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King85

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Posted Thu December 29, 2022 3:41pmReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu December 29, 2022 5:45pmReport post

Evening King85

First of you are not alone, we are here to offer support and advice

The main page on here under Discussion and Support is probably the best place to post as that is the main area where you will get more replies from these amazing people on here

We have all been in the same situation as you just at different stages

Firstly take a deep breath and be kind to yourself, this journey can take some time so be prepared for a long road ahead

My son is the offender so a bit different to yours

Once you know what the police have found they will call him in for questioning make sure he has a solicitor present even if they say its just for a talk he must have one with him,

It really would be helpful to call the helpline as they can help you and also they can offer advice and support

Please let your OH know he can also reach out to them

This is such early days for you and you mind will be overcome, dont make any rash decisions

Slow down. Deep breath, and know that you are not alone

Sending strength and hugs xx

Denzel7

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December 2022

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Posted Thu December 29, 2022 5:45pmReport post

Hey King 85,

I'm sorry you have found yourself here.

My partner is under investigation for distributing an indecent image. We had the knock in May, an interview on the same day, and nothing since.

It's a long process. Your partner will need a solicitor. My ex partner now has a solicitor, this is through legal aid. He handed in his notice from his previous job and has since made alternative living arrangements.

I would suggest copying and pasting your questions on the discussion and support page. It will draw more attention and you will get more responses. The people on this forum have a wide range of knowledge through their own individual experiences and are all at different stages so will be able to offer you lots of advice.

It would be a good idea to contact the helpline too. They will be able to assist with your questions.

Take time to look after yourself.

Sending you a virtual hug x

Lola53

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May 2021

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Posted Fri December 30, 2022 3:13pmReport post

Hi King85

I'm sorry that you find yourself here. There's a great post called 'Advice for new members on surviving those early days' - if you search the forum for that, it's in the 'Understanding Why' section and will give you invaluable advice.

As the others have said, breathe, don't make any snap decisions and I would suggest not telling anyone at this stage.

Everyone on here is incredible and you'll find the support that you need x

King85

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December 2022

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Susie79

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December 2022

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Posted Sun January 1, 2023 8:47amReport post

King85,

We are in the same boat as you, although it's my son, he has ASD and ADHD.

on the day the police arrived I did contact a solicitor but because my son hasn't actually been arrested there was nothing they can do as yet. Advice was to contact them when the police get back intouch. The police told us it would take upto 6 months before the devices gets look at, but it's hard to carry on like nothing has happened.
The helpline has been very helpful and so has this forum.