Social services When is best to increase access
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Just wondered when is the best time to contact ss to ask that husband can increase access? At the moment it is supervised but I would like to gradually increase for him to be able to take them out in public places. They are 13 and 14 and I feel that if they are together and in public then the risk wont be high. I'm not ready for unsupervised in home as they will be isolated etc. I've been doing supervised for 2 years which started from when we had the knock. Husband was convicted in Feb this year and nearly finished community hours. Hes due to also start a rehab course for 9 months.
I'm not really sure how to go about increasing access etc or what sort of access he can have obviously no overnight or completely on own. I just worry that ss will think I think hes safe but I dont. I just want a bit more access with the children.
Advice please x
Just wondered when is the best time to contact ss to ask that husband can increase access? At the moment it is supervised but I would like to gradually increase for him to be able to take them out in public places. They are 13 and 14 and I feel that if they are together and in public then the risk wont be high. I'm not ready for unsupervised in home as they will be isolated etc. I've been doing supervised for 2 years which started from when we had the knock. Husband was convicted in Feb this year and nearly finished community hours. Hes due to also start a rehab course for 9 months.
I'm not really sure how to go about increasing access etc or what sort of access he can have obviously no overnight or completely on own. I just worry that ss will think I think hes safe but I dont. I just want a bit more access with the children.
Advice please x
Hi Rainbow,
We rang up ss and asked for an assessment to be done to prove that you can pick up if the children are being abused or not. They came over and it was a battle, cyou need yto prove you and your children understand about keeping safe, understand what is allowed and what isn't allowed. Hope this helps hun xx
We rang up ss and asked for an assessment to be done to prove that you can pick up if the children are being abused or not. They came over and it was a battle, cyou need yto prove you and your children understand about keeping safe, understand what is allowed and what isn't allowed. Hope this helps hun xx
Rainbow - just out of interest, can I ask if your husband stays overnight at home? Just wondering if mine will be allowed home at some point.
Hi no he doesnt stay overnight with us. I've told ss we are separated but still like to do normal things as a family.
Hes allowed to take kids to shops while I wait in the car but I'm hoping to increase this to him taking them out on his own etc. Technically if we are separated then it looks strange to people why I am sitting in the car. He finished his course and the person said he should be able to have unsupervised. Shes trying to contact ss but a bit hard during lockdown.
Hes allowed to take kids to shops while I wait in the car but I'm hoping to increase this to him taking them out on his own etc. Technically if we are separated then it looks strange to people why I am sitting in the car. He finished his course and the person said he should be able to have unsupervised. Shes trying to contact ss but a bit hard during lockdown.
With me, social services were at a point where they were ready to close our file. The SW wanted to talk about the possibility of unsupervised access but I said I had no plans for that to happen and would continue to supervise indefinitely. This is what I have done. The reason I am writing this though is that starting towards unsupervised access was THEIR suggestion and not mine. Although the children have been off file since September last year, I still keep in contact with my SW (for example she wrote a piece to support my son's school appeal). My son is going to high school in September so will be getting his own phone so I will text her to ask about safe use of that with his Dad as up until now all calls have been on loudspeaker with me still in earshot. I know my son is getting to an age where he will gain more independence, start going out with friends etc and again at this point I think I will ask her advice for how to deal with him potentially seeing his Dad by accident when out and about. But all in all I think that SS are probably open to the idea about this being the next step?