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Hi Kt,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here and you've done amazing keeping yourself going. There are lots of Mums on here who will relate to you and I'm sure they will offer their support to you with helpful advice and resources. In regards to his age, he will be dealt with as an adult as he is now 18 but the sentencing guidelines do take into account the age so the judge would know he was a minor himself when this happened. I hope this offers some reassurance. Sending love x
I'm so sorry you find yourself here and you've done amazing keeping yourself going. There are lots of Mums on here who will relate to you and I'm sure they will offer their support to you with helpful advice and resources. In regards to his age, he will be dealt with as an adult as he is now 18 but the sentencing guidelines do take into account the age so the judge would know he was a minor himself when this happened. I hope this offers some reassurance. Sending love x
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Thank you very much. It's been great for me to come onto this group and realise that I'm not alone, it's such a good support. X
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The media is such a gamble as they can report on absolutely anything whether it be a not guilty plea (very rare) to a few images and sometimes they don't publish the more extensive cases, you just never know. Have the done the forensics yet and know how many images etc. there were and what categories they are?
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Hi Kt
sorry you find yourself in our club.
well done on being strong this far.
We worry so much about the outcome, media, other people finding out, impact on family, future, among other things, and it's only normal to do so, unfortunately we can't control any of these things so look after yourself and your family first and try to take some time out of the situation or you could make yourself ill.
I am post sentencing with my partner and and we have 2 children old enough to understand, I have been worried sick these last 15 months or so, and when I look back, whether it was best case scenario or worst, my anxiety and worrying levels would always be the same. I don't know how I have survived certain things which have happened, but I have I'm still here, stronger and you will too.
regarding sentencing I think you have huge positive mitigating factors - age, a loving supportive family, the fact that it was a while before the knock and he'd already stopped, and compared to most cases a relatively low number of iioc, so stay positive, what will be will be, sending you lots of luck xx
sorry you find yourself in our club.
well done on being strong this far.
We worry so much about the outcome, media, other people finding out, impact on family, future, among other things, and it's only normal to do so, unfortunately we can't control any of these things so look after yourself and your family first and try to take some time out of the situation or you could make yourself ill.
I am post sentencing with my partner and and we have 2 children old enough to understand, I have been worried sick these last 15 months or so, and when I look back, whether it was best case scenario or worst, my anxiety and worrying levels would always be the same. I don't know how I have survived certain things which have happened, but I have I'm still here, stronger and you will too.
regarding sentencing I think you have huge positive mitigating factors - age, a loving supportive family, the fact that it was a while before the knock and he'd already stopped, and compared to most cases a relatively low number of iioc, so stay positive, what will be will be, sending you lots of luck xx
Hi Jayjay.
Thank you. You're right we really can make ourselves ill with all the worrying and the what ifs. Feeling like I am lying to the world and everyone knows I have this horrible secret, (of course at the moment they don't, until the media spread the word)
Sending lots of strength to you and you family. This can only make us stronger right? Xx
Thank you. You're right we really can make ourselves ill with all the worrying and the what ifs. Feeling like I am lying to the world and everyone knows I have this horrible secret, (of course at the moment they don't, until the media spread the word)
Sending lots of strength to you and you family. This can only make us stronger right? Xx
I'm not minimising the nature of it, the amount of images are small in comparison to other cases and as said above, there are mitigating factors so hopefully they will go easy on him. Sounds like he realised himself and has taken steps to turn things around. Keep us updated and check in for support x