How will I process this
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It is so difficult to process the trouble my son has brought on himself and his family.
Did he understand he was doing wrong online or was he grossly niave?
My heart is breaking for him and for us.
How do I go forward when both he and my husband are finding it difficult to talk about.
Did he understand he was doing wrong online or was he grossly niave?
My heart is breaking for him and for us.
How do I go forward when both he and my husband are finding it difficult to talk about.
Hi HappierTimes
first off I would like to say welcome to the group of family and friends of whom none of us wish to be part of but are. I'm sorry you and your husband are a part of this world now.
whatever your son has done I suggest you read through the forum there are a lot of people going through the same thing. It will make you and your husband feel a little less isolated to look it over what everyone is putting, just don't compare as all cases are different.
There is also the helpline which is amazing the people whom you talk with will make you feel more at ease, talking with your husband will come in time, the helpline may even suggest ways of doing this. Alternatively you could go to your local gp and ask for counselling.
It will take time and a lot of patience to find out why your son has done things, if he meant to or not, answers do not come easily but try and have an open mind with whatever your son tries to disclose to you
im not sure how you found out about your son but my person was through vigilantes which didn't help at all with trying to hide it from everyone knowing. Just tell people you want or think need to know at this point. Whether you chose to support or not support your son is entirely your decision but don't make any hasty decisions based on anger or hurt.
I am truely sorry that you have to go though all of this and hope you and your husband will one day soon start talking about it with each other, you both need support and your partnership is the best type of support to have. please remember both of you this and none of it is your fault, you raised your son to be a good person unfortunately things sometimes take a turn for the worse but again this is not your fault.
I also hope that you find support here, sending hugs xx
first off I would like to say welcome to the group of family and friends of whom none of us wish to be part of but are. I'm sorry you and your husband are a part of this world now.
whatever your son has done I suggest you read through the forum there are a lot of people going through the same thing. It will make you and your husband feel a little less isolated to look it over what everyone is putting, just don't compare as all cases are different.
There is also the helpline which is amazing the people whom you talk with will make you feel more at ease, talking with your husband will come in time, the helpline may even suggest ways of doing this. Alternatively you could go to your local gp and ask for counselling.
It will take time and a lot of patience to find out why your son has done things, if he meant to or not, answers do not come easily but try and have an open mind with whatever your son tries to disclose to you
im not sure how you found out about your son but my person was through vigilantes which didn't help at all with trying to hide it from everyone knowing. Just tell people you want or think need to know at this point. Whether you chose to support or not support your son is entirely your decision but don't make any hasty decisions based on anger or hurt.
I am truely sorry that you have to go though all of this and hope you and your husband will one day soon start talking about it with each other, you both need support and your partnership is the best type of support to have. please remember both of you this and none of it is your fault, you raised your son to be a good person unfortunately things sometimes take a turn for the worse but again this is not your fault.
I also hope that you find support here, sending hugs xx
Dragonmama:
Thank you for you reply and advice. We are supporting our son. We cannot abandon him. He has had a lot of bad luck and needs the stability of home. I hate what he has been involved with but feel he has enough to worry about knowing he has done wrong.
we are hoping he can take a course to help him come to terms. His probation officer will help he says. In the meantime I will look around here as you suggest.
Thank you for you reply and advice. We are supporting our son. We cannot abandon him. He has had a lot of bad luck and needs the stability of home. I hate what he has been involved with but feel he has enough to worry about knowing he has done wrong.
we are hoping he can take a course to help him come to terms. His probation officer will help he says. In the meantime I will look around here as you suggest.
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