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Ahhh honey you don't have to apologise thats what we are here for. I've no advice to give you suppose if he had good reason and noone told him he wasn't allowed, what's he in breach of? I don't get it . Hopefully judge will be fair.

Has he already been sentenced? Seems harsh to take him to court so quickly if so. Surely if he deleted it there and then when caught out it should be seen as a warning/slap on the wrist.

Unfortunately it is down to PO and police as to whether breaches are taken down as warnings or goes to court. If there is evidence he was told no recording of meetings it might be hard to dismiss, but if the PO didn't say the. How is he meant to know?

Majority of the public would not know what is and what isn't allowed. Hopefully it will be resolved swiftly

Hi Xxx

haven't been online for a while as trying to stay away from the net, but I was thinking about you today and how you were getting on.
please don't apologise for asking or venting.

see this as just something else you can't control which will make you a stronger person, you've got this far, you will be fine whatever happens.

Has has he got a solicitor?
I'd defo get some advice - remorse and he did it because he was desperate because of whatever reasons.
good luck hun you got this far xxx

Hi Xxx,

I was thinking about you earlier and wondered how it went.

I am sorry you are going through such a hard time. It's such a hard and cruel process from what I can see. I'm only at the beginning - 8 months from the knock; which although is so so hard waiting for what feels like the floor is going to collapse underneath me, I suppose I at least get a bit of peace at this point. Not that it's a nice peace. I cannot give you any advice but I do read your posts and I didn't want to read without saying I'm so sorry you're going through all this and my heart really does go out to you xx

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Sorry it has ended up here, but CPP means you can ask for support.
They should give you a copy of that plan, what needs to happen to be able to move forward. Have they altered contact?



I remember being put on one and it's heartbreaking, look after yourself and your girls xx

Xxx, I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of this.

My understanding and so far our 4 weeks experience of weekly visits off probation and/or visor is that they are there to help and support (as well as keep people on the right track) but yours sounds awful and anything but.

Look after yourselves xx

Xxx I wish I could help you sort things out.
first and foremost girls come first.
Stick to your guns and say I am supporting him best I can, I don't know what the future holds for us and I am not ready to make a decision yet but the girls come first and are my upmost priority. Keep it simple. Follow the safety plan, don't get into slagging matches and seek some possibly new legal advice with regards to his case and the girls. He needs to help himself too and this shouldn't all be on your shoulders to keep everyone happy x

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Did they tell you what the plan is now?
what they expect and need to see happen? They should give you a written copy of the plan, the minutes of the meeting and any new safety plan within 10 working days I think. Make sure you get this, they need to follow the plan as much as you do.

How is the contact going forward? Will there be any big changes for your girls?

I know you haven't got any other support, but this may be the time to reach out to family for help and support. This will also be a positive for ss, focus on helping you and them.