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hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Sun January 15, 2023 6:19pmReport post

Hi everyone,

when social services wrote their report, they said there is "a risk of future emotional harm" for our children, if my husband (accused of making and distributing indecent images on kik) would keep on living with us.

This report was written while he was on bail, he has since been released under investigation and he is now allowed to live with us again, provided he's never left alone with the kids and that I sleep in our children's room at night.

I am just wondering why social services wrote "risk of future emotional harm"? Shouldn't it say "risk of future sexual harm"?

Does anyone know? x

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

994 posts

Posted Sun January 15, 2023 9:09pmReport post

Hi,

My first sw wrote risk of neglect/emotional abuse which there is no evidence of at all. I can only assume that they were thinking that it would sound better than risk of sexual harm as our daughter wasn't born at that point and my older children had decided on no contact. I presume it related to my emotional state and the risk that them having knowledge of my persons offences left them at risk of emotional distress. They cannot prove risk of sexual harm without even knowing your ohs risk level and even then without an independent assessment it would be difficult to prove the risk posed to his own children. Emotional harm requires less proof as it doesn't just relate to your oh but the potential future repercussions of telling your children or them finding out through other sources. Again, this is just my opinion. Hopefully someone with more knowledge will respond xxx

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Mon January 16, 2023 6:22pmReport post

Thank you, that makes a lot of sense x

Edited Mon January 16, 2023 6:22pm

Dragonmama

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November 2022

251 posts

Posted Mon January 16, 2023 11:40pmReport post

Hi hpl111

trust me it's good that it doesn't say risk of future sexual harm, that suggests that your partner has abused your children in some way. There is nothing worse than suggesting that your children have been sexually abused and they insinuate that you are either neglectful/ negligent or complicit.

that's what they have done with me and it sucks even though my person has done nothing to any of the children.

doesn't help however that my eldest made a false allegation against him (since admitted that she lied for attention and to get back at him/me for an argument and was jealous of toddler sibling). Ss now don't believe my daughter about the lie and are treating it like she was abused even though she was not.

fun fact, my person does not live with me nor will be returning to the family home nothing to do with what he's accused of but for other reasons not within my power to change, however children do want to see him (I suggested contact centre to appease ss) and still got a cpp for risk of sexual abuse although no risk.

just jump through their hoops and eventually they will be a bit more helpful or leave you alone.
I wish you all the best

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Tue January 17, 2023 10:19pmReport post

@Dragonmama I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I think sometimes children don't realise that these "little" lies can have serious, long - lasting repercussions.

Trust me, I am happy that "risk of future sexual harm" isn't listed. I am just surprised given that he is accused of making/distributing indecent images.