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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu December 29, 2022 7:19pmReport post

Evening lovely's

I hope you are all doing ok

My favourite saying every New year used to be I hope this year is better than last year

I stopped saying that a few years back not before the knock but because every year seemed to get worse

But as many of us have found ourselves here through no fault of our own

We have found a place where no one judges, where we can talk openly, we have support, understanding, warmth, strength, sadness because we think we are all alone, but we are not , so my one resolution for each and everyone of you is to look in the mirror and see the amazing strong person looking back at you! To the ladies with young children you will get through this, why because you are mums, to the partners you see the person they are before this, to the mums of offenders we are so understandable because we are mums and that does not define our sons,

This journey no matter how hard it is does not define who our loved ones are

So the New year may not be what we wanted but I am glad to have found this group, and I just wanted to say that each and everyone of you are not alone

I for one would be lost so I send all my love, strength and hugs

Smile my dear friend fluffy sparkly hugs and please let your son know I will be thinking of you all xx

Sad and confused

Member since
November 2022

32 posts

Posted Thu December 29, 2022 8:17pmReport post

Thank you Upset Mum for your lovely, kind words. Sending you strength and love for 2023 x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Thu December 29, 2022 8:17pmReport post

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu December 29, 2022 8:45pmReport post

Smile

Your house may not be as it was

But you are so much stronger than you were this time last year

You may not have seen your son for some time but yet you have been there every step of the way, you talk daily, you laugh, and yet you cry secretly to yourself every day, look back at last year could you imagine your son would have spoken to his dad, small steps is all we ask for if only we could rewrite our lives but we cant

I am grateful for every day, not to have found myself here on this horrendous journey but my son is still here and so is your son

So here is to a different 2023 but we will be there for each other xx

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Fri December 30, 2022 3:16pmReport post

Upset Mum - thank you for posting this and thanks to you, Smile and Maij for being a lifeline on here. It helps to know that there are other mums going through this.

Dare we say 'happy new year'?! I don't know, but I certainly hope that it will be.

Strength and hugs xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Fri December 30, 2022 6:42pmReport post

Lola53

Thank you xx

I wish you and your family strength and hugs for the new year

We are all here for each other always

Love sent xx

Janey3

Member since
December 2022

17 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 12:37amReport post

This time last year.. even 8 weeks ago I never ever imagined I'd be in the position I'm in now. But I'm grateful for the support and strength from you all.

I won't say Happy New Year, but let's keep strong together x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 5:46amReport post

I too feel blessed to have my friends on this forum. It's a nasty horrible journey, full of sadness which at the click of a finger could ruin our innocent life. A thing you can ONLY understand if it happens to you, life changing.



We must never forget the victims in these crimes - I shudder when I think of these horrific images my son took part in looking at +. What took over him, that's not the happy, kind/caring, hard working man I know - your just floored by the situation but through this we know our loved ones are not evil as portrayed - they need help to sort it out and why it happens. So, we bravely fight on.



I want to send my thoughts out to all of you on this New Year's Eve - say Thankyou for your ongoing support. Roll up those sleeves, clench those fists and well crack on with 2023 xxxxxxxx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 9:20amReport post

I want to thank all you amazing women on this forum and especially Upset Mum and Smile who have been a tremendous support to me.

This is a horrible experience we are faced with and one which destroys your life completely.

We have sentencing at the end of January so I don't know what our 2023 will be like .

Sending strength and love to you all and wishing you a better time next year.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 10:55amReport post

Thank you Seaside xx

We are here for support and understanding and have taken great comfort in having found all you truly amazing kind people xx

I totally agree Smile about the victims :-( xx

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 2:37pmReport post

Each year for me is a step closer to his SOR and SHPO ending - tho it is only into three of the ten years...

Hopefully next year will be the first time we go abroad after sentencing, I'm still nervous he will be refused. The EU rules/visa is meant to change soon and not clear to me the impact this may have.

Hopefully this will be the year he gets to see his kids again, not seen them since 2017...we just want that chapter to close. If the courts and professionals decide it can't happen then at least we know. I'm somewhat optimistic, but the main issue I believe is the inaoct reconnection will have on the kids after so many years.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 3:54pmReport post

majestictopaz

I wish you and your OH all the best and I hope he will be able to see his children

Sending strength and hugs xx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 5:45pmReport post

I hope and pray that 2023 will be kind to everyone on this journey. For me, the new year brings a new career opportunity helping people. I'm hoping that once I've dealt with my issues caused by the knock I can start working towards raising awareness. Praying that 2023 brings about the change we all want to see in education and support and that there will be an increase in accountability for the platforms too. As always love to you all xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 6:13pmReport post

I'm so happy to hear my posts help others. It means the world to me x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 8:45pmReport post

Thinking of you all this evening

Hugs, strength, love sent xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Sat December 31, 2022 11:30pmReport post

Can I send out a big hug to those ladies on here who are not quite feeling it as we approach the big hour....

Edited Sat December 31, 2022 11:30pm

Maij

Member since
December 2020

287 posts

Posted Mon January 2, 2023 1:08amReport post

Hi all, especially, Lola53, smile and upset

Thank you for all your support over the last couple of years ! Wishing you all a better 2023 , big virtual hugs to you.



i have been listening to the ABBA song "Happy New Year" have a listen its very moving. :) x

best wishes to all

maij x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Mon January 2, 2023 5:34amReport post

Out of the the songs I've listened to recently, one stuck in my head by an artist that I've never took to!

'Too good for giving up'

by Liam Gallagher !

Resignates!

Edited Mon January 2, 2023 5:38am

Maij

Member since
December 2020

287 posts

Posted Mon January 2, 2023 8:33amReport post

Smile !
i've never really thought much about him either, abit of a rebel I've thought .

He sings poignant words with deep meaning, my heart was heavy after listening to it . :'( That will be high in the charts I'm sure. Its good that mental health is being talked about alot and the video to portray its meaning, so good.



I will dry my tears now and wish you a good happy Monday

maijx

Edited Mon January 2, 2023 8:34am