Child protection case conference
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Hello, I'm at the early stages but just thought it might reassure you that my social worker explained it's likely our case will go to a child protection conference due to the offence and as I've expressed and the kids have expressed they want contact (he won't be living here and we have split up).
So I think it's to review everything and ensure all factors and issues are considered.
My person is being sentenced Next week and has been remanded in custody so SS haven't yet arranged the conference but said to me that once the sentencing happens, if he's release that's when a conference will be arranged.
hoping I understood this right and that it might reassure you!
So I think it's to review everything and ensure all factors and issues are considered.
My person is being sentenced Next week and has been remanded in custody so SS haven't yet arranged the conference but said to me that once the sentencing happens, if he's release that's when a conference will be arranged.
hoping I understood this right and that it might reassure you!
Hi
i had an ICPC meeting back in November, they gave me a report assessment days before the meeting, however I wrote my own assessment report and copied it for all to have a copy of, I challenged everything (they got so much wrong. In my childrens case which I have only just received the minutes of (post is just so bad atm) they still managed to get so much wrong. They have made me out to be a terrible mum. I did not minimise anything or act like it was no big deal, I agreed that my OH would not be returning home (he's on remand) and even after still will not be returning home. They expect you to never be with your partner again (this of course is your decision to make). They will set tasks for you to complete before the next meeting if you get child protection plan (big if) if you get child in need please remember that it is completely voluntary.
i took my eldest with me as it pertained to her and they basically ignored her wishes (she wants her dad home and to be able to see him).
with me they wanted to put me down as neglectful when I most certainly am not, but the chair over road it and put it down as sexual abuse risk, which I know it may not seem like it but did me a huge favour as if they put it under neglect I probably will never be able to get rid of social, where as because I am not having my OH live with us if and when he is released (not exactly not in a relationship but not not either, I still have not decided on that front, but won't be living with us regardless) my kids might not be on plan for as long. They just want to make sure I'm doing what I'm meant to be doing and not putting my kids at risk.
now bare in mind my case is a little more complicated than most as my daughter made an allegation against him back in the middle of the year and has admitted that she lied, she did it because of a family incident and made allegations against me too (violence for me abuse for him). This is the same daughter that misses her dad and wants to see him, but they believe I put her up to recinding her initial statement, if any of that makes sense. He did receive nfa for that and then decided to play chicken with a decoy, major idiot and won't go into detail on that. But social and police are adamant that my daughter was abused therefore my son must have been too and I'm a terrible mum for making my daughter say it was all a lie (which of course I didn't).
my advice is even in this setting with an independent chair don't trust them and be very careful with your words, make notes and minutes thought they will say you don't need to take your own do it anyway.
good luck and take your kids if they are over 11 as you can, they do take into account their wishes x
i had an ICPC meeting back in November, they gave me a report assessment days before the meeting, however I wrote my own assessment report and copied it for all to have a copy of, I challenged everything (they got so much wrong. In my childrens case which I have only just received the minutes of (post is just so bad atm) they still managed to get so much wrong. They have made me out to be a terrible mum. I did not minimise anything or act like it was no big deal, I agreed that my OH would not be returning home (he's on remand) and even after still will not be returning home. They expect you to never be with your partner again (this of course is your decision to make). They will set tasks for you to complete before the next meeting if you get child protection plan (big if) if you get child in need please remember that it is completely voluntary.
i took my eldest with me as it pertained to her and they basically ignored her wishes (she wants her dad home and to be able to see him).
with me they wanted to put me down as neglectful when I most certainly am not, but the chair over road it and put it down as sexual abuse risk, which I know it may not seem like it but did me a huge favour as if they put it under neglect I probably will never be able to get rid of social, where as because I am not having my OH live with us if and when he is released (not exactly not in a relationship but not not either, I still have not decided on that front, but won't be living with us regardless) my kids might not be on plan for as long. They just want to make sure I'm doing what I'm meant to be doing and not putting my kids at risk.
now bare in mind my case is a little more complicated than most as my daughter made an allegation against him back in the middle of the year and has admitted that she lied, she did it because of a family incident and made allegations against me too (violence for me abuse for him). This is the same daughter that misses her dad and wants to see him, but they believe I put her up to recinding her initial statement, if any of that makes sense. He did receive nfa for that and then decided to play chicken with a decoy, major idiot and won't go into detail on that. But social and police are adamant that my daughter was abused therefore my son must have been too and I'm a terrible mum for making my daughter say it was all a lie (which of course I didn't).
my advice is even in this setting with an independent chair don't trust them and be very careful with your words, make notes and minutes thought they will say you don't need to take your own do it anyway.
good luck and take your kids if they are over 11 as you can, they do take into account their wishes x
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