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It's so hard, Green Yellow. I still love my husband and I think he will always be my best friend. He has also moved out and we speak every day.



I am hoping to get couples counselling with him when I feel stronger. Have you tried anything like that?

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I'm in the exact same situation.

I do have feelings for him, but I've decided to focus on myself 100% and my kids and let that fluid. It'll be what it'll be. And if he ends up away with someone else, well, so be it.

As for me, I'm no longer scared of being alone. And it's such a liberating feeling.

There really isn't a right or wrong answer, just how your gut feels.

I wrote about this recently. Unfortunately I cannot afford for us to live separately. I would be interested on how people managed this. We have no family he can go to and since losing his job i only have my salary to pay the bills so i am unable to afford a second place. I love my husband, but my councillor has told me i need to make some sort of decision as i am living in limbo, and cannot move on with my life until I do make that decision. The problem is i am starting to resent his freedom while i am tied down with a job paying for everything. His health is failing as though he trying to get money from sickness benefit, he will be unable to work.

But there is no time frame, and though i understand you comment about it being unfair to him, he is the one who put you in this position.



i hope you find some peace in 2023. Xx

You and I are in the same boat green yellow Post sentencing, haven't made a decision about the long term, though we are trying to give it a go and I have let him move back in.
I have to do lots of things as a single parent now he's on the SOR. I'm resentful. I do have feelings for him but I think I have a barrier up to protect myself. I've never told him I love him since prior to the knock, I don't show him any love yet I expect him to be making the effort. I think regarding time - they've done this to us, if they love us they will wait as long as it takes. I've not promised him it will work, I need time to work it out and I do hope in time I can make an effort. It may not be healthy at the moment but im protecting myself. I need to get mentally stronger.
My life would be easier, simpler without him in it, im not scared of being on my own, I'm independent and could probably afford the house on my own although it would be tight. But he is the father of my children and I do have feelings for him and have been Together a long time x

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Thank you Bluebell48 for sharing your story. It has given me things to think about in my life. Xx