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Cher

Member since
March 2019

103 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 7:58amReport post

Went to court yesterday, and I was going to be stoney faced and strong, well that didn't happen, I had a full on panic attack. I feel so stupid now! Anyway, they had to adjourn because of the seriousness of it, 3 category a, 4 b and 10 c, and because he didn't have legal representation, which he can't afford so he won't have any for the next court date in 3 weeks. They have said to expect a custodial sentence. Also my worse fear! A journalist was there, so will be in the paper. Also they brouthere! Also they talked about my jobs in court WHY!! All this has nothing to do with me! So scared now and I've got to go through it all again in 3 weeks. I'm not coping very well at all.

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 8:18amReport post

Oh Cher

That's the worst thing you wanted to hear, it seems very harsh for him to get a custodial sentence for those few images, I'm not making light of the number because 1 is to many, my husband had 100's of cat A plus had deleted many more, he got custodial but a lot of his was down to his response which was to deny everything and was very arrogant.

The media is something we all dread, are you at the same address?

Please try and look after yourself, it's going to be a horrible few weeks for you but you will get through it

Much love xx

Cher

Member since
March 2019

103 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 9:18amReport post

Hi Tracey,

Thanks for the response, I'm not at the same address as him but the same address he was arrested at, so I'm worried they will put my address in the paper too. I don't know what will happen at the next court case because he says he can't afford a solicitor do he'll be there again with no legal representation. Also they read out in his statement that he was having a online relationship with a 19 girl and they wou masterbate together, that was hard to hear!

Jayne G

Member since
March 2019

125 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 9:32amReport post

Cher, I'm so sorry you had to face what you did yesterday. I think any one of us would have panicked in the situation - I don't even know if I'll have the strength to go to court.

It was horrible, but you got through yesterday. You'll get through today. And tomorrow. Just keep going. This isn't about you, but unfortunately we all become some sort of collateral damage.

Keep going - you're stronger than you realise. Sending you lots of love. Xx

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 3:40pmReport post

Oh Cher

That's awful, these men don't understand what they are putting others through.

It's so hard to hear and comprehend why they did it.

My husband want in touch with anyone, his was all on line and that was bad enough, it must be worse if they are in contact with someone.

Please be strong xx

Rainbow

Member since
January 2019

282 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 4:55pmReport post

Hi cher

We are all thinking of you. I just dont think professionals know how to handle these situations. They just think guilty and stuff other people's feelings. They make innocent people feel like victims yet dont offer support. Personally I wouldn't have thought that amount of images would be custodial especially as when you read about celebrities that get let off with a caution. The courts dont sentence consistently in my opinion



I hope you are managing to get through this. It's tough I know and something we never imagined we would go through. I envy people who are living a normal life x

Bethlou23

Member since
December 2018

383 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 5:38pmReport post

Cher

sending you love.i am still at the address my husband got arrested at to . I can’t afford to sell up until more equity in our property. I hope if they release the address is it the one the court papers go?

just attending court is extremely brave. I don’t know if I can face that yet.

The number of images does sound small in relation to others.

it makes no sense to me.

all the best, do you have a plan for the coming weekend to de stress.

xxx

Cher

Member since
March 2019

103 posts

Posted Fri May 17, 2019 6:56pmReport post

Thanks ladies for your replies.

Much love to you all. Xx