Day from hell
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I'm going to start by saying sorry this may be long and all over the place. So my husband went for his MH assessment yesterday was very open and honest and felt good until they threw some number at him (which didn't work, keeps happening). Today I came home had a phone call said bye and he now thinks I'm talking to someone else. He got very angry and I walked back out to work. His stupid mother then gave him money knowing he is an alcoholic so he decides to buy god knows what booze and took 6-8 sleeping tablets. I contacted the police while at work then having a panic attack whilst on the phone. Eventually they found him and took him to hospital. Apparently he has kicked off doesn't want to wait, has rang mummy and she's gone running over, the police have sectioned him under their mental health act. But now he is being vile to me saying its easier so it doesn't hurt him. It's like he can't hear me saying I'm hear for you, the door is never closed, our boys need you. The best part about all of this is the hospital didn't want to keep him to help him, just to see when the tablets wore off. He has done wrong but he deserves the health care ( that he pays a hell of a lot into may I add). I am trying ro not let his words get to me I know he's hurting and trying ro push me away, and as much as I need a break I don't want to loose him forever.
Sorry I said I would be all over the place.
Just need to let it all out before I explode. Xx
Sorry I said I would be all over the place.
Just need to let it all out before I explode. Xx
N I read your post and felt the frustration in what you'd written. It must be so hard for you. I understand how much you love him and want him to be well for you and the children but sometimes in life you have to take a step back. You didn't create or cause this but still you (like a lot is us) want to support your OH. I think that in itself is more than enough.
Your OH is suffering mentally and emotionally but you are suffering too. Sometimes in our quest to support and be there for the other, we forget our hurt and pain and needs.
We are not superwomen so please don't think you could have done things differently and maybe this current situation with him may have been different. If not this then maybe something else would have pushed him to drink/take pills. You can't cover all eventualities. It's like spinning plates.
As for his mum (being a parent myself) you'd do anything to help when your child is suffering. She probably thought she was helping too. She has her own pain (if she knows of her son's situation) she is dealing with.
Stay strong. You're doing all you can.
Sending strength and peace x
Your OH is suffering mentally and emotionally but you are suffering too. Sometimes in our quest to support and be there for the other, we forget our hurt and pain and needs.
We are not superwomen so please don't think you could have done things differently and maybe this current situation with him may have been different. If not this then maybe something else would have pushed him to drink/take pills. You can't cover all eventualities. It's like spinning plates.
As for his mum (being a parent myself) you'd do anything to help when your child is suffering. She probably thought she was helping too. She has her own pain (if she knows of her son's situation) she is dealing with.
Stay strong. You're doing all you can.
Sending strength and peace x
Thank you for your reply. I have just had a call fro. The mental health assessment nurse, he's now about 20+ miles away due to no space locally. But they may be sending him home in a taxi depending on how he is. As I have assured them that I will not allow anything to happen and if it does I will call the police. He poses no threat to me or my boys mumma bear would come out before any of that rubbish started. As for his mother she may be hurting but she cannot just now turn up because she thinks he needs help. She couldn't remember his birthday so why bother now. I have told her if he ever asks for anything again she needs to call me. I have also told anyone involved I am NOK and they are not to involve her as she is enabling him. I'm sorry to sound so angry about her but she has done me very wrong today and it's been unnecessary stress.