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Devices have been with the police for 9 weeks now and today they came back to the house to take my partner in for question in relation to another offence. I feel like every bit of strength I’ve built up over the last two months has been sucked from me. I feel like I don’t know this man any more. He’s in custody right now. I don’t know what is going on but I do know that I’m terrified. I don’t know how many more lies I can take, or how much more hurt. I feel like my heart has been broken again.
Oh Jayne - just logged in and saw this. You poor thing - hang on in there. Do you have a really close friend to confide in? I phoned my best friend when my knock happened and she just sat on the phone with me. It doesn’t make it go away but it helps a bit. Just keep posting on here. Thinking of you x
Thanks, ladies. Right now I don’t feel like I can do it. I know I have to, but it feels impossible at the moment.
I’ve not spoken to a friend today, but I’ve been speaking with my partner’s ex, who has been brilliant. She was told more by the police, with her being the mother of his children, so she talked me through things and it turns out there’s a lot in his past that I didn’t know about either. I feel like he’s a stranger. I’d just started to find a “new normal” in and amongst this horror show, but I feel like it’s all been taken away again. I’m told, again, that it’s a conversation, not images, but I just feel so confused at the moment. I’m not sure I’ll be able to trust a word he says again.
I’ve not spoken to a friend today, but I’ve been speaking with my partner’s ex, who has been brilliant. She was told more by the police, with her being the mother of his children, so she talked me through things and it turns out there’s a lot in his past that I didn’t know about either. I feel like he’s a stranger. I’d just started to find a “new normal” in and amongst this horror show, but I feel like it’s all been taken away again. I’m told, again, that it’s a conversation, not images, but I just feel so confused at the moment. I’m not sure I’ll be able to trust a word he says again.
Hello Jayne, I'm new to the forum and just read your post. Remember that known of this is your fault. Think of yourself now
Jayne
simply sending you my love. Hope tomorrow is a better day. That’s the thing about any of this offending the lies upon lies and the denial when actually them accepting they need support makes all the difference. It’s impacted my very ability to trust. I know the people who stay with their partners have said that honesty is the foundation of getting better xxx
hope tomorrow is a better day and you get some answers. You didn’t deserve this none of us did xxx
simply sending you my love. Hope tomorrow is a better day. That’s the thing about any of this offending the lies upon lies and the denial when actually them accepting they need support makes all the difference. It’s impacted my very ability to trust. I know the people who stay with their partners have said that honesty is the foundation of getting better xxx
hope tomorrow is a better day and you get some answers. You didn’t deserve this none of us did xxx
Hi Jayne
You must be devastated if he has told lies. In order to stand by someone they have to be truthful. People cope better if they know the whole truth Prather than be drip fed about new things from a third party.
Our sons offence was a communication offence. We told him from day one he would have our support if he was honest and told us the whole truth. We are lucky in that he was honest which led to him having our full support. All you can do is think of what’s best for you from here on in. Not what’s best for other people. Sending wishes of things improving soon x
You must be devastated if he has told lies. In order to stand by someone they have to be truthful. People cope better if they know the whole truth Prather than be drip fed about new things from a third party.
Our sons offence was a communication offence. We told him from day one he would have our support if he was honest and told us the whole truth. We are lucky in that he was honest which led to him having our full support. All you can do is think of what’s best for you from here on in. Not what’s best for other people. Sending wishes of things improving soon x
Hi Jayne - hope today is not as dreadful for you and you managed to get some sleep last night x
Thanks so much for your kind words. I got a little bit of sleep last night and I just feel numb today. I'm back in work because I thought the distraction would help, but I'm struggling.
My partner was released last night and he explained the situation to me - still no charge, and he's confident that the situation which has come to light can be explained, but I feel so lost. Xx
My partner was released last night and he explained the situation to me - still no charge, and he's confident that the situation which has come to light can be explained, but I feel so lost. Xx
Jayne - my heart bleeds for you. It's so true that if you knew what you were up against, even if you hated it, you deal so much better rather than the uncertainty of not knowing if he'll be taken in again over something else.
Please try and get some self care, reneger your need to look after yourself throughout this awful situation.
Take care xx
Please try and get some self care, reneger your need to look after yourself throughout this awful situation.
Take care xx