Why a gesture means so much
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Evening everyone
So nearly at that time of year and for most of us it brings mixed emotions
Today at work someone left me a bottle of wine and some chocolates on my desk with a note to say (he knows my situation)
A small token to say thank you for been such an amazing strong person , how he cannot believe how I have coped at work with everything that has happened he said he would never have known what I was dealing with if he didn't know
I know this journey is horrendous, but through all of this I am really appreciated and it meant so much
xx
So nearly at that time of year and for most of us it brings mixed emotions
Today at work someone left me a bottle of wine and some chocolates on my desk with a note to say (he knows my situation)
A small token to say thank you for been such an amazing strong person , how he cannot believe how I have coped at work with everything that has happened he said he would never have known what I was dealing with if he didn't know
I know this journey is horrendous, but through all of this I am really appreciated and it meant so much
xx
That really is lovely - But also well done on appearing to be able to function! You come across and extremely strong and resilient. You are right these gestures that show empathy for the situation we find ourselves in, really do touch us with such warmth.
I met a family on prison visits, seeing their warm and knowing smile on visits was such a huge comfort and they made the whole experience much more bareable. On their last visit (their person served their time) they gave me a small gift, a card and an open invitation to call whenever I needed. It was such a touching gesture. Equally though I have a friend who asks about him and checks on on me, this has meant a huge amount to me - I'll be eternally grateful for the kindness and compassion she's shown to me with these small gestures and providing me a safe space.
I hope you and your family have a lovely visit on Saturday.
I met a family on prison visits, seeing their warm and knowing smile on visits was such a huge comfort and they made the whole experience much more bareable. On their last visit (their person served their time) they gave me a small gift, a card and an open invitation to call whenever I needed. It was such a touching gesture. Equally though I have a friend who asks about him and checks on on me, this has meant a huge amount to me - I'll be eternally grateful for the kindness and compassion she's shown to me with these small gestures and providing me a safe space.
I hope you and your family have a lovely visit on Saturday.
Thank you SAL
At times I have nearly given up but I haven't my son needs me and so do my amazing other 2 young adults
How lovely is that family to do that honestly I can totally relate to what you have said
We have met a lovely lady on visits
When my son was on remand I felt so on edge on visits as it was mixed but now it is so different, most people talk and Smile
I wish you the warmest of wishes this weekend
xx
At times I have nearly given up but I haven't my son needs me and so do my amazing other 2 young adults
How lovely is that family to do that honestly I can totally relate to what you have said
We have met a lovely lady on visits
When my son was on remand I felt so on edge on visits as it was mixed but now it is so different, most people talk and Smile
I wish you the warmest of wishes this weekend
xx
That's lovely Upset - just a little compassion/understanding in our journey means the absolute world, priceless and gives you such boost.
have a good visit come Christmas Eve x
have a good visit come Christmas Eve x
It does Smile and thank you x
May your Christmas be warm with love and let the laughter outweigh the sadness
And I will hug my son in the same way you would yours, he will moan Mum that hug is to tight and I will say I know but this hug is for the sons and partners that are in the same situation and its even more important as its that time of year ,and I know he will hug me back even tighter and say it means so much that we have you xx
May your Christmas be warm with love and let the laughter outweigh the sadness
And I will hug my son in the same way you would yours, he will moan Mum that hug is to tight and I will say I know but this hug is for the sons and partners that are in the same situation and its even more important as its that time of year ,and I know he will hug me back even tighter and say it means so much that we have you xx
Thats lovely upset mum! So nice when people are supportive of you.
my work colleagues don't know what I've gone/going thru and I think they think I am a gibberish emotional wreck for no reason.
have a lovely Xmas x
my work colleagues don't know what I've gone/going thru and I think they think I am a gibberish emotional wreck for no reason.
have a lovely Xmas x
Jayjay
As much as I hate this journey I have been open and honest x the more we talk about it it has to be a good thing x
As much as I hate this journey I have been open and honest x the more we talk about it it has to be a good thing x
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It's not silly at all Smile x
Just a few people are aware at my place of work but they have been so supportive so I am truly grateful, x
Just a few people are aware at my place of work but they have been so supportive so I am truly grateful, x
Upset mum
thars so lovely, I really admire those that can confide in someone. The only person I can talk to about it is my husband so I feel very alone. I am such an outgoing person with lots of friends and gorgeous kids who I share everything with so it's bloomin' hard to keep it to myself. I just daren't risk telling anyone a) out of utter embarrassment and b) I just don't want anyone to turn on him (which I know is a bizarre thing to say). Regardless of what May or may not come back from his devices I know he is a good person who is 100% not a P!
Sending love to all on here who find themselves on this horrible journey!!
thars so lovely, I really admire those that can confide in someone. The only person I can talk to about it is my husband so I feel very alone. I am such an outgoing person with lots of friends and gorgeous kids who I share everything with so it's bloomin' hard to keep it to myself. I just daren't risk telling anyone a) out of utter embarrassment and b) I just don't want anyone to turn on him (which I know is a bizarre thing to say). Regardless of what May or may not come back from his devices I know he is a good person who is 100% not a P!
Sending love to all on here who find themselves on this horrible journey!!
To be honest, I often wonder how many, of all the people I know, are going through the same thing but they haven't told me. I mean, so many people are being arrested for internet based sex offences, there must be a good chance, statistically speaking, that each of us knows someone, other than our family member, even if we don't know (if you know what I mean), especially if if we have a fairly large circle of friends, relatives, work colleagues and aquaintances.
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Ladies,
Again all I can feel is the understanding and the genuine compassion each and everyone of you wonderful humans show
Our loved ones are far from what society is quick to label them as , my son is an offender but this does NOT define the person he is and neither does it define your loved ones
I wish each and every single one of you Christmas Warmth and just to say you are all incredibly strong , and Amazing
Today we have a visit with my son and his beautiful sister and his brother are going so our first small family time together in 16 months I will cherish today always
Only happy tears are allowed today
Smile I wish you and yours love and a sprinkling of happiness (no tears allowed)
Hugs to you all xxx
Again all I can feel is the understanding and the genuine compassion each and everyone of you wonderful humans show
Our loved ones are far from what society is quick to label them as , my son is an offender but this does NOT define the person he is and neither does it define your loved ones
I wish each and every single one of you Christmas Warmth and just to say you are all incredibly strong , and Amazing
Today we have a visit with my son and his beautiful sister and his brother are going so our first small family time together in 16 months I will cherish today always
Only happy tears are allowed today
Smile I wish you and yours love and a sprinkling of happiness (no tears allowed)
Hugs to you all xxx
Upset - have a good visit. I bet your son will be so excited with a family group visit.
will be thinking about you x
will be thinking about you x
Upset I hope you have a wonderful visit today with your son and how lovely that his brother and sister will be there as well I'm sure it will mean the world to him.
Hug him tightly and hug yourself too -you are one amazing Mum xx
Hug him tightly and hug yourself too -you are one amazing Mum xx
Smile and Seaside
Thank you both so much
It was more than I could have asked for
We are so used to me and his sister hugging him but it made my heart ache when my son and his brother hugged, we talked, we laughed and it was so good to be together
Then leaving both the boys hugged so tightly
I thought my heart would burst xx
Thank you both so much
It was more than I could have asked for
We are so used to me and his sister hugging him but it made my heart ache when my son and his brother hugged, we talked, we laughed and it was so good to be together
Then leaving both the boys hugged so tightly
I thought my heart would burst xx
That's so lovely Upset.
Smile x
It was beautiful to see
I gave my son a hug for you and your son xx
It was beautiful to see
I gave my son a hug for you and your son xx
Bless your heart x
i have been a bit down today but I do try to count my blessings. I haven't seen my boy but he's not neglected or abandoned. Our relationship remains strong.
At the beginning my son said he'd face up to what he's done and he has - coped so well with prison.
There's no illness, we live - we breathe and that's what counts more than anything at the end of the day. The future - well that'll take care of itself.
i have been a bit down today but I do try to count my blessings. I haven't seen my boy but he's not neglected or abandoned. Our relationship remains strong.
At the beginning my son said he'd face up to what he's done and he has - coped so well with prison.
There's no illness, we live - we breathe and that's what counts more than anything at the end of the day. The future - well that'll take care of itself.
Smile
I know how you feel but you hold your head high and be strong
Your son is loved by you and that is certainly clear to see
You may not have seen him but you are there every step of the way with him
I am fortunate that I get to see my son but if they didn't have us I could not imagine how difficult it would be
There are so many that have no contact
How sad is that
So get up in the morning, and enjoy your day with your family and your son will be in your heart always xx
I know how you feel but you hold your head high and be strong
Your son is loved by you and that is certainly clear to see
You may not have seen him but you are there every step of the way with him
I am fortunate that I get to see my son but if they didn't have us I could not imagine how difficult it would be
There are so many that have no contact
How sad is that
So get up in the morning, and enjoy your day with your family and your son will be in your heart always xx
We'll chat too - no doubt about the delicacy of a prison Christmas dinner which will probably be supported by a kettle meal later .....
Thankyou for your support - your comments have really helped me today.
Thankyou for your support - your comments have really helped me today.
I know the food is not great and my son has a eating disorder so he depends on the canteen
But the inmates are aware and they swap some of their food for him,
He is going to call tomorrow so will no doubt say how crap his xmas day meal is a slice of Turkey maybe but I can tell him be grateful as for the first time in years my daughter and her boyfriend is cooking, I usually cook so will probably get the shits lol but a small price to pay not having to cook lol xx
But the inmates are aware and they swap some of their food for him,
He is going to call tomorrow so will no doubt say how crap his xmas day meal is a slice of Turkey maybe but I can tell him be grateful as for the first time in years my daughter and her boyfriend is cooking, I usually cook so will probably get the shits lol but a small price to pay not having to cook lol xx