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Just checking in on everyone and wishing you all well.
I’m moving on with my new life. Still living alone, but living life and getting involved in the community again. I’ve not come up against any nastiness which I hope will encourage those that, like me, were subjected to a vigilante Facebook livestream. I did not move away or change my name, despite feeling that was what I needed to do when in my fight or flight mode. However ex moved out straight away and I came off all social media. So I think that made it all easier for those around me to support me. It was very hard coming to terms with the loss of my husband and my life as I knew it, and the fear of repercussions, but with supportive family and friends and therapy, I came through it, the experience changed me for sure, but I hope, for the better.
Ex has served prison sentence and is on license building a new life, I have built my own changed life, much is the same as before, but I do have to still live with the after effects. I think I always will.
There has been a major event in my ex’s family, this has caused ripples that hit me, but I am strong enough now to not let them affect me too much. I put myself first now, and recognise what I need to do to protect myself and avoid toxic people and behaviours.
I hope this post gives some hope
I’m moving on with my new life. Still living alone, but living life and getting involved in the community again. I’ve not come up against any nastiness which I hope will encourage those that, like me, were subjected to a vigilante Facebook livestream. I did not move away or change my name, despite feeling that was what I needed to do when in my fight or flight mode. However ex moved out straight away and I came off all social media. So I think that made it all easier for those around me to support me. It was very hard coming to terms with the loss of my husband and my life as I knew it, and the fear of repercussions, but with supportive family and friends and therapy, I came through it, the experience changed me for sure, but I hope, for the better.
Ex has served prison sentence and is on license building a new life, I have built my own changed life, much is the same as before, but I do have to still live with the after effects. I think I always will.
There has been a major event in my ex’s family, this has caused ripples that hit me, but I am strong enough now to not let them affect me too much. I put myself first now, and recognise what I need to do to protect myself and avoid toxic people and behaviours.
I hope this post gives some hope
Thank you for sharing this. It's so good to hear from people who haven't moved or changed names and have found things manageable. I am so sorry that you have had to go through this
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Tabs
It is always lovely to get an update on how you are and I am pleased to read you are doing ok and have a great support network around you xx
It is always lovely to get an update on how you are and I am pleased to read you are doing ok and have a great support network around you xx
Good to hear from someone who has been through all this and is now at the other side having survived. On days where I feel like I can't carry on fighting this, I try to remind myself there are lots of us who are dealing with the same sort of fight.
Tabs thank you so much for sharing. Your post gave me hope that life can go on so thank you again for sharing. X
Lovley to hear from you Tabs so pleased you have been able to gradually move on positively with your life xx
Thanks for you post, Tabs. It's great to hear from someone who has left their partner and successfully moving on in life. If have left my partner but struggling to cope with life without him. My whole future has changed . Sometimes I feel confident and strong about being alone and at other times I'm a wreck!!
I just get fed up about thinking about our family situation day in day out - just wonder if my head will ever be free of this mess.
Reading threads like yours gives me hope xxxx
Reading threads like yours gives me hope xxxx
Thank you all. I can definitely say that I have been through all the awful emotions possible; fear, shame, anxiety, anger, despair, sadness, grief, helpless, emptiness etc but I am finally in a position where this doesn't take over my whole being, and I have found peace in my new life, and you will too. I feel so much for you all, and will always try, where I can, to make a difference to those that inevitably follow, however futile my attempts are! I will never forget this experience, it's something that I don't think anyone can totally forget.
One day, the world will start to really see us, and recognise that we too are victims.
Keep strong! You will get through this xxx
One day, the world will start to really see us, and recognise that we too are victims.
Keep strong! You will get through this xxx