I hope you all have a lovely time.

The charges will be the next big step but just deal with as it comes as we all do and that it doesn't knock you too much.

Ttkit