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Well to you to k ow my story, waiting 2 years, one year from charges to evidence being sent across, sentencing put back 3 times due to barrister and solicitors incompetence and now it's suppose to be next Thursday., getting put back again. So long story short, new barrister on the case. We sent off for counselling, course's with lff evidence fir mitigating factors, which the last barrister ensured us she had all in but no. All she had was gp notes which we only found out the day b4 Court. So judge adoured it to be adjured. Also just found out all evidence wasn't handed in to judge, just the 3 short logs with decoys and the worse bits of course. So stupidan started talking to adults and got bombarded with messages from all ages. Not condoning what he did but they started talking to him first. So new barrister wants all of the evidence put forward. We sorted other things ourselves. The whole thing has just been a s*** show from the start. He was thrown to the wolves and a lot of complaints will be made. His mental health has really suffered the last few weeks, so he's back with intervention team. I've had to come out of work because of the stress. The system is so messed up. Probation has him as low risk and wants theapy community order. Doubt that will happen but he deserves a fair trail. Anyway rant over, just needed an outlet.
Oh gosh, how deeply frustrating for you. I hope you and OH are able to have some self care in the meantime.
it's just so angering that the system treats people like this. I can't imagine what it's like for people without willing family and friends to push for things and stand up to poor treatment.
thinking of you a lot
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it's just so angering that the system treats people like this. I can't imagine what it's like for people without willing family and friends to push for things and stand up to poor treatment.
thinking of you a lot
xx
Newlady rant away you are more than entitled to do so .
That is really shocking treatment but not surprising as the whole system seems to be a total shambles.
We have sentencing next week and are still waiting to hear from probation regarding the PSR despite our solicitor repeatedly chasing them up .
Apparently they should be in touch on Tuesday but nothing has been confirmed and my person is meant to be in work so what does he do ?- can't really just not go in and then find nothing happens .
We now live 400 miles away from the area where the case is being heard so need to know if it is definitely going ahead or not.
That is really shocking treatment but not surprising as the whole system seems to be a total shambles.
We have sentencing next week and are still waiting to hear from probation regarding the PSR despite our solicitor repeatedly chasing them up .
Apparently they should be in touch on Tuesday but nothing has been confirmed and my person is meant to be in work so what does he do ?- can't really just not go in and then find nothing happens .
We now live 400 miles away from the area where the case is being heard so need to know if it is definitely going ahead or not.
Thank you k4, it's very harrowing. Sea side we ended up getting the judge to order psr that's was the only way, and still in this position. Judge also had to order evidence. This whole thing is terrible, I know he did wrong but it already feels like he's did a sentence, he lost his job, home, friends, family, been treated appaulenly never mind the knock in effect its had on myself. I really hope you get your psr report before, has he had his interview?
Newlady we now finally have the interview on Tuesday after the solicitor put a rocket up them
Oh brilliant, hopefully they'll get it written up. Tell him to be very careful answering questions, think before he answers. My person's po is actually hajf decent so far and wrote him a positive, fair report. but I trust none. Keep us updated honey xx
Thanks for the advice he will be very careful answering questions from them as like you I don't trust any of them anymore.
Newlady
I was only thinking about you yesterday wondering how you was getting on we had a fair few chats a couple of months ago as we was at the same stage. I hope everything goes ok and gets a suspended all fingers crossed there's no more messing about x
I was only thinking about you yesterday wondering how you was getting on we had a fair few chats a couple of months ago as we was at the same stage. I hope everything goes ok and gets a suspended all fingers crossed there's no more messing about x
Bless you scared, yes I remember chatting to you. Definitely don't think it's going ahead this Thursday but I'd rather he had a fair case and wait. We've waited this long, he's back to his fighting spirit, he told his new barrister yesterday that I'd do a better job at representing him in court lol
Newlady how's things going with you ?
Any more news on whether Thursday is going ahead? I have been thinking of you so much and hoping that you get the best outcome possible.
Sending you lots of love and hugs xx
Any more news on whether Thursday is going ahead? I have been thinking of you so much and hoping that you get the best outcome possible.
Sending you lots of love and hugs xx
Hey sea side, yeah was going to put a post up tommarow, it's all going ahead everything in, got confirmation today. New barrisyer been through the case and has written his opening statement. We had a lovely night away last night, anxiety through the roof now for both of us but least it's going to be the end of limbo and another new normal for us one way or another. Breaks my heart thoughts of going to prison, especially after all the work he's did, and it's so unfair it's up to someone who doesn't even know him but that's the law. How's you?
How did his interview go seaside
Keeping everything crossed for you Newlady xx
My person had the PSR meeting today and the Probation Officer is recommending a Community Order which would be the best possible outcome.
She stated that he couldn't have done any more than he already has to address his behaviour and to rebuild his life through therapy, courses etc so hopefully that will all be taken into account on Friday at sentencing.
As you say it just doesn't make any sense to impose a custodial sentence on someone who has shown remorse and made such efforts to change
My person had the PSR meeting today and the Probation Officer is recommending a Community Order which would be the best possible outcome.
She stated that he couldn't have done any more than he already has to address his behaviour and to rebuild his life through therapy, courses etc so hopefully that will all be taken into account on Friday at sentencing.
As you say it just doesn't make any sense to impose a custodial sentence on someone who has shown remorse and made such efforts to change
The nerves are kicking in now, we are spending today together. How are you feeling? How's he doing? It feels more real than last time for some reason. I really hope for best outcome. My person's psr said the same suppose it depends if judge takes it on board.
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Thinking of you ladies coming up to sentencing. Its a very surreal and lonely place. We couldn't relax and were just filling time. We went for a walk and I picked up a leaf that blew into us and I still have that.
I comforted myself with at least we'd know what we were working with once it was over.
I comforted myself with at least we'd know what we were working with once it was over.
Thanks sal, we are planning a walk today too. Thats exactly it. I keep telling him and myself it's just smother new normal if he gets sent down and it won't be forever.
Exactly that, it's a new normal and it's only temporary. But hopefully it won't come to that.
Newlady I hope that tomorrow goes as well as it possibly can, will be thinking of you.
Looking like 10th Feb for us but will believe it when it happens.
Looking like 10th Feb for us but will believe it when it happens.
Hi Newlady, I am thinking of you tomorrow xx
Thinking of you all xxx
Evening Newlady
Just wanted to send strength and hugs to you both for tomorrow
I will be thinking of you xx
Just wanted to send strength and hugs to you both for tomorrow
I will be thinking of you xx
Newlady sending strength and hugs to you both for tomorrow
Newlady I hope everything goes as best as possible tomorrow will be thinking of you x
Will be thinking of you tomorrow Newlady. Hope everything goes well for you. Sending lots of strength xx
Thinking of you today newlady. It'll soon be over and you can move on to the next chapter.
Thank you all so much means the world to us both. Nerves kicking in now, here we go again. I'll update you all later xxx
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Massive virtual hug for you today xxx
Wishing you all the best Newlady x
So just to let you all know, case was heard but judge couldn't make a decision, apparently there was a big case after his so couldn't come back in afternoon. She doesn't work Fridays so the actual sentencing is on Monday. Good news is barrister gave a great statement and when procicusion were asked if they had anything to add they said yes, he needs punished but because of the work he's did and protective factors they tend to agree with psr report. I'm baffled. So we have to do this for 3rd time on Monday. Thanks for all your support guts.
How frustrating for you, but that sounds positive. Fingers crossed for Monday.
Newlady I've been checking all morning for an update. It must be frustrating for you both. Praying it all goes well for you on Monday. X
It is but its also positive as the whole case there were so many ****ups and I'm thinking she wants proper time to go over it all to make the desicion fair so round 3 on Monday. Your support means everything to me thank you x
Praying for a positive outcome for you on Monday xxx
Well done on getting through today. Sounds like things went as well as could be expected. Thinking of you so much until Monday and keeping everything crossed.
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Sending strength for Monday. Enjoy the weekend together xx
Will be thinking of you ahead of Monday Newlady. It's good the judge really wants to consider it properly and not be distracted. And the prosecutor acknowledging the work your person has put in is bound to help. Try to enjoy the weekend xxx
Thank you, I'm taking it as positive, even if he gets custodial it could mean a much shorter term. Today has really taken its tole on him but he's back at his hostel ringing stop it helpline and feels much better about how it's progressed. I'll see him at the weekend as he still can't stay with me as my daughter is still o my 15, but she's 16 in a few weeks so hopefully will make things easier in future but we always spend as much time as we can together in air B&Bs etc or when my daughter is staying out with friend and family. Seaside hope you're both OK today I'm thinking about you for tommarow. Hope your both holding up OK xx
Newlady
The judge seems fair and I hope you both have a positive outcome on Monday xx
Will be thinking of you both
The judge seems fair and I hope you both have a positive outcome on Monday xx
Will be thinking of you both
Newlady - So sorry you're having to wait for sentencing yet again, but like you say at least what was said today sounds positive. Thinking of you and hoping Monday brings better news.
Newlady I just want to let you know that I will be thinking of you tomorrow and praying for a good outcome for you both.
I am there holding your hand and standing with you in spirit and solidarity.
I am there holding your hand and standing with you in spirit and solidarity.
Thank you sea side. Its been a very eventfull and emotional few days I'll post tomarrow with an update. Xxi really appreciate the support x
Newlady
Strength and hugs sent to you both for tomorrow xx
Strength and hugs sent to you both for tomorrow xx
Thinking of you so very much xxx
Hey Newlady,
Sending lots of virtual hugs and support.
You will be in my thoughts tomorrow xx
Sending lots of virtual hugs and support.
You will be in my thoughts tomorrow xx
Thank you round 3 in court and 2 years since arrest. Been a long time coming.
Good luck for tomorrow. Will be thinking of you. All the best. X
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Good luck today newlady 3rd time lucky as they say x
Thinking of you today, fingers crossed for a positive outcome
Thinking of you today, fingers crossed for a positive outcome
Thinking of you today, fingers crossed for a positive outcome