It's all over. Everything.
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Background :arrested match 2021. Nov 2021 3 charges of sexual communication with a child. Limbo land 2 suicide attempts (him not me). Nov 2022 evidence fiannly arrives with a fight. 2 court dates 3rd one today. Couldn't have asked for a better outcome. 3 years probation. 1 year for every charge. Not even sure about soph or sor yet, but will find out later. We'll over the weekend we decided to go our separate ways regardless of outcome. I need him to fight for me and to get the trust back and he doesn't have any fight left in him. My heart is broken into a million pieces but it's the right thing to do. We are severing communicon for a while whist we both heal. I miss him so much it physically hurts but now the court bit is over I've the heart break to get over. I'll still be on the forum to hopefully help. Others. Thank you to every single one of you. I couldn't have gotten through the last 2 years without you. Thank god I googled for help. I'm in Northern Ireland and no one even knows about lff. Or this form so I'm. Gonna make sure it's put out there. Keep fighting beautiful tribe.
Oh forgot to add, I made a mums net so I can pm. People and it was a liver saver. My user name is SIns75 if anyone wants to add me for a chat or advice.
Good luck with the future.
You are such a brave lady to do what you know is right even though it hurts. X
You are such a brave lady to do what you know is right even though it hurts. X
Morning Newlady x
I am pleased the judge was fair and a better outcome for your OH x
I am so sorry to read the news that you are going to separate, no matter how painful this will be you have been a tower of strength to him
Only you can know what is the right thing to do no matter how hard the decision is you now have to focus on you , this journey is horrendous but we are all survivors
In time the pain will ease and the sun will appear again in your life
Sending strength and hugs to you xx
I am pleased the judge was fair and a better outcome for your OH x
I am so sorry to read the news that you are going to separate, no matter how painful this will be you have been a tower of strength to him
Only you can know what is the right thing to do no matter how hard the decision is you now have to focus on you , this journey is horrendous but we are all survivors
In time the pain will ease and the sun will appear again in your life
Sending strength and hugs to you xx
Thank you girls, you've been my pillar of strength. It's all very surreal and if I'm honest, I'm hoping he will ring and say 'he'll yeah I'll fight for you' but it's it gonna ha. I chose to help him go through this journey and I don't regret it because I don't think he would have survived it without me. We both need to straighten our heads out and start a new normal seperatley. We can't say we never trued because we have it our all, had 5 wonderful happy years b4 this and some good times in between this journey I'll never forgot. Onwards and upwards. Sorry for going on I'll. Probably be ranting on this all day lol
Newlady I am so pleased about your outcome I have been thinking of you so much today.
You have been so brave and supportive of your other half and, although it will be very painful, you must do what is best for you now.
Please take care of yourself and allow yourself time to heal .
Sending so much love and huge virtual hugs xxx
You have been so brave and supportive of your other half and, although it will be very painful, you must do what is best for you now.
Please take care of yourself and allow yourself time to heal .
Sending so much love and huge virtual hugs xxx
Thank you seaside for all your support the last few weeks. We both did it! We got past the last stage and hope you and your son all the best for the future
Newlady,
I'm glad it's over and you can start focussing on yourself and rebuilding. You've done amazing and should be so proud of yourself.
Big hugs xx
I'm glad it's over and you can start focussing on yourself and rebuilding. You've done amazing and should be so proud of yourself.
Big hugs xx
Hi Newlady,
What a rollercoaster of a day emotionally. I wish you every success and happiness wherever life takes you now. Please continue to use the forum if you need it. Whatever your relationship status we're all here for you when you need us. All the best xxx
What a rollercoaster of a day emotionally. I wish you every success and happiness wherever life takes you now. Please continue to use the forum if you need it. Whatever your relationship status we're all here for you when you need us. All the best xxx
Oh NewLady! Wow. Such a mixed bag of news. I hope things settle for you soon.
how did the whole name change/media stuff go?
thank you for sharing your outcome and all your thoughts. You have been a great help to me these last few months
x
how did the whole name change/media stuff go?
thank you for sharing your outcome and all your thoughts. You have been a great help to me these last few months
x
I will continue to use form and hopefully help others in this mess. Yes name was changed, no media as to protect me and the kids. Barrister asked judge she agreed. She was fair. We were lucky.
Thank you for responding. Hope you've got some support for tonight xx
No just me by myself, but if I'm. Honest it's better that way, oh and you guys x
So pleased for you. It's a tough choice but you've been through the worst now and have come out stronger. Wish you all the best. X
Hi Newlady,
Sending love.
I know this is a lone journey in terms of, we are all in the same storm but in a different boat...
But, do you feel like you have closure now? Obviously it will all stay with you as this is so big but I guess my question is, do you feel like you can move forward now and get on with your life?
I'm hoping when or if it reaches post court... I can continue with my life. I do things daily but it's constantly there in my head. I'm kind of hoping to get closure after sentencing. If that makes sense? I'm hoping it works that way and I won't feel like this forever. As I've said, it's 9 months past the knock for me. I'm receiving therapy which is helping but I don't feel like I can sepeste myself from this if that makes sense at this stage? Sorry to bombard your post xx
Sending love.
I know this is a lone journey in terms of, we are all in the same storm but in a different boat...
But, do you feel like you have closure now? Obviously it will all stay with you as this is so big but I guess my question is, do you feel like you can move forward now and get on with your life?
I'm hoping when or if it reaches post court... I can continue with my life. I do things daily but it's constantly there in my head. I'm kind of hoping to get closure after sentencing. If that makes sense? I'm hoping it works that way and I won't feel like this forever. As I've said, it's 9 months past the knock for me. I'm receiving therapy which is helping but I don't feel like I can sepeste myself from this if that makes sense at this stage? Sorry to bombard your post xx
Wish you all the best and thank you very much for all your help xxx
Denzel it's all a bit surreal right now but I do feel like a huge weight is off. Its been a long 2 years, I'll post in a few days and let you know how I'm getting on, I'm just so heartbroken we aren't together anymore, he's been such a huge part of my life for so long so that's kinda taking over my brain if that makes sense. And polish bird no need to thank you, we are all here to support each otherx
Be kind and take good care of yourself Newlady xx
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Thank you so so much xx
Hi NewLady,
I too am in Northern Ireland and my situation is very similar to yours. I too decided to leave my partner. The knock was over 3 years ago and I am slowly rebuilding my life.
Wishing you great strength to move on. If you ever want to chat for support, please get in touch X
I too am in Northern Ireland and my situation is very similar to yours. I too decided to leave my partner. The knock was over 3 years ago and I am slowly rebuilding my life.
Wishing you great strength to move on. If you ever want to chat for support, please get in touch X
Thank you so much you can add me on mum's net my user name is Sins75. Would be lovely to have a chat. Yeah I thu k I'm through the worse of the heart break I'm starting to move on. Xx