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OH was charged earlier this month, in court early Jan. He immediately enlisted a better Solicitor than he had on arrest, and says that he has been very helpful. Solicitor also referred him to therapist and he had first session earlier this week.
Part of me is relieved that we now know what we're facing more, ie what charges etc, and there is hopefully an end in sight, but the rest of me is terrified of what is going to happen. Terrified he's going to go to prison, terrified it's going to end up in the papers, terrified we're going to have to tell more people than already know. Solicitor has said he thinks it unlikely he will go to prison due to the number of images being so low, but obviously can't guarantee it.
I'm trying to stay positive and get through Christmas as best we can, but I'm back to hardly sleeping, having flashbacks to the knock etc and I feel sick with anxiety every waking moment. Life this Christmas is so so different from all previous ones, OH is out of work because of the knock, so money is very tight, and I'm heartbroken that things are this way, but I can't change it.
If anyone has any advice or tips for things he or I can/should do in the run up to court and the day of court I'd really appreciate it.
Part of me is relieved that we now know what we're facing more, ie what charges etc, and there is hopefully an end in sight, but the rest of me is terrified of what is going to happen. Terrified he's going to go to prison, terrified it's going to end up in the papers, terrified we're going to have to tell more people than already know. Solicitor has said he thinks it unlikely he will go to prison due to the number of images being so low, but obviously can't guarantee it.
I'm trying to stay positive and get through Christmas as best we can, but I'm back to hardly sleeping, having flashbacks to the knock etc and I feel sick with anxiety every waking moment. Life this Christmas is so so different from all previous ones, OH is out of work because of the knock, so money is very tight, and I'm heartbroken that things are this way, but I can't change it.
If anyone has any advice or tips for things he or I can/should do in the run up to court and the day of court I'd really appreciate it.
WorseThanAnyNightmare; I'm so sorry to hear of what you're going through. I wish I could offer you some advice but the honest truth is that most if not all the people on this site are going through similar if not the same situation as yourself.
Xmas this year is one I had never imagined I'd experience. It doesn't feel like Xmas at all. There's just a constant sadness and anxiety about the future.
All I would say is, hope for the best but expect the worst.
Sending you strength and peace. X
Xmas this year is one I had never imagined I'd experience. It doesn't feel like Xmas at all. There's just a constant sadness and anxiety about the future.
All I would say is, hope for the best but expect the worst.
Sending you strength and peace. X
Hi,
I'm not fully up on this, as I found the forum after my oh was sentenced, but if u can do a reference and ur person do an accountability letter to the judge that would be great, I think there is posts on them on here some where, sorry might not be helpful but it's the best I can say xx
I'm not fully up on this, as I found the forum after my oh was sentenced, but if u can do a reference and ur person do an accountability letter to the judge that would be great, I think there is posts on them on here some where, sorry might not be helpful but it's the best I can say xx
So sorry that I don't have any words of comfort ... I am ten weeks post knock ... still doesn't seem real. I'm not very good with words but just want to say that we are all here for you. And no matter how bad things seem, it will get better I promise x
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Thanks for the replies everyone, I really appreciate it. I hope you all managed to get through Christmas Day as well as possible.
Christmas Eve and Day were hard. Our usual Christmas routine had to change and we all felt it.
I'm just clinging onto sanity day by day now, but it's so hard.
Christmas Eve and Day were hard. Our usual Christmas routine had to change and we all felt it.
I'm just clinging onto sanity day by day now, but it's so hard.