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Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Wed January 18, 2023 12:20pmReport post

Today I just feel so sad -it is my person's (son) birthday and he is desperate and sad.

We have sentencing next week and are terrified of the possibility of a custodial sentence although everyone is telling us that it will most likely be a suspended sentence.

He is no monster but a troubled young man who made a mistake in one conversation on one day and will have to suffer the consequences for the rest of his life.

I do not in any way condone what he did but to see him suffering and saying that he wishes he'd never been born just breaks my heart.

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

390 posts

Posted Wed January 18, 2023 12:25pmReport post

I am so sorry what you are going through.

Your son is your son and you love him no matter what.

Of course he is a wonderful person and deserves redemption.

See it this way: Next week you have a conclusion to this horrible journey. After that, you can rebuild and your son's life will get better.

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Posted Wed January 18, 2023 12:49pmReport post

Seaside, I feel for you so much I am also going through it with my son he has only just turned 18 and I hate the though of this being the start of his adult life, but this does not have to ruin their whole life, let's just hope and pray the press do not print on either of our sons. We can't let this define their (or our) lives forever.

Sending you all the strength you need to get you and your son through this xx

Loulou22

Member since
October 2022

50 posts

Posted Wed January 18, 2023 1:44pmReport post

Feeling for all of you. I'm going through the same thing with my son and few so sad today. He is still RUI since September and has been totally isolated since then. It's dreadful. Sending love.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

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Upset mum

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June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 3:21pmReport post

Ahh Seaside

Just wanted to send you hugs and understand how you are feeling

xx

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 3:35pmReport post

Hugs to all you fellow mums today; I've said it so many times on here but I wish we could all sit with a coffee and talk and talk. It's heartbreaking watching our beloved sons go through this.

I agree that this won't define their lives forever, in a bizarre and awful way it's good that they've been caught now and have chance to rebuild. At least, this is the hope I'm clinging to!

We won't break, we've got each other and we can get through this xx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 3:55pmReport post

Thanks for all your lovely words.

Today would have been my beautiful Mum's birthday-she left us far too soon and she was truly the bravest person I've ever known.

She taught me to be strong and one of the last things she said to me was this quote:

"If ever there is a time when we are not together promise me you'll always remember that you are braver than you believe and stronger than you seem "

Sending love and strength to everyone xxx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2385 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 3:57pmReport post

That's lovely Seaside and I am sure she will be watching over you xx

Heavenly Birthday wishes to your mum x

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 5:06pmReport post

Lovely words, Seaside - and my goodness, I think we're all finding strength that we didn't know we had! xx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 5:14pmReport post

Lola I totally agree -this is the hardest thing any of us have ever faced I think.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 5:26pmReport post

This journey does find your hidden strengths. I can dither at times but as regards my decisions to keep in touch with my son and stand by him as much as I can - concrete, my strength is rock solid!

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

558 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 6:52pmReport post

Absolutely Smile how could I ever abandon and walk away from my son ?

I have been really struggling and thinking that I won't survive this if it results in a custodial sentence but I realise that I have to continue to do my best for him however hard that will be.

Nonna

Member since
December 2018

85 posts

Posted Thu January 19, 2023 8:20pmReport post

Hi lola

I would love that to just sit and have coffee and talk and support other mums, my son was just 19 at time of knock for iioc, that was 7 years ago this year and please be reassured he continues to build his new career it is possible don't ever lose heartxxx