I'm being treated as witness - has anyone experienced this?
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Hello all,
I've been interviewed by the police as a witness in my (soon to be ex) husband's investigation and had to provide a formal statement. Has anyone else had to do this?
My husband is under investigation for chat room activity and having six category c images on his phone. In the most bizarre coincidence, four weeks after the knock I was contacted by a woman who told me she had had a sexual relationship with my husband when she was 16 - 18 (eight years ago) and he had taken naked photos of her. I had to confirm to the police that one of the photos was taken in our family home. He cannot be charged for having a sexual relationship with her but as she was under 18 when the photos were taken, he could be charged with this.
I'm wondering if this is why I am being treated as a witness - that I have been in communication with this woman and have identifed the location of an image.
I hate being implicated in his investigation. Being interviewed has brought back all of the horrible feelings that followed the knock and then the woman's revelation.
J x
I've been interviewed by the police as a witness in my (soon to be ex) husband's investigation and had to provide a formal statement. Has anyone else had to do this?
My husband is under investigation for chat room activity and having six category c images on his phone. In the most bizarre coincidence, four weeks after the knock I was contacted by a woman who told me she had had a sexual relationship with my husband when she was 16 - 18 (eight years ago) and he had taken naked photos of her. I had to confirm to the police that one of the photos was taken in our family home. He cannot be charged for having a sexual relationship with her but as she was under 18 when the photos were taken, he could be charged with this.
I'm wondering if this is why I am being treated as a witness - that I have been in communication with this woman and have identifed the location of an image.
I hate being implicated in his investigation. Being interviewed has brought back all of the horrible feelings that followed the knock and then the woman's revelation.
J x
I was treated has witness first time had to do statement due to he said didn't do anything till I had to go police station then he admitted it all. Week later I had to do statement incase he pleaded not guilty I felt I was living nightmare but time went on felt better social services put me into counselling then 5 years later had knock to say happen again for 2nd time
Hi there,
I too was asked to give a formal statement and complied. It was awful at the time. For me it was more about giving information about our routines and lives as a couple. The police officer implied that it was unlikely I'd be called to court though I guess this cannot be completely ruled out.
I had no idea about any of it and have not actually seen my ex-partner since his arrest two months ago. I work with children so once I knew why he'd been arrested (a police officer phoned me, not my ex himself) I said straight away I would not accept him being bailed to my address and I've not seen him at all.
Not sure if it was because I work with children. I would guess it's one of those things that is decided case-by-case but I am not an expert.
Just remember that your role is to tell the truth and you are not the one being investigated but I understand that emotionally it's not always as easy as that.
Take care x
I too was asked to give a formal statement and complied. It was awful at the time. For me it was more about giving information about our routines and lives as a couple. The police officer implied that it was unlikely I'd be called to court though I guess this cannot be completely ruled out.
I had no idea about any of it and have not actually seen my ex-partner since his arrest two months ago. I work with children so once I knew why he'd been arrested (a police officer phoned me, not my ex himself) I said straight away I would not accept him being bailed to my address and I've not seen him at all.
Not sure if it was because I work with children. I would guess it's one of those things that is decided case-by-case but I am not an expert.
Just remember that your role is to tell the truth and you are not the one being investigated but I understand that emotionally it's not always as easy as that.
Take care x
Hi Josephine
I had to give a witness statement to the police as my husband went not guilty, he'd also changed his story several times to the police and me so I think some of it was too show the he wasn't a credible person.
I was really nice about doing the statement but felt morally I should and I also hoped it would help him get the treatment he needed.
Fortunately he went guilty before the court case so I didn't have to give evidence
X
I had to give a witness statement to the police as my husband went not guilty, he'd also changed his story several times to the police and me so I think some of it was too show the he wasn't a credible person.
I was really nice about doing the statement but felt morally I should and I also hoped it would help him get the treatment he needed.
Fortunately he went guilty before the court case so I didn't have to give evidence
X
Thank you Helen, Gemini and Tracey.
I'm relieved to know it has happened to others, even if you did have to go through yet another horrible experience.
I think I was shocked at being asked about our relationship, what our sex life was like - that kind of thing. And I really hope I don't have to give evidence in court, if it comes to that.
I'm feeling better about it today so I know I'm becoming stronger and more resilient.
Thanks again,
J x
I'm relieved to know it has happened to others, even if you did have to go through yet another horrible experience.
I think I was shocked at being asked about our relationship, what our sex life was like - that kind of thing. And I really hope I don't have to give evidence in court, if it comes to that.
I'm feeling better about it today so I know I'm becoming stronger and more resilient.
Thanks again,
J x