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So we potentially have a date for sentencing, 10 Feb. OH has had meetings with his Solicitor, Barrister and Probation now. PPU have been, therapy is continuing and both he and I have done our letters to the Judge.
Probation are recommending a community order and Barrister etc are all saying the same, but OH is terrified he's going to prison still. Nothing more we can do really, we will find out on the day, if it actually goes ahead, as from being on here for sometime now, I know delays are commonplace.
OH won't let me go to court with him, and he's insistent on getting the train so that if he does get a custodial his car won't be left in a car park miles away. I don't know what I can do. I just keep thinking hope for the best, prepare for the worst, that I've read here so many times. But how do you prepare? If he does get custodial I think it will be the end of us...
Probation are recommending a community order and Barrister etc are all saying the same, but OH is terrified he's going to prison still. Nothing more we can do really, we will find out on the day, if it actually goes ahead, as from being on here for sometime now, I know delays are commonplace.
OH won't let me go to court with him, and he's insistent on getting the train so that if he does get a custodial his car won't be left in a car park miles away. I don't know what I can do. I just keep thinking hope for the best, prepare for the worst, that I've read here so many times. But how do you prepare? If he does get custodial I think it will be the end of us...
Is that what they are thinking he will get ? I'm new here I've split from my partner no idea if we will get back together after he's sentenced or not but it doesn't sound good from what he's told me as he admitted it's been going on about 5yrs he can't exactly say, but he's been honest about everything, I did ask the police officer when they popped round what she thinks he'll get and she'd said a suspended sentence but from looking on here I just don't know it seems so varied.
Cherry - unfortunately I don't think you can take anything the Police say as gospel as no-one knows other than the judge on the day of sentencing.
Even though everyone is telling us it's likely to be a Community Order, I've read on here lots of cases that were expected to get the same but in fact ended up with custodial.
Even though everyone is telling us it's likely to be a Community Order, I've read on here lots of cases that were expected to get the same but in fact ended up with custodial.
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I'm in exactly the same situation. My OH has been told by probation that she's going to recommend a community order. I'm so scared. My OH is being uncharacteristically sensible and making arrangements for custody. In the grand scheme of these crimes, my husbands numbers are very low, single figures, and he has done so much self improvement work. But all the press around probation services this weeks worries me.
Sentencing next Tuesday.
Sentencing next Tuesday.
Confused&worried - Will be thinking of you on Tue and hoping for a positive outcome. Everyone is telling us to expect Community Order, but I just feel like after the last year or so since the knock, I've kept thinking that things can't get any worse, but then I've been proved wrong. So I'm hoping with everything in me that it is a community order and no-one else needs to find out, but my gut is saying he won't be coming home...