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You should sit down and talk to him. In my opinion you have every right to see that paperwork as this is your entire future and you deserve the truth to make the right decision for you xx
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No much advise but just wanted to send you hugs xx
Totally agree with what Newlady has said he needs to be totally honest with you
No much advise but just wanted to send you hugs xx
Totally agree with what Newlady has said he needs to be totally honest with you
I would recommend asking to get him to allow full disclosure with the solicitor so you can access to the info. That way if he says yes then you don't need to admit you find further information beforehand, but also you will be able to get the whole picture.
If he refuses then that isn't fair to you, he brought this horrible mess onto your family. Unfortunately many offenders do like on the severity of their offending. The courses are helpful but the offender has to take it in and take it seriously.
My partner denied it all at first, then said it wasn't that many, and then had to admit it had been going on for a very long time. However I came on the scene after he was lying to everyone. By the time we met he has been honest -as far as I know (I was there at the crown sentencing, tho the evidence was horrendous, it was what I was expecting based on his side of the story).
If he refuses then that isn't fair to you, he brought this horrible mess onto your family. Unfortunately many offenders do like on the severity of their offending. The courses are helpful but the offender has to take it in and take it seriously.
My partner denied it all at first, then said it wasn't that many, and then had to admit it had been going on for a very long time. However I came on the scene after he was lying to everyone. By the time we met he has been honest -as far as I know (I was there at the crown sentencing, tho the evidence was horrendous, it was what I was expecting based on his side of the story).
I am so sorry this is happening, Please don't feel a mug. I am in the same boat. He was arrested in Nov and I knew the charges regarding online conversations but wasn't ready to see the full conversation until today. It was far worse than he made out and over a longer period of time.
I have also yesterday discovered that he was dismissed from his job due to inappropriate sexual communication with 8 different women, some of whom he he had relationships with, over a 4 year period. Again he told me he had been dismissed purely due to bullying allegations which were linked to an undiagnosed borderline personality disorder at the time.
I feel like such an idiot for trying to be so understanding and supportive. he is remanded in custody awaiting sentencing as he was suicidal and is again, and I had been speaking to him most days ... I've today told him I know everything and do not want any contact with him other than the prearranged weekly phone calls he has with the kids.
he still tried to make excuses, he called me back even though I had asked him not to. He even called his mum and got her to phone me and pass on a message. I've had my eyes well and truly opened to how manipulative he has been for years of our marriage .
m it is earth shattering but at least I know the worst now, so if you can bear it I would ask for full disclosure, it must be better than having to hear it in court!
I have also yesterday discovered that he was dismissed from his job due to inappropriate sexual communication with 8 different women, some of whom he he had relationships with, over a 4 year period. Again he told me he had been dismissed purely due to bullying allegations which were linked to an undiagnosed borderline personality disorder at the time.
I feel like such an idiot for trying to be so understanding and supportive. he is remanded in custody awaiting sentencing as he was suicidal and is again, and I had been speaking to him most days ... I've today told him I know everything and do not want any contact with him other than the prearranged weekly phone calls he has with the kids.
he still tried to make excuses, he called me back even though I had asked him not to. He even called his mum and got her to phone me and pass on a message. I've had my eyes well and truly opened to how manipulative he has been for years of our marriage .
m it is earth shattering but at least I know the worst now, so if you can bear it I would ask for full disclosure, it must be better than having to hear it in court!
You are not a mug. You trusted your partner, which is normal. But you deserve 100% honesty. You're allowed to ask as many questions as you want to make the right decisions for you. He should understand this. Sending you lots of love xx
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