Attending sentencing hearing
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So my husband (soon to be ex) was due to be sentenced today. The prison made an error and didn't collect him for court so it had to be rearranged for next week.
I hadn't planned to attend court (I have read the information on the charges and the detail of the conversations he had with a decoy).
however I assume that when the CPS present their evidence there may be more...I don't know how it works?
however I am wondering if I should attend to ensure I see everything ... we also have social services involvement due to our kids and I'm wondering if it will reflect badly on me if I don't attend court (will they think I'm burying my head in the sand?)
we have split up permanently and he won't be living back with us.
I hadn't planned to attend court (I have read the information on the charges and the detail of the conversations he had with a decoy).
however I assume that when the CPS present their evidence there may be more...I don't know how it works?
however I am wondering if I should attend to ensure I see everything ... we also have social services involvement due to our kids and I'm wondering if it will reflect badly on me if I don't attend court (will they think I'm burying my head in the sand?)
we have split up permanently and he won't be living back with us.
I'm not attending my persons court case at all, won't be attending anything, I'll just wait for the solicitor to tell me what I need to know nothing more, my reason is because the knock came from an online group though ( I don't fancy meeting any of them, Incase they are there). It doesn't look bad on you nor does it make you look like you are burying your head in the sand. If you don't want to go don't go, you have your reasons.
I don't think it matters, though I found out stuff at sentencing that wasn't in the chat or offences. I was wavering on whether we would get back together, thinking that maybe in time we could try again but that's become a definite no. It was far worse than I thought. I don't think SS will care either way. I'd gone as I couldn't sit at home waiting to find out and I wanted to be supportive as I thought we could stay friends, at least for the sake of our kids.
Hi,
I didn't go as I was in slow labour, SS have never asked if I went. They get told in more detail after sentencing so they will contact you to make sure you're happy with whatever safety plan you have in place if it's closed already. My persons case wasn't open to the public (no idea why and a journalist still managed to access it via a web cam as it was during lockdown). All the best for sentencing whether you decide to go or not xxx
I didn't go as I was in slow labour, SS have never asked if I went. They get told in more detail after sentencing so they will contact you to make sure you're happy with whatever safety plan you have in place if it's closed already. My persons case wasn't open to the public (no idea why and a journalist still managed to access it via a web cam as it was during lockdown). All the best for sentencing whether you decide to go or not xxx
Thank you everyone. I don't really want to go as I know enough to be certain I don't want any relationship with him outside of his contact with the kids, and I've found out other things about our marriage since his arrest. I was just wavering as I was worried SS would think I wasn't making myself fully aware of the risks
guess I just need to be prepared for there being details in the media that might upset me
@loulou I am sorry the sentencing was so hard for you, I have a feeling that things might be similar at my person's in terms of me finding out more than I was prepared for.
guess I just need to be prepared for there being details in the media that might upset me
@loulou I am sorry the sentencing was so hard for you, I have a feeling that things might be similar at my person's in terms of me finding out more than I was prepared for.
We have sentencing at the end of the month and I am undecided whether I will attend or not.
I have had full disclosure from my person and have read the evidence ( not easy but I needed to know) and I am reassured by the solicitor that there is nothing else to come out.
We have relocated away from the area where the arrest took place but the sentencing will be in the area we previously lived in.
Im hoping that because he is no longer living in the area that the media there won't be interested in reporting it and that they wouldn't send the information to the media where we now live-does anyone know if this ever happens?
I have had full disclosure from my person and have read the evidence ( not easy but I needed to know) and I am reassured by the solicitor that there is nothing else to come out.
We have relocated away from the area where the arrest took place but the sentencing will be in the area we previously lived in.
Im hoping that because he is no longer living in the area that the media there won't be interested in reporting it and that they wouldn't send the information to the media where we now live-does anyone know if this ever happens?